TheStig5150

Valentine's Day dread.

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I may be going out on a limb here.....do any of the single waiters on here get slightly bummed out on Valentine's Day?? I always feel slightly depressed around this time of year.

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No, not really. At least not more than any other day.

I might be a bit more bummed out because Valentine's day is the birthday of an old guy friend I had and haven't seen since I was a kid. I had a crush on him I think, and it's the only real crush I've really had. I tried to friend him on face book back in late 2014, but eventually he removed it. I don't know on what grounds through. And that's really the only reason I made a facebook account. :P 

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It can be tough sometimes seeing other couples and feeling that jealousy and envy that they have something I don't. I always try to turn to God or pray when I feel that temptation to envy and that can be helpful for me. But I do understand that dread and sadness I know it can be tough. It always helps though to have someone to talk to 

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4 minutes ago, samaye said:

#notmyholiday 

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Hahaha! This made me LOL! Now everyone is looking at me like i'm crazy. :superwaiter:

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2 hours ago, TheStig5150 said:

Really???

you wouldn't want someone to bring you flowers?? 

 

No, not really. :P

 

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I will be covering the jewelry department at the  store I work at on Valentine's day helping people find last minute gifts right next to all the Valentine's cards. So yeah I get a little bummed

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I wouldn't say I get bummed out. I never really got into Valentine's Day. Annoyed at the commercialisation? Yes.... 

My brother has taken it upon himself to tease me with these: 

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Sandra got her cv axles, brake fluid, and transmission fluid replaced. She better be happy! I hear she's leaking joy. Or are those tears.....

 

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17 hours ago, TheStig5150 said:

I may be going out on a limb here.....do any of the single waiters on here get slightly bummed out on Valentine's Day?? I always feel slightly depressed around this time of year.

Hmmm.... I understand you...But I think it's not the right thing to do.

Let me explain myself :)

Firs of all, the answer to your question is : no. I don' t get slightly depressed around Valentine's day.

Perhaps, a long time ago, I had a little pinching in my heart around this time of year. But sincerely, not at all anymore.

Why is that?

Because I've realised some things and I came to some valid conclusions.

I believe that it's a very beautiful thing indeed to be in a romantic harmonious  relationship with someone who cares for you and you care for this person back.

That's awesome. And that's normal, that we, as single waiters we hope to experiment this at some point in our lives.

But in the meantime, while we have our singleness, we should enjoy it and make the best of it. I mean, there are so many beautiful things that we can do when we are single that it's not possible once married with children.

I think that's an awesome thing to learn to date yourself whille single :D:lol::P

The article below gives some details about this : 

http://www.xojane.com/newagey/the-super-awesome-guide-to-dating-yourself

I believe that is important to be fully happy with yourself before entering a relationship. Otherwise,, the risk is that you might think that happiness, comes from someone else, other than yourself. That's a dangerous way of thinking.

Another thing is that :

I don't know if you're christian... I am christian, and my whole life turns around God. And what God has taught me is that it's important to enhance the beauty of the lives of other people. When I become a blessing for others, I have a feeling of achievement. I am filled with the joy and love of God. When we are single, we have the opportunity to be a blessings for others : to help them to solve problems that we have solutions for...and so on... When we give, we receive. And living like that is a good training for marriage. When you are used to give to people freely, in marriage it will be a second nature and a blessing for both you and your spouse.

And while waiting for your special someone, you can simply try to rejoyce sincerely  for other couples you see. They represent what you want to experience one day...So...that's what I do... And I'm truly totally happy like that. With the help of God.

So that was my thought ^^

Stay blessed :)

 

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Two years ago, I found myself particularly sad and lonely on Valentine's Day. I had recently started getting the hang of divination (aka, fortune telling), so I decided to do some readings for people.

Let me be the first to say that people were sad. They were very very sad. I could feel their immense sadness and crushing loneliness from where I was sitting. However, I could also feel a glimmer of hope and could almost hear a voice in their heads say “it's going to be okay” after I was done.

I'm not going to lie and say that everything was magically okay because I decided to do something nice for others; I still went to bed just as sad and lonely as I had gotten out of it. Still, there was a sense of accomplishment and positivity in doing something good for others, and I eventually made some friends from what I did on that day.

Whatever your version of service to others is, give it a shot. Maybe you like volunteering or some kind of charity work. Maybe you enjoy random acts of kindness. Whatever the case is, give it a shot. Even if it doesn't do anything for you, you'll have a better chance of getting something good out of service than out of watching sad movies while eating iced cream by yourself at home.

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