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  1. I was watching Modern Family yesterday on my laptop and it struck me that while Phil & Claire are an awesome married couple, they both assume the stereotypes: Phil is rather dimwitted, fun, easy-going, and the "fun" parent while Claire is sharp, strict, humorless, and not a whole lot of fun. It's interesting how the old rules of society said that the man must be the head of the family or whatever because in fiction, the mothers (stay-at-home or not) seem to hold their husband and children in fear. Lol. That's what it was definitely like in my household... Which is why I am determined to be a fun wife and a fun mother (although I know I may end up being too overprotective.) 1. What are your feeling on married couples in fiction? 2. What is your favourite fictional married couple? My favourite married couple: Niles Crane and Daphne Moon
  2. Alcohol/Drinking

    Seeing as WTMers are very conservative about sex, marriage, and other topics, I began to wonder what else we are conservative about. Alcohol often leads to getting drunk, which leads to doing stupid things...and hook-ups. So I am assuming that most people on this site avoid alcohol, and/or getting drunk. Do you frequently drink/get drunk? Do you drink but never get drunk? Get drunk occasionally? Rarely ever drink? Never drink at all? When I first got drunk, I was 13 and in grade seven. I never hid it from my parents: they knew, my mom didn't care (it bothered my dad a little,) and they trusted me 100% not to get addicted or let it become a regular thing. My mom - for some reason - had no problems with me drinking so she would even buy me alcohol when I was underage. But I rarely got drunk. I am now 18 and I've been drunk maybe...10 times? That's in the past 5.5 years. Because my mom gave me such freedom with drinking, it never excited me much. Mostly I just drank and didn't get drunk. And now I don't drink at all. I was just experimenting a bit in my teen years and it was fun to just drink but not get drunk because I was underage. But I am now living in a place where 18 is completely legal, and I never even liked the taste of alcohol anyways. I won't ever get drunk again because it doesn't interest me, and what's the point of drinking if you're not going to get drunk? I drink water or juice if I'm thirsty, and like I said, alcohol tastes weird to me. I just want to say that I am, in no way, promoting underage drinking. I have never done any drugs, and I always let my mom know when I was planning on getting drunk. Because I was such a good girl, I guess I felt the need to do something not good. I have no regrets or shame over it, but I don't want to have alcohol ever again. I am pretty light-weight anyways so even one glass makes me a bit unclear. I can't handle appropriate social drinking because of that. Edit: re-reading this over a year later and realized I never mentioned I got drunk at age 13 BY ACCIDENT. Wow I made myself sound like an awful teen. >.< lol. Yeah there was spiked lemonade and normal lemonade and I wasn't aware of that. The adults told us "that's the lemonade bowl for the children," but we were all 13 and under so we had no clue that meant "the non-alcoholic one." We quickly ran out of cuz there were 12 of us but the adults had more. I got light-headed and realized what was going on. Oh, and I also found a notebook where i had kept track of the number of times I got drunk: 6, not 10. 20 now and still not 10.
  3. I'm aware that some people on this forum may not view bisexuality as a legitimate sexuality, so in that case: would you marry/date someone who has been involved with both genders? I, personally, wouldn't even date a guy who is bisexual. I have nothing against bisexuality but I would be way, way too paranoid all the time (imagine a boyfriend who could cheat on you with girls and guys!) I just don't want to date/marry a guy who has had sex with other guys and is physically attracted to them because I would be very worried that I am not enough for him sexually, and my confidence would be shattered forever if he broke up with me for a guy. I just wouldn't feel comfortable at all. I mean, I don't want a boyfriend/husband who has slept with more guys than I have. >.<
  4. I speak English, je parle le français, ich spreche Deutsch, and/et/und/ãã—ã¦ã€ ç§ã¯æ—¥æœ¬èªžã‚’話ã—ã¾ã™ã€‚
  5. I, for one, will probably definitely end up marrying a non-waiter because while I don't mind marrying a waiter, I am not going to waste my time trying to find guys who are also waiters. And truly, I might actually prefer a non-waiter, as long as he has only had 1-3 sexual partners in a relationship. As long as his sexual past doesn't consist of one-night stands, hook-ups, casual sex, stripclubs, etc, then I don't mind marrying him. I think, when it comes down to it, I will marry the man I love and the man who loves me. Sexual past, or no sexual past, I will still marry him. As long as he is willing to wait, and it as committed to waiting as I am.
  6. How old are you?

    I just want to know the ages of the waiters on this site! I think most people are in their twenties, and I will be joining that age group in 11 months. Yikes! So I guess that says my age: 19.
