Sophie

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  1. What is your career?

    I'm only 19 - way too young for a career! But for those who do have one, what is it? Do you enjoy it? Why did you choose it?
  2. Aw man, I was going to say that!
  3. Any tips for travelling?

    Thanks everyone! I've been in Germany for 2 nights now. Some stuff has been pretty stressful, but so far so good.
  4. On the 29th I am leaving for Germany where I will stay in Berlin for 4 weeks with a host family and then 1 week in Switzerland. This is my very first time travelling alone, so I'm freaking out quite a bit. Does anyone have any advice?
  5. Rejection question

    It depends on the situation. Maybe he was recovering from a break-up or just wasn't in the right place to date. There are many factors to take into consideration. But I would still be a little hesitant, I think.
  6. Who here aspires to marry a wealthy man?

    I don't know if you're replying to my message because you posted right below it BUT NEVER SPECIFIED WHO YOU WERE TALKING TO. If you are not replying to me...well it doesn't matter, either way your comment was DISGUSTING. Who the hell do you think you are? Calling someone greedy, shallow, a hypocrite? What right do you have to insult someone like that? Honestly I have never, ever liked you, but it's been a while since you made an offensive comment so I forgot why. Well now I remember. You're incredibly judgmental and rude. And as for your comment about modern feminism, this is not the first time you seem to have issues with women. Sorry to break it to you, but as luxorcairo proved (I think you were replying to her?) women are now allowed to have opinions (*gasp*), say what they want, have hopes and ambitions, have standards...do you want me to go on? There was seriously no excuse for reacting so harshly to her reply.
  7. Who here aspires to marry a wealthy man?

    It depends on how you define "wealthy." I do not aspire to marry a millionaire (so I guess that implies no billionaires either.) But of course I aspire to marry a man who is very financially stable and can comfortably afford to support his family, especially since I do not want to work full-time when I become a mother. But he doesn't have to be super rich or anything. I'd say my mom is middle-middle class and my dad is upper-middle class (he had pretty wealthy parents, so it's mainly inheritance.) With that I had a very comfortable life - private school for 12 years, university and rent and living fees all paid for, etc. We did have to sacrifice some things though: this summer will be my first time leaving North America since I was 5 and we lived in Australia and New Zealand for several months for my dad's job or PhD or something. My parents haven't left North America since then either because it's just too expensive. But that's okay, I think. I want to marry a very financially stable guy way more for the sake of our children than for myself. I don't want them to go to public school, or have to suffer through student loans. But I'm not shallow. Of course marrying a wealthy-ish man would be great, but it's not a quality that he must have, like loyalty, kindness, empathy, etc. I can't control who I fall in love with. But I won't lie: I would never marry a guy who is financially unstable. If I wasn't WTM, I would date guys like that, but I can't afford to date around and "have fun."
  8. How old are you?

    Turned 20 on May 17th! Yep, feeling old.
  9. Not comfortable. That's the major downside to having autism. I still don't know if I even can have sex. Or if I can, am I able to enjoy it? I've never had a boyfriend before so I think I'll have a much better understanding of how I feel about physical stuff in romantic relationships after I start to date. In the meantime, hugs that go beyond 2 seconds feel suffocating and I don't like standing too close to people. ESPECIALLY when we're making eye contact. Ugh. I can't help it though, cuz like I said earlier, I have autism.
  10. Describe your social life

    Almost non-existent. I have autism, so that makes it incredibly hard for me to socialize. It's like people can sense something is off about me, even when I am acting close to normal. I had around 7 close friends in my early childhood but by age 13, the number dwindled. Since I was a pre-teen, I have only made one great friend in high school, one great friend in university, one possibly close friend at university (we'll see,) and maybe a non-close friend in university (I'll have to see about that too.) Socializing is just very difficult and painful for me. But I have 3 very close friends whom I consider my best friends, and my close friend in Montreal is coming to visit me in my home city in Vancouver in July. So it looks like I definitely have 4 friends. And I have friendly acquaintances as well. Lots of those. But I wouldn't call them friends.
  11. What Matters Most?

    I know, I voted. It's so hard to choose when you value so many things.
  12. What Matters Most?

    Most Important: all of them but religion and spirituality, political views, and sexual history (unless he was a sex addict, which is unlikely.) The least important is sexual history, religion and spirituality, and political views. Loyalty/Dependability is the character trait I picked.
  13. What Matters Most?

    Probably, but if this were on Ask The Girls forum about guys, I would vote that sexual history doesn't matter.
  14. It bugs the hell out of me that women are considered sex objects. We use to be objects for child birth, and now sex. Honestly, I wish it stuck at child birth. I think we'd be respected a LOT more if we were viewed as objects for having babies instead of putting out. There are so many creeps on the internet. I've also dealt with totally disgusting guys. Some were just looking for a good time, others probably meant harm. It is so gross and hurtful, but you've got to move on. Unfortunately you can't avoid people - guys or girls - that are going to make you feel like a victim. Just stay strong and never forget your self-worth. cuz the moment you do, you've lost.
  15. If you could freeze one moment in time...

