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What Qualities Would You Want in a Wife?

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So I think for every question that is aimed at one gender, we should counter it with the opposite! :) Since markb4 asked women about what kind of wives we want to be; I want to ask him and the rest of you guys out there: What qualities are you hoping for in a wife?

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Ok, I guess I'll answer this first, seeing as I inspired this thread in a way, lol :lol: .

Umm..okay, let's see, what qualities would I want in a wife?

Well,

1) First, religiously, I'd like her to be a practicing woman of my faith, Islam.

2) Beauty/Sexiness (which I guess is on everybody's list), however I see this requirement a bit unnecessary to mention, because everybody's view on beauty and sexiness is different. What one person finds as beautiful, another might not find. And whenever you get married, I think, your spouse automatically becomes beautiful and sexy in your eyes. I don't think there are any spouses who say, "Oh yes, I love my spouse very much but he/she is ugly/unattractive", lol.

3) Once we get children, I would love her to be a stay-at-home mom. I believe mothers have this special bond and parenting style with their children that all children should experience. But, if she wants to work, that's fine by me as well. Especially now in this economy, it's like impossible to survive by only one salary. But, the decision is hers.

4) Education: Umm, I don't really care about this one too much. If she's a PHD or high school dropout, it doesn't matter to me, lol.

5) Family: I know this doesn't count as a wife's quality, but I'm a firm believer in that when you get married, you don't just marry two people, but two families come together. So my family is now her family and her family is now my family. So, I'd want her family to like and accept me and my family to like and accept her.

6) Similar Interests: Of course, we can never be 100% similar, and the differences are actually the spice in the marriage which liven things up. But, I'd love to have a few things similar w/her that we can enjoy together, eg. animated films ;) .

7) Personal Qualities: respect for elders, kindness to people, and all those other good personal qualities that are too many to mention.

Umm, that's about all I can say for now. Of course, this list applies for me too. I mean I can't expect my wife to be kind to people if I myself am not kind to people. That would just be hypocritical.

Phew! That was a long post, lol. Forgive me if I don't clarify myself too well.

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i like the Question (seeing as it was my idea after reading marks thread :P ) but technically the counter of his Question would be "what kind of husband will you be?"--just saying :)

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i like the Question (seeing as it was my idea after reading marks thread :P ) but technically the counter of his Question would be "what kind of husband will you be?"--just saying :)

Totally agree, Andi. Nice to see syntactically correct queries ;) .

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<Well Mark thanks a bunch for making this easier for me! Great points btw…>

Ummmmm… well when it comes to my soul mate, I completely agree with Mark except on the following points:

1. RELIGION – To me it is not even a factor worthy of giving a single thought! I am no way going to let a great girl go because of her religion! I, like all others, respect every religion & do believe that each one is as pure as the other… hence I don’t have any problems with interfaith marriages.

2. EDUCATION – Well if I am truly in love then, I guess, I would make an exception for this factor too but as of now, I really don’t think I will be able to connect at a deeper level with someone who is a “high school dropout†by CHOICE. Now with that being said I want to clarify; it certainly does not mean that I won’t see someone who does not have a Ph.D! It is just that I would prefer someone who has finished or would be finishing college at least as, I believe, education refines mindset, develops the individual at all levels & also goes on to show that the individual is mature enough to pick the correct priorities in life. So I think this maturity may very well be the foundation of a successful & everlasting relationship!