  7. Siblings?

    I'm an only child. And adopted, too.
  8. I, personally, don't have much of a preference. I do lean towards having children slightly but if I am perfectly happy in my marriage the way it is, I don't need children. But...if I decide I do want children (or one child) and my spouse doesn't, it would break my heart to do this but I would request a divorce. I am putting "no preference/undecided" because I have yet to decide and I am pretty neutral about the topic, but I would never let my spouse keep me from having children, or to force me to have children. I am only 18, but I do have a strong feeling that I will definitely want children (probably before I am 30.) Some times I am sure I want kids, some times I think not. But I bet I will, and if I accidentally get pregnant (outside of marriage or inside of marriage) I will definitely keep the child. If I do decide to have children, I would want more than one.
  9. My parents split when I was ten-ish so my mom became my primary caretaker, 7 days a week. My dad had always been the "fun parent" and my mom was the "unfun parent" but it got a LOT worse when she kind of became a single mother. My mom is a perfectionist control freak and I am an incredibly stubborn, laid-back girl who despises being controlled. Needless to say, our relationship was terminally rocky until I moved across the country for university. However, she was (and always will be) an eternally devoted mother and a continuous caretaker of me (just infuriating to live with.) I trust her more than anyone and no one will ever love me like she does. But we are too different and stubborn to properly function together. My dad was so much fun but he got into Internet dating and stopped being in my life as often as he was. I remained loyal to my father, whom I adored very much, but eventually I had to accept that he was no longer the parent I worshipped. He didn't abandon me, but he stopped being the "Super Dad" he was once. I felt entirely unloved. When I was 16 and in grade eleven, he became seriously involved with his current partner and once again became a bigger part of my life. Slowly I began to forgive him and eventually he was completely back (by then I was in grade twelve.) Now, things between him and I are as great as ever. With my mom things have certainly improved (much less fighting and anger,) but I can't stay at home long without going insane. I'm lucky to have parents who are so super dedicated to me! My dad fell behind for 6 or so years, but it could have been much worse.
  10. We girls call it the "straight-guy hug." Clasp hands, bump shoulders, pat each other on the back (usually twice,) hips never touch, and then jump back away from each other as far as possible (okay, made up the last part.) But seriously, why? I've even seen brothers hug each other like that, and fathers and sons. Other "straight-guy greetings" are fist-bumps or pats on the shoulder, etc. I'm not saying guys should leap into each others arms, squealing and jumping around like girls do, just fyi.
  11. I started of in a Major in Film Studies and a Minor in German. At the end of the year, I switched to a Major in Linguistics. So I will now be getting a Linguistics Major and a German Minor. I hope to transfer into Honours, if my GPA is high enough and if I feel it is a good program for me. In case you haven't figured it out, languages are one of my biggest passions in life.
  12. This is all hypothetical, so inner beauty doesn't have to count if you don't want it to. lol. I'd have to say...Tom Kaulitz from Tokio Hotel (band.) He's German (so he has a super hot accent,) and he's incredibly hot...but in actual life I'd probably not like him because he is a complete womanizer, a total player, makes incredibly inappropriate jokes (a lot,) and seems very self-centered. On the plus-side, he is a firm believer in animal-rights, he is a vegetarian, a great older twin brother, and has the most gorgeous smile *siiiiigh* But yeah, I'd probably think "looooser" if I knew him in person. That sense of humour is only hot on TV. In real life, I'd go for his twin brother Bill, who is 22 (so is Tom, duh,) and still a virgin, actually! He is the total romantic of the band. So what about you?
  13. My favourite female fictional character is Melinda Gordon from Ghost Whisperer (a TV show which was tragically cancelled after the sixth season.) I can't pick a favourite male fictional character right now but Richard Castle from Castle is definitely at the top of my list.
  14. JAPANESE!! It sounds so beautiful and ALL THOSE CHARACTERS. 0.0 It'd be super cool to have Hiragana, Katakana, and Kanji and to be able to memorize Kanji at a young age. The Japanese language as always perplexed me because of its particles (wa, ga, o, mo, yo, ni, de, etc,) and the sentence structure is insanely difficult. But I love the sound of the language, and it is just much, much too difficult for me to learn so I wish that, in my next life, I will be a Japanese girl living in Japan, and therefore I will be speaking Japanese. My second choice would be Georgian because that - and/or Russian - would have been my native language if I had not been adopted. I love English, but because it is the lingua franca and making it's way to being the global language, I feel like English is not "mine," you know? It belongs to the world now - it isn't unique, like Japanese and Georgian are.
