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  1. There's this girl at my school who is very much a downer Debbie. She always seems to have these bad situations in her life. One day my friend told me this girl is a pathological liar and that she constantly tries to one up people. She did this to my boyfriend when his mom died and it made me really mad. I've tried not to hold bad feelings about her and normally I'm open to listen when my friends have problems so I can minister to them, but how do I know if this girl is lying or not? Have you ever known a pathological liar? How did you as a believer handle the situation? Are you still in contact with them today?
  2. In my case I initiated the conversation, but my boyfriend made the first move. Normally I wouldn't have even brought up the topic of our feelings, but I noticed we were starting to act like a couple and I didn't want to keep things ambiguous. He told me he liked me and then a week later asked if we were courting and I said yes.
  3. Questions for the ladies of WTM

    1) He has to put God first or that's a deal breaker. Profession? Heck no. I'll support him in his career and passions, but if my husband always chose work over spending time with me I wouldn't feel loved by him. 2) For me, its not so much how often we have sex that's important, but its about working together to have the best sex possible and not getting tired of it (this seems to be more of an issue for women). I'm not sure what my sex drive is like, but I do want to show my husband affection. 3) I don't even like the thought of moving to another STATE let alone country.
  4. The person leading the prayer always asks what their name is? God already knows who it is, so is it really necessary to include their name especially if its something personal?
  5. Did you actually do it on the wedding night?

    Thanks, Chak. Yeah, I definitely don't want a huge wedding, but I just know by the end of the night I'll want to go straight to bed. Hopefully my future husband and I can reach some sort of compromise when it comes to this.
  6. I know it sounds stupid, but this is something I wonder about. Will my future husband and I have energy after the wedding and reception, especially considering I'm an introvert? I honestly like the idea of just holding each other in bed and then making love the next day when we're both fully rested. So did you and your significant other consummate the marriage the night of the wedding or hold off for one more day?
  7. Thanks for the prayer, Nicole.
  8. Warning: Phishing site

    I've been nervous to get on this site lately because of the warning. I finally decided to log in anyway.
  9. Having children?

    I fall under 2. I can see myself having kids with my future husband, but I don't want any anytime soon. I definitely don't want to have a baby until I really, really want one, but if I get pregnant earlier than expected, I will have the child and love them. I'm not sure how I'd feel if I were infertile. The thought of it alone doesn't bother me, but if it turned out to be true maybe that would change.
  10. Not necessarily looking for advice, but I won't turn it down. I just wanted to talk about this with someone. My boyfriend and I are both Christians who are waiting until marriage and we've been together for 1 year and 3 months. As time goes by its getting harder to wait. We haven't done anything sexual, but lately we have noticed we've been getting too intimate when cuddling and had to stop. One of those instances was earlier today. We sat on a curb and had a long talk and asked God to help us respect each other. I cried and we hugged. He brought up how he doesn't want to marry just so we can have sex, but at the same time he wants to marry sooner rather than later. I said I would want to wait another year at least (mainly so I can finish school). Another thing we talked about is how he's getting ready to move out soon and how we won't be able to cuddle as much (although that will probably help). I suggested him finding a roommate, but he feels like he needs to learn to live on his own before he can support anyone else. Somewhere during all of this he said "You know what?" and got on his knee in front of me. He took my hands and told me it would be a lot easier if I was with him. I started shaking and looked down. I prayed he wouldn't say anything more. He noticed my reaction and said it doesn't have to be now, but he wants it to be soon. He didn't say marriage, but I know that's what he meant. He would never suggest living together otherwise. I was so freaked out when I thought he was going to propose. I love him and I want to marry him, but I'm nowhere near ready. I'm definitely not ready to have sex yet and I do want some sort of financial independence. I know this post was really long. I just needed to get that all out. Thanks for whoever reads this. Prayers are greatly appreciated.
  11. Is Virginity Really Attractive?

    It's not that it makes him more attractive, but its a relief knowing my boyfriend hasn't known another woman sexually. It does make him stand out in a good way. It shows me that he's a man who cares about purity and wants to honor God with his body.
  12. Honestly I'd friendzone guys when I felt like they liked me, but I wasn't attracted to them. Funny story, one of them is now my boyfriend. It wasn't that I didn't think he was handsome (I remember thinking 'I bet a lot of girls like him'. He just wasn't my type. I always liked masculine, Mexican guys. He's white and feminine. I could tell he liked me. He hugged me a lot, texted me a lot, and always wanted to hang out. For awhile we stopped talking and for some reason I felt like inviting him to the Christian club's Christmas party. He came and we had a lot of fun hanging out. At one point I was washing dishes and we talked in the kitchen for maybe half an hour. We started spending time together outside of school and I noticed I was developing feelings for him. I couldn't deny that we had a lot in common and I felt really comfortable with him, most importantly, we shared the same faith. One day I asked him about how he felt about us and he told me he liked me. I told him I liked him too and we took things slow. Now we've been together for a little over a year. I'm glad I didn't try to push the feelings away (Okay I did a little, but it didn't work). He may not be what I pictured my dream guy to be, but he's better. He's absolutely weird (a plus for me), he's sensitive, and I can talk about anything with him. And yes, he is the most handsome man in the world. <3 Sorry if that was too mushy. Anyways yeah, I'd say its possible to get out of the friendzone. Its really up to the girl to know when a good, handsome man is right in front of her. My advice is don't give up and even if they don't end up liking you back, you've still gained a friend.
  13. The Bible & Wifely Submission

    I believe we as believers are to submit to God first and foremost. If my future husband asks me to do something I have convictions about, I'm allowed to say no. I do know however there will be times where he decides something I may not be sure about, but I'll just have to trust him and pray for our family.
  14. Dating Non Christians?

    Really it doesn't matter what I think. God said in His word not to be unequally yolked with unbelievers-and for good reasons. Your partner is supposed to be your best friend, someone you can talk about anything with. Do you really want to be with someone who isn't passionate about your first love and doesn't want to hear about Him at all? Another reason is when you're with someone, they're supposed to hold you accountable, to push you towards God, not pull you away from Him. We as believers know that sex is for marriage, but the majority (I know there's a few exceptions on this site) of unbelievers don't see anything wrong with sex before marriage. Chances are if things are getting steamy, he's not going to say "We better stop" he's going to want to keep going. Temptation is hard enough as it is, don't make it harder by being with someone who doesn't share a core value of abstinence. I tried dating an agnostic atheist once just to get the whole dating experience. The whole time I felt guilty knowing God didn't approve of the relationship and it didn't last. Now I'm in a Christ centered relationship and its not perfect, but its wonderful being with a man who prays for me, reads the bible with me, and loves to talk about God with me. Our prayer is that we always put God first and aim to grow closer to Him. My advice is when you do meet a Christian man who likes you who you like back, (It'll happen, give it time) ask God for His approval. He knows every heart and He'll know the man's intentions and if he truly is a believer. He only wants the best for His daughter. I know lots of Christian women who married unbelievers. It's a long road of heartbreak and frustration I don't wish on anyone.
  15. How to deal with my Christian boyfriend's porn addiction?

    Thank you, Invincible. I decided to take a break from him until Saturday (we go to his church on Saturdays) so I could have a little time to heal and pray about the situation. When I see him again I am going to ask him what specific actions he's going to take to fight the addiction. I will also mention some of the suggestions people have posted on here. I realize I need to be honest with him about my feelings, but what's hard for me is not knowing how much of my emotions to share. I'm pretty sure he knows I feel hurt and betrayed so wouldn't sharing the details of those emotions just make him more guilty?