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  1. Do you also fall into this category? Do you want to marry a virgin? Has this ever been a deal-breaker for you?
  2. If calling someone a slut hurts their feelings, then why do it? What does it say about religion when you're trying to defend the right to hurt other people's feelings? By and large, when you call someone a slut, it's going to hurt their feelings. Arguing about the times it may not is a distraction to the main issue which is we should strive not to hurt other's feelings. I think the solution is to use the word 'promiscuous' which describes having many sex partners without using a word that's loaded with negative connotations and hurts other's feelings. But, perhaps more importantly, other people's sex lives are none of our business. And the deal-breakers people have for their desired partner is also nobody else's business. When pregnancy enters the equation, this subject gets more complicated, though, since the reality is that no birth control is 100% effective. Nevertheless, I can't see any redeeming value to calling another person a slut.
  3. Religious Freedom Restoration Act

    I don't see how a homosexual pursuing another homosexual threatens family structure. The vast majority of humans are not homosexual.
  4. Religious Freedom Restoration Act

    Sex with relatives threatens the family structure which is essential for societal health. Furthermore, by and large, family members don't have a desire to get married to each other. Minor's are too young to know what they are getting themselves into. The notion that those born gay should be celibate the remainder of their life is absolute absurdity. For these people to have love in their life they must pursue who they are attracted to just as straight people do.
  5. I think everyone deserves to be respected and loved in marriage, and some would call this simple thing "true love."
  6. What is your biggest regret in life?

    I made no mention of whether they should or shouldn't regret it. Just making a very singular point is all.
  7. What is your biggest regret in life?

    Also, what if you hurt someone else? What if you say something truly mean to someone else or worse? Are you saying you shouldn't regret doing this? Again, regret is just wishing you would have made a different decision than you did. Anything I've done mean to other's I regret. If that makes me one who regrets things, then so be it.
  8. What is your biggest regret in life?

    I feel that one can be unhappy over a past choice without constantly focusing on it and letting it run their life. The former seems mature to me while the latter is certainly destructive.
  9. What is your biggest regret in life?

    For those that feel 'regret nothing' is a good position don't be disappointed if you marry a non-virgin and they don't regret their past sexual experiences.
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    Since you've openly shared this on this forum, I don't think I'm in the wrong to say that... don't you have a very low sex drive? If so, then your experience doesn't reflect most guy's. I just feel that the notion that it's not that hard to not do things while sleeping in the same bed with someone may make some people feel emotionally good, but it doesn't reflect reality. It seems awfully naive and out of touch with reality to me.
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    I think I'm being reasonable here when I say that most guy's will have arousing thoughts while laying in a bed next to a girl. They may be able to resist the desire to touch the girl laying next to them, but the point is that by laying next to her, those thoughts will emerge and since he is laying next to her, it's exceedingly opportunistic to do so. I can't speak for girl's, but I imagine a good portion of girl's would also experience heightened temptation while laying next to a guy. The argument that "Well, you could be tempted anywhere" doesn't seem persuasive to me, because when you are laying next to someone in a bed, there is a great deal more opportunity there than in other places.
  12. I would also like to add, that some people have studied various faiths, and while they didn't become atheists, they concluded, while striving for objectivity, that they can't be true. I still believe this universe was created by an infinite Being, but I do not buy into Christianity, for example.
  13. Should Men Give Up Porn?

    I agree with this sentiment. But I also think it's a myth that men don't know the difference between the porn they watch, and what they should expect in their future partner. I feel confident that most men know porn is contrived just as most women know that the characters in romantic novels are also contrived. Saying all porn influences all men the same is every bit as flawed as saying that romance novels influence all women the same. I do not support porn, and I do think that if one is seeking the highest spiritual heights, they will avoid it. However, many things I hear about porn strike me as dogmatic and illogical. Lastly, those who do sexual things before marriage, be it kissing, fondling, even passionate hugs, and cuddling with a REAL PERSON prior to marriage and have strong complaints against porn... I have to be honest, it does come off as a little hypocritical to complain about men watching porn. If there were no sexual component in those aforementioned activities, then I wouldn't find it hypocritical, but I think any honest person will acknowledge there is. And anyone who has been in past relationships, and done those passionate, and, yes, sexual things, is bound to compare what they experienced in the past with what they will experience in the future. I'm not equating those things with sex, because they are obviously different. What I am saying, though, is that there is a sexual component in those things, and just as someone is bound to compare future sex with past sex, someone is bound to reflect in their mind "Is my current lover as good a kisser as my past one?"
  14. Should Men Give Up Porn?

    I think many people have urges to have sex without a relationship because they are simply horny. It really can be that simple. Secondly, most people masturbate.... it's really not that much different than watching porn. Let's be honest. My qualm with porn, more than anything else, is the supporting of it, and the consequences of that. While I don't support porn, there is a difference between someone who watches it when they masturbate instead of using their imagination, and someone who is truly addicted to it. I would MUCH rather be compared to someone in porn, than to someone's actual physical experience. The former is just pixels; the latter is real experience.
  15. Pursuing a Girl/Woman

    I personally don't see it this way because I feel that in practice it's more complicated than this. Your sentiment would only hold true if the virgin girl he pursues is sensitive to him having had one partner. If she is, then I agree with your sentiment. But if she is like many girl's, and while she wouldn't be thrilled with it, it wouldn't cause her anywhere near the heartache it causes him, then what you say by definition isn't true. She may indeed see that what he brings to the table is of such significance, that she would happily overlook his past on account to what she's getting in return. Furthermore, truth of the matter is, most girl's who are virgins, but don't have virginity as a deal-breaker, are going to end up with non-virgins anyways. I totally understand where everyone's coming from that maintain's it's wrong. But I personally don't see it that way. However, I must admit, especially if he got what he was looking for, if he wasn't a truly quality boyfriend/husband... that would irritate me.