  15. I said this in another thread, but my dad's side of the family is Jewish so dating/marrying an Arab would not be the best idea because they are very pro-Israel (as we have a lot of family there and lost all but one relative in the Holocaust.) My dad, himself, said he'd only care if the man I was dating was anti-Israel in any way. My mom and my mom's side of the family couldn't care less about what race I date. Obviously my parents would hate it if I dated an abusive guy. And I think they would be very, very upset if I dated/married a guy without a university degree and a good job. My dad would HATE it if I dated/married a smoker. Also, to my dad, any religious belief is the highest form of illogicality, so I'm sure he'd prefer it if my boyfriend/husband was an atheist (as would I.) But I do have free reign to date/marry who I please, I just know my dad has some preferences which he would never actually enforce. if I married an atheist-Jewish scientist who can also sing opera, that would make him the happiest dad on Earth. lol.
  16. I think I asked this question way back in 2011. But seeing as we have so many new members, I would like some fresh answers. I, personally, would not date or marry a bisexual. I've never dated before, so I don't know if I'd be a jealous girlfriend. But everyone has their moments of jealousy. I'd have to deal with my boyfriend/husband being attracted to girls...AND guys. No. Thank. You. I also once read some stuff on open relationships out of curiosity, and the vast majority of the couples were either bisexual, or one of them was. So again, I would be very worried that I'm not emotionally and physically enough for my boyfriend/husband because he'll miss men. Just way, way too much pressure. I would honestly never date/marry a bisexual. I feel obligated to say that no offense is meant and I would totally be friends with someone who is bi. What about you?
  17. Suggest Songs

    I think "I Do Not Hook Up" by Kelly Clarkson would be a great Waiting Till Marriage song, or at least a No Casual Sex song. Or maybe not? Either way, it never fails to give me strength when I feel insecure about my decision. Oh, sweetheart put the bottle down, you've got too much talent I see you through those bloodshot eyes There's a cure, you've found it Slow motion sparks, you've caught that chill Now don't deny it But boys will be boys, oh, yes they will They don't wanna define it Just give up the game and get into me If you're looking for thrills then get cold feet Oh, no I do not hook up, up I go slow So if you want me I don't come cheap Keep your head on my hand and your heart on your sleeve Oh, no I do not hook up, up I fall deep 'Cause the more that you try the harder I'll fight to say goodnight I can't cook, no, but I can clean Up the mess you left Lay your head down and feel the beat as I kiss your forehead This may not last but this is now so love the one you're with You wanna chase but you're chasin' your tail A quick fix won't ever get you well Oh, no I do not hook up, up I go slow So if you want me I don't come cheap Keep your head on my hand and your heart on your sleeve Oh, no I do not hook up, up I fall deep 'Cause the more that you try the harder I'll fight to say 'Cause I feel the distance between us Could be over with the snap of your finger, oh, no Oh, no I do not hook up, up I go slow So if you want me I don't come cheap Keep your head on my hand and your heart on your sleeve Oh, no I do not hook up, up I fall deep 'Cause the more that you try the harder I'll fight to say 'Cause the more that you try the harder I'll fight to say goodnight Oh, sweetheart put the bottle down 'cause you don't wanna miss out
  18. *I define "underage sex" by those under the age of 18 As an 18-year-old girl who recently entered university, I am more affected than ever by book series like Gossip Girl - which I actually love - that is filled with teenage sex (although the books take it realistically.) IT IS SO HARD TO FIND A TEEN ROMANCE THAT DOESN'T HAVE SEX. The Body Finder had sex, and they were 16, Vampire Academy has teenage sex...I could go on and on. So here is a list of teen novels - whether they are books or series - that have no sex and/or have no sex before the age of eighteen. BECAUSE IT IS SO HARD TO FIND A VIRGIN WHO IS OLDER THAN SEVENTEEN IN TEEN ROMANCE. Model - this is a hilariously wonderful autobiography of the most awesome 16-year-old girl Cheryl Diamond, a model in NYC and a girl who is waiting until marriage. This book made me decide to wait until marriage, because Cheryl ROCKS. The Hunger Games - yep, there is romance, but absolutely no sex. Great series. This series was praised endlessly for its main character, Katniss Everdeen, who was looked upon as the first real feminist character in twenty-first century teen novels. She was seen as a breath of fresh air and a great role model, especially when compared to Bella Swan. Twilight - Bella waited until marriage, and while many people don't like this series, it HAS encouraged teen girls to wait (I know two of them.) So yes, there is sex, but she is 18, almost 19, and married. And it was Edward who wanted to wait until marriage, so this series shows that it is not just women who value sex: men do, too. Hereafter - a love series about a girl ghost and a boy. She is 18, dead, and still a virgin (plus, her first kiss was the boy she loves in this series.) Now I'm not sure if her virginity will last in the series, but she is dead, and 18, and has been dead for over a decade (so she's like 30.) Bloodlines - our heroine, Sydney Sage, is 18 and still a virgin...most likely unkissed as well. But I am not sure how her virginity status will remain at the end of the series. Graceling - Katsa starts out 18, kickass, and still a virgin. No, she is not a virgin at the end of the series, but again: she is 18. 