Sophie

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  1. No, never. My friends don't care. At least the ones who truly know me would probably die of shock if I kissed a guy outside of a serious relationship. My best friend just told me about five hours ago: "I never say never but you will never casually date." lol. That's true. And while I think all but one of my friends (she is also celibate and I'm 99% sure aromantic asexual) find my lifestyle choice to be a bit perplexing, they can't imagine me any other way.


  2. Just remember, PURITY CANNOT BE STOLEN. It can be given away or given up on but it can't be taken. The whole point of purity is that you are "pure" (don't really like that word) when you choose to keep your virginity until marriage and/or the person you love (views differ on this.) But no one can take away your purity without your concent. If you haven't done anything willingly, you haven't given up your purity. I think if a girl who is a virgin is raped, she is still raped, because rape is not sex and only sex can take away virginity (not rape, sex toys, etc.) Just my opinion. So your boyfriend may have groped you and made you feel "impure" but that doesn't make you "impure."

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  3. I always thought it was really random that a forum was made for those 25+ but then I was watching an episode of New Girl and the main character, CeCe, was a 22 year old virgin and wanted to lose her virginity as soon as possible because "in 3 years I'll be 25!" And there was this article on Jezebel about being a 25 year old virgin. Is there something about virginity + being 25? Or is that all a coincidence?


  4. Because purity is still seen as beautiful and desirable in a woman. Purity in a man? That's just a strange concept. Virginity in a woman is seen as a sign as purity - she values relationships and love, she is most likely to be loyal. No man has gotten to her yet. But girls don't care about virginity in a guy because we're not taught to and because society places 0 value on it (unfortunately.) Men are more likely to want a virginal partner than women do, and women are more likely to want a financially successful partner than a man does.

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  5. Well first of all, they're atheists, so they don't believe in hell. Therefore they don't ACTUALLY think hell will be awesome cuz they don't believe in it. I'm an atheist too and like most atheists, I get frustrated with religion sometimes. I've never said stuff like that before but most likely they did so because they believe religion is all made up so "hey, let's make up stuff too: hell is an awesome place, we'll rule it, etc." They don't genuinely believe that at all. Atheists (probably especially those in religious countries,) can feel incredibly suffocated by religion. It's easy to become bitter about it and we can end up saying offensive things out of frustration that are meant to be a joke. But hey, we get told we need "saving" and are "going to Hell" and get questions like "if you're an atheist, how come you're such a good person?" So yeah...hurtful stuff works both ways here.

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  6. When someone is in a relationship, I don't think it's appropriate to tell them you have feelings for them. It's akin to trying to influence them to break up with their partner while they are in a relationship with them. It may be a subtle influence, but you can't discount the influence whether intentional or unintentional. I find it to be a clearly unethical thing to do.

     

    This would be my response too.


  7. Aside from Community, I haven't gotten into any new TV shows lately. Can anyone recommend some to me? I love crime shows and comedies. My favourites are Castle, Bones, Friends, and Frasier. I also love Community and Modern Family. I don't like soap operas or sci-fi or shows solely revolving around romance (except Sex and the City.) Thank you! 


  8. Even before I even toyed with the idea of WTM, I never understood why people thought religious people were dumb and "repressed" for choosing celibacy. To me, that was one of the few things religions got right! lol. Sometimes I'd think, "I wish I was religious so I'd have an excuse not to sleep around." That was back before I realized being an atheist did not equal having to have pre-marital sex.

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  9. If you WTM and marry a virgin, I don't see how two virgins can be sexually incompatible! Doesn't sexual incompatibality arise when one partner likes things that the other doesn't and hates things that the other loves to do? I mean if one partner enjoys BDSM and the other partner is mostly vanilla, then yeah, it could be pretty problematic. But if you're both virgins, you have 0 sexual experience, so you learn what you love only through one person - your spouse. Plus, you should talk about sex before you marry. If your partner isn't a virgin, you shouldn't be too embarrassed to ask questions about their sexual past. If you get the feeling that you are not interested in the stuff that they do (like anal sex, or sex in public,) then you can break off the relationship. Communication is key.

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  10. I don't care. Before marriage, after marriage, I don't see how it matters as long as you and your partner are in a committed relationship and are living together (which I assume you would be if you make the conscious decision to have children.)

     

    As for accidental pregnancies, well that's a whole different matter really. Of course it would be better if accidental pregnancies never happened, but I don't see that slowing down any time soon. It's an unfortunate and complicated situation, especially if you're not in a relationship or your relationship isn't serious. I don't see anything morally wrong with it, but it is a very hard situation to be in for the parents and sometimes it can have a negative affect on the child (but hey, married parents can mess up their child too.)

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