Belle Femme

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  1. I used to be on the Pill to help me with cramps that left me bedridden. I went off it for ahwile, and my cramps got better, so I stayed off it. Then they started getting horrific again, a few months before I got married. It took a LOT more effort than I had imagined getting a doctor to see me for a BC consultation, but I finally found a nurse practitioner who was available. I started the patch about three weeks before our wedding, and I also used it to skip a period that normally would have fallen on our honeymoon. I don't think wanting to avoid pregnancy somehow made our wedding afternoon (morning wedding = afternoon sex!) less intimate or special. Trust me, I would not have been able to relax if I had been freaking out about getting pregnant. And I LOVE having pain-free periods again. Not getting pregnant is just a bonus!
  2. By that logic, if your husband loves you, he'll love your name and want to take your name. While I certainly think that both men and women alike should be free to do as they want with their names when they get married, I'm uncomfortable with one-sided reasoning that is primarily used to reinforce the status quo. I love my husband, and his name is perfectly fine. I still kept my last name when we got married, and I've made it very clear to our friends and family that I am NOT Mrs. His Last Name. Of course, I really wanted him to take my last name, not to make a statement or anything, but because I wanted to be part of a groundbreaking lawsuit against our state. Most states have a specific name-changing protocol for women when they get married, but only a few have the same for men. I totally wanted to get our state's law changed so it's no longer discriminatory against men...