13 Little Blue Envelopes - the romance is sweet and touching in this two-book series, but Ginny walks out of it 18, still a virgin, and a very smart girl. Distant Waves - I adore the main character of this novel, Jane Taylor. It takes place during the Titanic. It is a wonderful novel, it has a touching romance, but Jane is 19 and still a virgin in the Epilogue (although she would have lost it at 17 if she had the chance to marry...well, I won't spoil it.) Jane is such a strong girl for her time - all her siblings are. Pure - this book is about a group of 15-year-old friends who have sworn to wait until marriage before having sex (for religious reasons, mostly.) Well...Cara breaks this promise and sleeps with her boyfriend. Should her friends completely shun her, or accept her decision and continue to consider her a part of their friendship? It touches so much on the topic of pre-marital sex and waiting until marriage. Darkest Powers - this is a three novel series by Kelley Armstrong, and gives a very realistic portrayal of teen romance. The heroine is barely 15, and the romance takes so long to develop (in a good way) that I frequently questioned who would end up with who. A very sweet, G-rated romance in this series. Warning: it is a horror series and not for the fainthearted. Pride and Prejudice - okay, arguably not a teen novel but I read it at 14 and loved it. It takes place in the 1700's, so naturally there is no premarital sex for our awesome twenty-year-old heroine, Elizabeth Bennett. The romance is handled very tastefully, and yet it is still one of the most beloved romance novels in English literature. All novels by Jane Austen do not contain pre-marital sex, I believe. Need - is a Trilogy by Carrie Jones. It is a paranormal teen romance that centers around fairies and were-rabbits, were-eagles (basically were-animals.) The main character, Zara White, is a very unique, fun girl, and the romance is G-rated and there is an awesome love triangle spun into the story. Infernal Devices- this Trilogy is actually the "prequel" for The Mortal Instruments, but it was published afterwards so there is no specific order you have to read it in. The series has yet to be completed, but seeing as it takes place in the 1800's with a conservative (but very strong and talented) heroine, I highly doubt there will be any sex. Anyone who is fascinated with 19th Century London, Alchemy, and Steampunk will love this series! Not to mention the awesome characters. Sweetblood - this unconventional novel by Pete Hautman centers around a 16-year-old girl named Lucy Szabo. She is diabetic, a self-proclaimed "vampire" (in her own terms,) and dresses very Goth (but says that she isn't Goth at all.) Anyone who is diabetic should read this story, and you don't have to be diabetic, Goth, or weird to love this book and Lucy. She is, oddly enough, a very likeable character that I identified strongly with. She's tough, and can take care of herself. This is a story about a teenage girl struggling very hard with her identity and her diabetes. In the end, she finds out who she is. She may not like it 100%, but she learns to love herself and live life as an original person. The Forbidden Game - this Trilogy by LJ Smith is both a heartbreaking romance and a genuine horror story that actually made me frightened. If you liked Jumanji, you will love this story. And even if you don't, you still will! No book series has managed to freak me out so much (except for Dark Visions,) while still making me close to tears at the end. G-rated romance with strong characters. Dark Visions - Now THIS is a scary Trilogy, seriously. But I absolutely love it. LJ Smith has done it again in this paranormal, psychic teen romance. The plot itself doesn't seem original: psychic kids get taken in by evil training facility pretending to be good and they escape and have to fight evil, blah blah blah...but no, this is a great series. And did I mention disturbing? All novels by LJ Smith, to the best of my knowledge, have no sex in them. Even Vampire Diaries (but there is sex in the TV series.) Harry Potter - hopefully there is no need for an explination here. Everyone who is anyone knows what Harry Potter is, and hundreds of millions of people have read the series. There is absolutely no sex, PG romance, and who can't help but root for Ron and Hermione? Unearthly - This is, I believe, a Trilogy. It is a stunning story about Heaven, Nephilims...and some wonderful creative twists thrown in by the author. This is one of the most beautiful angel books I have ever read. And get this: it is the male who wants to wait until marriage, not the girl. He just doesn't feel comfortable with pre-marital sex, and I was upset when she pressured him. It doesn't seem like there's going to be any sex in this series. The main character is 17, and (I think) has recently graduated grade twelve at the end of the second book. If underage sex does happen, I will remove this series from the list. The Dark Divine - I absolutely adore this epic trilogy. Want to guess why? Not only does it have an awesome werewolf story, but the main character is waiting until marriage before having sex. Not only does her boyfriend, Daniel, support this, but they both agreed not to get married until graduation from university. There are Christian undertones to this book because the Divine family is very Christian, and the father is even a pastor. Plus the werewolf stories revolve around the Hounds of Heaven or something. But you definitely do not have to be Christian to love this series, or even have any religion. Jessica's Guide to Dating on the Dark Side - this is a vampire series that was released in the height of the Twilight era. The seventeen-year-old, unkissed main character, Jessica, has always known that she was adopted and that her real name is Anastasia...what she doesn't know is that her parents were acually vampires, she is a vampire princess, and her vampire fiancé Lucius has come to her town to whisk her away to Romania. Jessica and Lucius do not engage in sex until she is eighteen and they are married. Can anyone recommend other teen novels that have no sex, or at least no sex until age 18?
