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  1. Did you actually do it on the wedding night?

    We actually waited a couple days. We had talked about it and when we waited as long as we did, we didn't want to force it. We were both exhausted after the wedding and I'm glad we didn't try then. We waited til we were both better rested and the right romantic opportunity presented itself.
  2. We met in high school. I guess you could say we had chemistry together (☞゚ヮ゚)☞ Sorry we always make that joke
  3. I agree with Matthew that it should be when it starts to get serious. How long that is depends on how fast you move in the relationship. My fiance and I brought it up about a month and a half in. We both wanted to wait thankfully so things worked out great. If someone gives you a hard time then you know they aren't right for you and it is time to move on. Neither one of you will benefit from staying in that relationship.
  4. Random Thoughts

    Donde esta la biblioteca?
  5. Pottermore Sorting Hat!

    That was fun! I knew I would get hufflepuff because I always get hufflepuff. Hufflepuff 86% Gryffindor 65% Ravenclaw 31% Slytherin 21%
  6. This really hit me hard because it is so similar to what I have been going through. I met a girl that I fell in love with pretty quickly when I was 20. By the time I was 21 I knew I wanted to marry her, but I had no money for a ring, wedding, house, or paying back student loans. I'm 24 now and we finally got engaged earlier this year with the wedding coming late next year. I have felt and am still feeling everything that you talked about. I get tired of awkward situations where it comes up. I get tired of knowing I love this woman and knowing I would have married her 3 years ago if I could have. I get jealous and I think horrible things. It has been extremely difficult and I worry sometimes that it won't be worth it. Ultimately though I know that God took me down this path for a reason. I know that even though I can't see it now, one day I will look back on this as one of the best things I ever did. I think it will make our marriage stronger, it will make it more intimate, and I think that I will be stronger for having waited. I just wanted you to know that you are not alone and that you should be proud of yourself for waiting even when it has been extremely difficult. Stay strong and I'll be praying for you!
  7. Favorite Sports teams

    NHL-Red Wings (LGRW) NBA-Pistons MLB-Tigers NFL-Lions (sigh) NCAA-Meeeeechigan (go blue!) So all of the michigan teams. Been blessed with the Red Wings and cursed with the Lions.
  8. I'm waiting with someone who already had sex and is in the exact situation you are in. She regrets it just like you do. I love her to death and I think she is the most beautiful and pure person I have ever met. There are tons of guys out there who would be ecstatic to be with someone like you because the important thing is that now you are waiting. You are not impure because of what happened and you should absolutely keep waiting for the right guy. If someone doesn't want to date you because of that then they aren't worth your time anyway. As long as you stick to your beliefs, I guarantee you will find someone who would love to spend the rest of their life with you.
  9. controlling yourself

    For me it is a constant struggle every day. It is extremely difficult for me to control it. The best way is to avoid temptation. Coming here really helps me to get things off my chest and refocus on why I am waiting. Sometimes I get discouraged from the lack of support in society so coming here really helps. I try to focus my feelings toward being productive as well. I tell myself that I will be able to when I am married so if I am frustrated maybe I should work harder at getting my life set up for marriage. It has actually helped me get a lot of wedding planning done
  10. My mom talked to me about it quite a few times. I've always had so much respect for my mom. She has always been there for me and tried to do what is best for me. She told me about her experiences and explained why she regretted not waiting. She showed me the benefits of waiting and as I got older I saw that what she was saying was true. I do want a deeper level of intimacy and I do want my first time to be special. My dad has always been on the other side and has given me some grief over it. They divorced when I was young and I have seen the differences in their relationships since they split. My mom waited until she remarried and her relationship with her new husband is incredible. I know that I want that kind of closeness myself so my girlfriend and I have been waiting for over 3 years. I know that it will be worth it and we both can't wait to get married.
  11. Sleeping habits

    I'd like to be on a similar sleep schedule, but I realize that might not always be possible. As long as she isn't on a totally different sleep schedule than I will be fine. Of course right now my sleep schedule is totally messed up, I'm posting this at 7:20 in the morning and I still havent gone to sleep. Hopefully I can get my sleep schedule closer to midnight to 9 am.
  12. Breaking Things Off

    I agree with everyone so far. Its an extremely difficult situation, but the quicker you tell them, the quicker you can both move on. It's only going to get harder to tell them the longer you wait. The hardest part is not telling them you want to end it, but trying to save their feelings while ending it. They are going to ask why and that is where it gets difficult. If you don't really give them an answer it is going to drive them crazy trying to figure out why. If you do tell them then it can hurt their feelings (especially if the reason is really embarrassing). I think ultimately you start by telling them it just isn't going to work out and if they are persistent in asking why, then you tell them the truth in the kindest way possible. There's no perfect way to handle it, but ultimately, it is what is best for both people.
  13. Introducing myself & Nice to meet you

    Awesome welcome to the site!
  14. Introverts/Extroverts

    I'm an extrovert! ... Nah I'm totally kidding, I'm another tally for team introvert! I love talking to people and being social, but it without a doubt drains me. I need alone time to play a game, read a book, or listen to music and recharge
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    I made the first move and prefer it that way, but I would have had no problem if she kissed me first.