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  1. I honestly don't know. I know that I'm not against. There's just so many factors to consider before I can see definite yes or no. In my eyes adopting is still " having children". So to say yes, but if I couldn't get pregnant I'd adopt seem redundant.
  2. I don't know. I'll have to meet my future kid/kids and decide then. A spank might be what's needed for one the other a loss of a privilege, or something more creative like writing an essay. As a kid spanking didn't work for me and losing a privilege I didn't always care, but I remember once my mother had me write about empathy after being a terror to my sister and that stuck with me. It all depends on the child.
  3. I have no idea. I suppose the details will be worked out when I meet the other person. I will say lately, I've been thinking an intimate backyard wedding in the fall would be nice. I am a fan of personal touches such as writing your own vows, though I might be shy about saying my thoughts out to everyone. Not sure if it will happen at my future wedding, but I attended a wedding where the experienced couples , those married for years, spoke words of wisdom to the new couple not preachy or anything it was quite nice.
  4. For those 100% against abortion what do you think should be done for a 9 or 10 year old girl who becomes pregnant through abuse. A pregnancy at this age could kill the little girl or cause serious complications. On the other hand there is the possible emotional trauma of having an abortion in addition to everything else. What about divorce in cases of abuse? What if both parties have tried their hardest to make it work and things aren't should they stay in something toxic and raise any potential children they may have in a hateful environment? I am not as conservative or religious as I think many here might be and things aren't always so black and white. There are times I wish I lived in a perfect world where I didn't have to think about this.
  5. I'm sorry if this is to much controversy, but some recent thing have got me thinking. But would my fellow waiters consider a person who was raped a virgin if he or she wanted to be though of as one? For me I would as I think virginity is something that can only be given not taken by force. Thoughts.
  6. Divorce I hope if ever I marry that it will last till death do us part,but I know there are situations where things don't work out and divorce is the best option for everyone involved. It's my opinion that many people rush into marriage without thinking or that marriage is supposed to be some happily every after story with you and your spouse never facing any type of challenge or never needing to change or compromise. Abortion I don't think I could ever have one myself and I hope I am never in a situation where I would consider it. It's just sad all the way around. Sad for the baby that never gets to be born. Sad for the women who feels she has no other choice or in some cases is forced into it. Sad for the guy to if he wants the baby and his girl doesn't. It's just sad. Children. I think kids are amazing. I have taught and cared for some wonderful little people and feel pretty lucky that I was given the chance to be with them a little while help them grow, and I know I've grown as a person caring for them. All that said kids are tough they can make you laugh and want to rip your hair out bit by bit. There are days I smile just to keep from having a break down. I don't know if I could do it full time. Op, do you mind if I add another topic to the mix? What are your feelings on marriage? Should it only be between a man and woman? Limited to just two people? Personally, I am against polygamy and I am on the fence about same-sex marriage.
  7. Honestly, I hope I'm pretty far off. There was a period of time when i was so desperate for marriage. I'm glad it didn't happen when I wanted it to when I was younger. There is a lot I need to work on as an idvidual before I even have a small hope of being in a healthy marriage relationship or really any relationship.
  8. If I'm being honest I do sometimes rolly my eyes at huge gaps ( 15 or more years), but if everyone is legal and of sound mind and in it for the right reasons I can't judge. For me, I've found my best relationships have been with those close to my age no more than 5 years. I guess it's easier for me to relate to someone from my generation.
  9. Lots of interesting responses. I intially posted thinking of a guy that had been married before had kids with wife and wife passed away. I am actually unsure if I want to be a mother or not. I work with kids for a living and know first hand how fun they can be but also how stressful caring for a child is. I'm just not sure I could take on that responsibility full time.
  10. I only have a problem with it when there is no other point to the story. Like the writers seem to think the only thing adults can be into is random sex and hookups. That;s why I got bored with HIMYM.
  11. Question for the Ladies

    For me finding a guy hot always involves a strong physical attraction and can involve personality attraction along with it. Cute doesn't always involve physical it's more of a personality thing. It's strange because for me it varies from guy to guy I could the same trait cute in one guy, hot in another, and no big deal in yet another, it's really all so strange to me. Finding a guy cute or hot doesn't mean I'm interested in a marriage type of relationship. There is a whole other aspect, that I'm not sure if there is a word for that would make me interested in marrying a guy more that personality and looks. I think maybe a lot of it has to do with where I am in my life and where he is and how compatible that is in the moment and in the future, almost sort of a spiritual thing I guess, in that sense I'm not sure two guys could ever be equal.
  12. What kind of music do you like?

    I like these artists as well. I'll also add Matt Wertz to my list.
  13. Lately I've been into Sara Bareilles, Hanson, and Justin Nozuka, but my taste in music in general is all over the place.
  14. For me, and my beliefs I think it's important, but love for me, at least the kind of love it takes to have a healthy and lasting marriage is far more than the mushy , butterfly, lusty feelings you have early in relationships.
  15. Hmm, that's interesting. It' not for me, for many of the reasons Sally listed, but if it's your thing more power to you.