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About Zokhanyo

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  • Birthday 04/17/1986

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  1. Greetings

    Thankyou for welcoming me good people, thanx a lot. 1Love
  2. Owsh that's my bad luck,, i never met a man interested in me willing to wait. I am 30 and never had a boyfriend in my life, because i was afraid it would tempt me for sex and rather i know girls who fell on the temptation of sex because they had boyfriends and were alone in room etc. When i was 25 i felt ready to have a boyfriend but wait for sex till marriage, but hey i never met a guy who meets my criteria of a man to date, a man who is willing to wait. Untill now i haven't find that man, so it is very difficult. Its difficult to even find a man of my age not in a relationship like me. However i don't want to wait forever, i want to meet someone and get married with him even if he was not a waiter, but must wait for me faithfuly even if its 6months wait. He must know how to wait, and value me more than having sex with me, for i am not just a sexual package. 1Love.
  3. Ow lonto leyo as am reading some of your comments am like; oh Lord why don't you let this man come to me lol. I am ready for my husband, 30years is not little, its not that easy to wait but God is trustworthy and faithful because He gives me strength to stand my grounds. I also wish that a man could just love me not because am a virgin, because this virginity will not last a minute on our wedding night i suppose lol. Sex is so special to me to just have it with not thee special person of marriage. Though he is not a virgin he must value waiting and agrees on the not good of sex before marriage, and be atlist wishing he waited at the beginning.
  4. Ow my goodness to be honest in answering this question: Having sex out of marriage is not my option at all, at the same time at my age of 30yrs now i am so eager to get my husband. For him to be a virgin would be a great reward as i never met a virgin man of my age in my adult life; therefore my option is that atlist he should know how to wait like having a self control, that is being a born again Christian who have a time of waiting in his repentance life. So i am saying i don't want to be a virgin forever; i want to meet my one and get married even if he is not a primary virgin like me but a secondary virgin. But i will never settle for sex before marriage.
  5. I am looking for a selfless husband, love and faithfulness; these are key to me. He must be a responsible man and prioritize God as well as his family. A man with good values that makes his character good as well. I need happiness from him. Flexible loving man with good stand. 1Love.
  6. Greetings

    Thanxu for welcoming me guys, I feel good. 1Love.
  7. Greetings

    Hellow waiters, i have been here for a long time but was away for a long time also, about 2years away i guess. i am 30years old, a waiter, woman and a Christian in South Africa. I have chosen to wait because i believe it is good and right thing to do, for my dignity not to be taken away by someone who doesn't value me. For my future husband to be respected coz of my value. I want to have a strong bond only with him. i am very happy to be back here, for i need people who talk my language of waiting, as it helps in being strong on the move. I respect you good people for your choice, i can be honest at my age its not that easy, but God is so amazing because i am still standing my ground and holding my vow. i salute you with respect. 1Love.
  8. Initiating a conversation with a guy to me is not a big deal especialy at church or anywhere mating like i start a conversation with anyone and nlt even remember how we started the convo. Simple bcoz we are human we have to talk, but making a first move of confessing feelings to a guy is something else to me, i don't think i'd ever do that. i leave things as they are if the guy can't make the first move to me.
  9. mmh assuming no, maybe because i am 30yrs and i wish to meet some1 over 30yrs not having a child, and ofcoz not in a relationship. So i don't assume that 1 is married, in a relationship nor have a child because of his age. i rather ask a person, i like to take something that comes out from a person's mouth so i ask when i wish to know. My life journey and My hope of finding the man i believe God has for me makes me to not assuming because of age.
  10. Ow, thank you guys,,honestly the way you putting it have eased my fear,, I am confident and talkative but this worry of not knowing how to kiss was always bugging me at the back of my mind, even though on chats ; I would say am not worried bwt t, and say uh! Am relaxed bwt that, my cousin sister started a song saying " Zokhanyo how can you relax not even knowing a deep kiss" lol... And lough a lot .... I am certainly taking each advice into consideration... Thanx for caring to answer me good ppl... May God bless u... I trust what u are telling me... I will try not to worry just as I am not worrying about sex...
  11. Belle Femme,,, I hear u but really making a first move to a guy z not in my understanding ,, and I can't say am involved in anything outside church because these activities are also within the church, en jaa will consider your confident statement 😄.. To meet more people.. Thanxu so much, for your waking up words ... And i would love to know how did you met with your hubby? Internet dating z off to me, Ts not like decent as I wish to meet my hubby🙈🙈,,, tough this side Nhee.. Ow Heavens come down...
  12. Ow Waitingforcarats thanxu so much for such encouraging , beautiful words. Your advices are good and a'ma try some of the things you have mentioned, like dedicating the matter in prayer / To God. May you also get your mate... Please do mention me in your prayers too😎...1Love💞thanxu..
  13. 🙈lol tjoo ,it is that time when the scale says; "Not yours and your partner please, 1 at a time" ha ha haðŸƒðŸƒ Really my high drive doesn't scare me more than it motivates me that; I would not just make a good wife in the kitchen or by morals but my husband will be satisfied dog that doesn't go for neighbour's bones.. Ha ha ha... I like the fact that many of you are this open and real about their sexual feelings, because for some reason I don't know, ppl expect me to be clueless about my sexual feelings just because I have no personal experience in doing sex. ðŸ˜like really?? I am open and not ashamed to comment on those chats, but they lough at me saying am talking bcoz of the little knowledge .. But hellow!! Who doesn't know how she feels😄😄 Am always saying I would always read a scripture from the bible for my husband, to minister him about my right of getting it all from him😄😄🙈🙈.. En ppl say tjoo they feel for him, coz he will be told that; This is God's word ... Lol indeed it will be...😄
  14. Ha ha ha, cought off guard, the usual me times are often the day dreaming times; mostly about my future achievements, my family and also about my loving, trustworthy, Strong faith and romantic future husband🙈... Tjoo I day dream of our openness to each other , playing together , even the approach he would use to propose love to me😠ow am guilty of day dreaming.. But I like coz i don't day dream about anyone I know but some1 that I still have to meet and knowðŸ˜
  15. Hellow ppl. Am 29 never kissed a guy in my life , reason because I have never dated en to me kissing is a big deal, so I can't just kiss anyone. I always know that I have nothing to worry about sex, for it is natural and I have an imagination how it can be done, but when it comes to kissing its a different story; as I become this old am becoming to worry more and wonder how would I do it Gosh!👼 And ppl always scares me about kissing but I don't show it to them, I keep my confidence and laugh. Truth is; the thought of it really scares me off. Seriously now besides the saying that everything will just happen , how to kiss, if one could just try to break it down for me plz. And know that I am I am shy as I write this, exposing my hidden linen🙊🙈... And ppl keep on saying kiss counts a lot in giving pleasure to your partner, so if I flop in this tjoo...