  19. I would want to be a polyglot!!! A polyglot, for those who don't know, is somebody who speaks 4+ languages. Fluently. It is one of my main goals in life to become a polyglot of Germanic languages...and Japanese and French. I already know German (and English, duh.) And becoming really fluent in French would take me 1 year. Tops. After all, I studied it for 9 years in school. Next on my list is Swedish, Danish, Dutch, Icelandic, and Yiddish. Maybe Finnish, if I have the time. So yep, I want to be a polyglot! Any polyglots here? Or bilinguals or trilinguals? What about you?
  20. Offensive words for guys

    One time my mom and I got into a discussion about feminism and she said that when she was a young woman, she and her friends got together and made a list of all the bad words for women and bad words for men, and said that there were barely any bad words for men. I hear a lot of women say that, "they're are no offensive, degrading words for the male race!" One time I argued against this and listed as many as I could in a short amount of time: a**hole, bastard, jerk, dick, douche/douchebag, jacka**, Nancy, Shirley, pansy, (those two are for very feminine men,) manw***e, f*g and f****t. That's quite a bit. I know I missed some and I know British English has a lot more than Canadian English. And then the women argued by saying, "yeah, but it's not like men actually care if they get called on of those. I mean, they're not nearly as hurtful as b***h or s**t." What is your take on this? Are these words equally as offensive as b***h, s**t, c**t, etc, or do you think they hold less power and hurt? How do you feel about offensive words for men? I censored some of them for obvious reasons. I hope it's clear what they are.
  21. Call me unromantic, but I would not want to keep that thing on for the rest of my life. The truth is, I don't like jewelry very much at all. I'm just not a flashy person. It would be wonderful to own one and wear it on special occasions, but otherwise I think I'd keep it in a special box somewhere. Honestly, I don't need a wedding ring at all. It's just a nice symbol, in my opinion.
  22. I think I'm one of those rare girls that isn't bothered by them. I will never change my last name, but I totally want to become a Mrs when I marry! I want the whole world to know I'm in love and married to my soul mate. My mom remained a Ms when she married, and she never changed her surname. Married women have the choice now, so I don't view it as anti-feminist anymore. I know quite a few women who married yet remained a Ms. However, I do think that having Miss and Ms is kind of pointless. All Miss means is that you are under the age of 18 (at least that's what it means in North America.) I think the government should just pick Miss or Ms and erase the other title completely. And I like Miss the best! Because it looks pretty and sounds more elegant. lol. But really it doesn't matter, I guess.
  23. I actually like my name a lot. It is Sophie, just with a different spelling. I just felt like using Sophie for some reason as a username. I've never had any issues with my name, and I love my unique spelling (at least it is unique in North America.) I wouldn't change my name, but if I had been given a name I wasn't fond of, I think I would change it to something very feminine and timeless, like Tessa.
  24. I know there is already a thread about music but it is asking about songs, and I am wondering about bands/singers. I listen to English, German, and Japanese music so I have a bit of a list: English female bands/singers: Kelly Clarkson and Avril Lavigne English male bands/singers: Simple Plan, Hedley, and Marilyn Manson English mixed gender bands: The Pretty Reckless German female bands/singers: LaFee and Luttenberger*Klug German male bands/singers: Tokio Hotel Japanese female bands/singers: Ayumi Hamasaki and Ayaka Japanese male bands/singers: FLOW Japanese mixed gender bands: Do As Infinity As you can see, I listen to English and Japanese music more. German Pop music (pop is my favourite genre) isn't very good at all.