3. FAMILY – Well I don’t want to debate this issue but what I know is if I really like someone, definitely at first I will try to convince my family in every way possible & still if it does not work… I will go ahead with her without them. Ahhhhh… whatever I really don’t need to worry about this cuz around 22 years back a young Sergeant from the Indian Air Force fell in love with a beautiful young girl… :) their families were against the marriage as the girl belonged to the so called “highest caste†of the “social hierarchy†& he was from a lower one! :( They continued their relation in spite of that & got married… a year later they had a son named… “Aditya†:D;) & guess what… eventually both the families realized their fault too & came together! So I guess, in a way, defiance too can sometimes nurture relations! :)

4. SIMILAR INTERESTS – In my case if she enjoys snow, seclusion & hilly regions I will consider myself really fortunate!

NOTE: BIG TURN ONs – Glasses & a cute smile… like the one who bumped Seth’s car in Love Tap! :) That’s crazy huh? :lol::P Well doesn't really matter if u folks feel so… but that’s me! :)

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<Well Mark thanks a bunch for making this easier for me! Great points btw…>

Ummmmm… well when it comes to my soul mate, I completely agree with Mark except on the following points:

1. RELIGION – To me it is not even a factor worthy of giving a single thought! I am no way going to let a great girl go because of her religion! I, like all others, respect every religion & do believe that each one is as pure as the other… hence I don’t have any problems with interfaith marriages.

2. EDUCATION – Well if I am truly in love then, I guess, I would make an exception for this factor too but as of now, I really don’t think I will be able to connect at a deeper level with someone who is a “high school dropout†by CHOICE. Now with that being said I want to clarify; it certainly does not mean that I won’t see someone who does not have a Ph.D! It is just that I would prefer someone who has finished or would be finishing college at least as, I believe, education refines mindset, develops the individual at all levels & also goes on to show that the individual is mature enough to pick the correct priorities in life. So I think this maturity may very well be the foundation of a successful & everlasting relationship!

3. FAMILY – Well I don’t want to debate this issue but what I know is if I really like someone, definitely at first I will try to convince my family in every way possible & still if it does not work… I will go ahead with her without them. Ahhhhh… whatever I really don’t need to worry about this cuz around 22 years back a young Sergeant from the Indian Air Force fell in love with a beautiful young girl… :) their families were against the marriage as the girl belonged to the so called “highest caste†of the “social hierarchy†& he was from a lower one! :( They continued their relation in spite of that & got married… a year later they had a son named… “Aditya†:D;) & guess what… eventually both the families realized their fault too & came together! So I guess, in a way, defiance too can sometimes nurture relations! :)

4. SIMILAR INTERESTS – In my case if she enjoys snow, seclusion & hilly regions I will consider myself really fortunate!

NOTE: BIG TURN ONs – Glasses & a cute smile… like the one who bumped Seth’s car in Love Tap! :) That’s crazy huh? :lol::P Well doesn't really matter if u folks feel so… but that’s me! :)

Cool and valid points, Aditya :) ! I'm glad I could help w/my points, well w/whatever points we agree on , lol!

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I would like my wife to be intelligent, feisty and opinionated so we can have intresting convosations, discussions and debates.

I would also like her to be kind caring loving and i would love it if she was romantic.

Deal breakers for me would be if she watches porn, cheats, doesn't like Children and if she agrees with abortion.

-Aaron

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-Independent

-Very self-confident

-Highly intelligent

-Stands up for her beliefs no matter what and does not settle no matter what

-Sincere

-Funny

-Generous

-Playful

-Compassionate

(The last five I'm largely missing, so they'd serve as to complement my personality, at least I think).

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It's interesting to see that independent is on some lists, bc that quality for me I feel has backfired in terms if attracting guys.

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It's interesting to see that independent is on some lists, bc that quality for me I feel has backfired in terms if attracting guys.

Huh? What kind of loser wouldn't want an independent, confident human being as a spouse?

Please stay away from those kind of 'men;' they're possessive and insecure. All of them.

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Well let's see qualities in a wife. Here is my list (and in no particular order):

1) Funny

2) Compassionate

3) Patience

4) Independent

5) Intelligent, Smart

6) Good Conversationalist (able to talk about not only materialist/tangible things (e.g., bills, how was your day etc..), but also things of the mind and the heart (e.g., religion, God, free will etc..)) Does not have to been a deep thinker, but open to some sort of deep thought.

7) Understanding

8) Doesn't have a big ego (thinks about helping others, does not always put herself first)

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