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  1. What religion would you choose other than your own?

    Like a lot of people here, I love my religion dearly (which is why it's my religion!) and I wouldn't want to change it But if I had to choose, I would be either Kemetic (Egyptian polytheism) or Catholic. Kemeticism is similar in many ways to Hellenismos, and they've had many cultural and religious ties throughout history, to the point of becoming a kind of "brother faiths". I agree with a lot of Kemetic tenets and wouldn't have trouble adopting them. The reason I'm not Kemetic is because I simply have no connection with those Gods. As for Catholicism, it's not so much the beliefs I feel drawn to as the rituals. No matter what my religion is, I need structure and continuity throughout history, and both Hellenismos and Catholicism (and Kemeticism) offer that. Catholic churches are so beautiful, and so is mass, the rosary, and a lot more. Not to mention that as a polytheist, having a lot of saints would make the switch easier (Please don't kill me! I'm kidding! I know the saints aren't actually Gods!) There's a lot more religions I would consider - I think each of them holds their own beauty, from Muslim veils and kneeling to pray, to Jewish synagogues and reciting Hebrew, to Buddhist meditation and so much more - but those are the first two that came to mind.
  2. Oh, I forgot the story of Eros and Psyche!
  3. Random Thoughts

    Again, thanks for the awesome clarifications! Gods, I feel really ignorant now. Hahaha, I would love to see that!
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    Ooooh, thanks guys! Yeah, I wondered if I was missing something. That's a relief, thanks for clearing that up
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    Anybody care to explain why this souvenir shop in Malaga, Spain appears to be selling statuettes of the Ku Klux Klan? Like, WTF? Who buys that sort of thing?
  6. As far as I remember, Romeo and Juliet wasn't really supposed to be a love story. In a love story, the end goal is a resolution to the lovers' relationship (them ending up together, or being tragically separated, or whatever) whereas Romeo and Juliet couldn't have a satisfying ending until the feud between their families ended. The play begins with the feud, and it ends when the feud does. Romeo and Juliet's love was only a catalyst for the reconciliation between the Montagues and Capulets. I assume Shakespeare made it that way because love is the most powerful connection there is, and Romeo and Juliet just being friends wouldn't have had the same effect. Basically, in my opinion, it's a story in which love plays a prominent role, not a love story. As for my favourite love stories: - Marius and Cosette from Les Misérables. - Ellana and Edwin from Pierre Bottero's books (he's my favourite French author). - Nils and Alma Pålsson (real people). They lived in Sweden in the early 1900s and had four little children. Nils moved to Chicago when a coal strike caused him to lose his job, and he spent the next two years working as hard as he could to buy his family passage across the Atlantic. He finally raised enough money in early 1912 and sent it to his family. At the time his children were 8, almost 6, 3, and just 2 years old. Alma was only 29. They came across in third class on the Titanic. On board Alma met another Swedish man, whom she told about her husband and her new life in America. When the ship hit the iceberg, the man helped Alma and the children leave third class, but they arrived on deck too late to find a lifeboat. The man grabbed two of the children and desperately tried to look for an escape, but they were swept away by a wave, and the children were never seen again. Alma had a harmonica with her, and in her last moments it's likely that she played music to calm her little ones while the ship went down. The whole family died in the sinking. The reason why I consider this a love story is because of Nils's reaction when he found out they were gone. That testimony is so simply written, and yet you can feel just how much he must have loved his wife and children. He remarried years later, but he never recovered from Alma's death. I know it's such a tragic story (sorry!) but somehow I find it so beautiful, too.
  7. Ladies, your thoughts on guys crying.

