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Why Did He Act So Differently from Before?

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Being the VP of my area's Toastmasters Club (public speaking club), I became J's mentor. After about a year and a half of working closely and spending time together with J, we became good friends. J is a shy and somewhat introverted gentleman but can open up more when he is with close friends. He generally has a serious face and seems very calm and quiet in front of other people.

 

J is one month older than me. A few months ago, J started behaving very differently from before, especially outside of club meetings. I saw a completely different side of J when we went for a dinner. To my biggest surprise, he started teasing me (in a friendly way), throwing hilarious jokes, and calling me a "kid" or "kiddo". Sometimes he would call me "little girl" or "little Liz (my name)" when we were alone. Now, even though I am his mentor in public speaking, I feel that he is helping me more in many other areas.

 

In addition, in various ways (explicit or subtle), J suggested that he is mature and mentioned "I am older than you" quite a few times. Why would he do this and what did he expect me to say? Why did his behaviour change so much? I'm also curious about why he would call me a kid. I'd like to hear what you guys think. Thanks a lot in advance.

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I think it's because he feels more comfortable around you to really be himself. I'm shy as well but when I'm around people I'm comfortable with like close friends and family, I'm not as quiet or shy.

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I think it's because he feels more comfortable around you to really be himself. I'm shy as well but when I'm around people I'm comfortable with like close friends and family, I'm not as quiet or shy.

 

Thanks, Tev. I guess everyone has two sides. Another question for you: Under what circumstances, would you try to act mature and "older" in front of a girl? When would a guy call a girl of same age "kid" or "little girl"? I hope he is not seeing me as a childish person.

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Now I'm not sure but I think he is just teasing you about being just a month older than you. Quite frankly I think he's beginning to like you. He feels more comfortable around you and he's playfully teasing you.... I would say he likes you :)

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Probably the more comfortable thing kid as a joke I mean I call my manger at work kid, just as a joke.

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