    Hm....that's a hard one. I don't feel like I have any memories where I was so completely happy. I mean, I was bullied in pre-school, so it's not like my early childhood was any better than my teen years. Maybe I'd freeze myself in New Zealand at age 4 or 5 (I don't remember.) I had a really good friend there and I don't think I was a victim of bullying in the pre-school there, I think that was in Australia. So yeah, maybe New Zealand. But I really don't have any "I wish it could be like this forever" moments. If not New Zealand, then my school trip to Manhattan or the Bahamas cruise with my mom.
  16. What is your biggest regret in life?

    My biggest regret in life was disobeying my mom's orders to never eat at the school cafeteria when I was 10/11, and ate tons of junk food from there. That made me gain at LEAST 25 pounds. Possibly more. I went from being around 140lbs (I was around 5 feet tall, so I wasn't badly overweight at all,) to being around 165lbs (that's not curvy, that's fat and unhealthy.) Since being 10/11 (not sure which one,) I have gained 20 pounds and am now 5'3". If I had listened to my mom and stayed out of the cafeteria, I would only be around 165lbs. Probably less cuz I would have been fitter so I would have exercised a lot more whenever I played sports (which was a lot.) The point is, I would be overweight but I don't think a fat overweight. Maybe a few pounds over curvy, but not a size 14, that's for sure. That is my biggest regret. If I have kids, I will not allow them to have cafeteria cards. And if I can, I will cancel their accounts at the cafeteria.
  17. I say cut him out of your life for good. I don't believe that just because he is your father, it automatically means that you have to love and respect him, or even like him. If a parent has done a horrible job at being a mother/father, then they have failed their child and don't deserve their loyalty or even acquaintanceship, as far as I am concerned. I don't think you should allow your father into your life at all. Keep your new number to yourself. Life is too short to share it with people you don't love you and care for you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
  18. Voting?

    I'm assuming the vast majority of members here live in a democratic society and therefore have the right to vote (if you're of age.) I am 19, and there is going to be a Provincial election for British Columbia on the 14th. I have never voted before, but what I do understand is that there is no win-win situation. Like the Conservatives, Liberals, and NDP's provincially are all really bad choices, and the Green Party has a zero chance of winning or even getting third place. I feel like, provincially, all three are bad choices either for the environment, or for the economy. So why bother voting? On the other hand, I should probably exercise my right to vote and vote for the government that I feel will do the least amount of harm. Ugh, there are just no good choices. Does anyone have any advice? What would you do in a situation like this?
  19. Is it true that Christians hate Jews?

    I like celebrating Chanukkah a little more just in terms of the food, and the ceremony isn't nearly as long, but Passover is a great experience if you celebrate it in a traditional way, or with a bit of tradition. Definitely an interesting experience.
  20. "celibate" technically is the right term. Calling yourself celibate usually implies that you are not a virgin, but you have now decided to abstain from sex. Cuz you can't abstain from sex if you've never had it! Well I guess that's up for debate, but I never thought of the word celibate applying to virgins. Like a person who has never drunk alcohol would never say "I am sober."
  21. Voting?

    What about making a "throw away" vote. Meaning you vote for a party that you like, even though you know it has a zero chance of winning? Or should I vote for the second party I like (in this case, tolerate) because I know there is definitely a chance of them becoming the provincial party?
  22. Rude Kids

    I will teach my children to only respect adults that respect them. I don't believe that age automatically means you should be respected. However, I would certainly never tolerate rudeness. My mom did her best to teach me table manners and social manners. Some stuff I had to learn on my own, but she would always tell me when I did something wrong and tell me what I should have done instead. I would never punish unless it was serious.
  23. Total B.S. Everyone judges. I see nothing wrong with judging, as long as you keep your mouth shut or politely and intelligently state your opinions. Having judgmental moments doesn't make you a judgmental person, though. Just like telling a few lies every year doesn't make you a liar. I am not a judgmental person, but I am not perfect and I have made judgments against others. But judgmental people can often be mean, intolerant, and refuse to see past their judgments even when they are given many opportunities. I have made judgments against people, but I drop them when I get to meet them and end up really liking them and realizing I was wrong (although I sometimes am right.) So my advice is that if you're going to judge, still allow room in your mind to acknowledge you're wrong if evidence is put forward that you are. For example, don't keep on thinking a girl's a slut if you find out she's a virgin. Don't keep on thinking a jock is a total idiot if you find out he gets straight A's.
  24. Is it true that Christians hate Jews?

    Wow, there are a lot of educational answers here! I didn't even know a quarter of this stuff. Thank you!
  25. Shaving Off Hair

    Natalie Portman is one of the few women who can pull off that look!