    It makes me feel all emotional when I see a guy crying, just like when I see anybody else crying. I don't find it sweet, or a turn-on, but I do think it's a good thing. It means he trusts me enough to cry in front of me. (Guys, the same goes for girls, by the way - there are some who cry anytime, anywhere, but I, for one, would only cry in front of someone I really trusted.) People of both genders should be allowed to express their feelings if they need to.
  8. Thought I would share a story A few days ago, I overheard two of my coworkers talking about me. They said that I was a friendly, natural person and that they enjoyed getting to know me (I've been working a summer job, so we don't know each other very well yet). I was very flattered, like anyone would be But what caught my attention most, and what I've been pondering ever since, is that they called me beautiful. I know that my physical features aren't outstanding. I'm not ugly, either, but I'm also aware there's nothing particularly remarkable about how I look. I have an even face and a healthy body - nothing more than average. People don't compliment me on my piercing eye colour, my lush hair, my spotless skin, the curves of my body, or the attractiveness of my voice. And yet, not for the first time, someone called me beautiful. I never used to hear that. Even two years ago, someone complimenting me in that way would be unheard of. Why? Two years ago, I had the same face. I had the same eyes, nose, chin, hands, hips. Physically, I was the same. But there is a difference. Two years ago, I was diagnosed with PTSD. Two years ago, I was quiet, nervous, and only talked to people if I had to. As a freshly-turned eighteen-year-old, I was just learning to come out of my shell, but my emotional fragility held me back. I was a glass statue in a world of rocks… so I built a wall. How else could I protect myself? I went to social events, smiled when I had to, then curled up inside myself so nobody could touch the raw bits inside. On the surface, I looked the same. But I was different. Not only that, the PTSD was built on layers of mistrust, of shyness, of self-consciousness and detachment I'd assimilated as a child and teenager. It took ten years, and my best friend's crazy sense of humour, to break me out of a cycle that a few bullies started. I'm still on the introverted end of the spectrum, but not to the point that I get nervous ordering food at restaurants and automatically assume I'm being lied to when I'm told I can leave work early. Because that's the thing: outside, I just look a bit older, but inside, I've changed and grown so much. The PTSD will never completely go away, of course, and I'll always be quiet and prefer books to parties and stumble on my words when I get excited. But I'm braver. I'm happier. I laugh when something unfortunate happens (last weekend I fell into the lake in front of twenty people and walked away giggling like a maniac - true story) and I smile at people in the street. A few months ago, a stranger outside the supermarket told me to "keep smiling", and added that "it makes you look gorgeous". And that's exactly what I intend to do. You know how people say confidence is key? It's true, and not just when you're flirting. You can tell when someone is happy and confident in themselves and their personality because it shines right through. The most beautiful person would have trouble finding a partner if they were grumpy, needy and didn't believe they deserved it. The guy that I'm interested in at the moment isn't as handsome as others, but it's the way he jokes around, the way he runs his hand through his hair, the way gets excited about the books he's reading, the way asks random people what their favourite word is - the way that he is altogether carefree and sociable and loves life - that makes me like him. That's also why people have started telling me I'm beautiful. I'm not going to say that outside beauty doesn't matter if you're beautiful inside, because we all know that - and we all know that it's not always true. What I'm getting at is that inside beauty makes you so much more attractive - and approachable - outside. So be yourself. Be open. Whether or not you have a monster inside you, and whether it's anxiety, depression, a lack of self-confidence or anything else, remember that it's not you. Fight it back. And smile. Because that's what makes us beautiful.
  9. What makes us beautiful

    Thanks guys! I'm glad you appreciated it!
  10. religion... Why?

    Ever since humans learned to self-reflect, we've been searching for some sort of meaning in life. Where do we come from? Why should we act morally? What happens when we die? As beings capable of thought, we are aware of our existence, and we want to know why. Our questions remained unanswered for millennia. Many still do to some extent today. This is where religion comes in. Since we couldn't find a tangible, physical reason for the phenomena we didn't and don't understand, we turned to the supernatural. And there it was, waiting for us. Waiting to give us just what we needed. My stance on this issue will be different from most other members', but as a polytheist, I believe that the Gods - be they Hellenic, Judaic, Islamic, Celtic or from any other culture - don't need us. They could exist just as well without us. Think of the myth of Deucalion and Pyrrha - Zeus was this close to wiping out humanity because we had disappointed him. Likewise, what was the Abrahamic God doing before he created Adam and Eve? He was just as godlike without human beings to acknowledge him. To the Gods, we're frivolous and fleeting as flowers. They don't need us. But sometimes, we need them. So we turn to them and ask for help, and in return, we offer them our devotion. Some religions, like mine, do this through kharis or reciprocity, others through prayer and dedicating our lives to the God or Gods we honour. By doing this, we build a relationship from which both sides - mortal and immortal - benefit. We get the support and spiritual reassurance we need, and in return, depending on the God or Gods in question, they are appeased, their deeds (for example, our creation) are acknowledged, or they receive pleasant libations and sacrifices. And since each person - and each God - is different, we each go about this in different ways. One person might find a certain religious philosophy to be aligned with their own, and so they will choose to follow that particular religion. Another person might decide that a different philosophy makes sense to them, and so they will follow a different religion. Yet another person might not feel the need for spiritual guidance at all, and so they will choose to turn inwards, and find confidence in their own moral compass and the scientific discoveries that we are making day to day. Everyone has different needs; that's why there are so many religions. That's also why I believe that one single religion, encompassing all aspects of life, from personal to social to judicial to governmental, would never be able to fulfill our needs without stepping on those of others.
  11. What's one thing you want to do in your lifetime?

    Fall in love for real. Have children. Publish a book. Go to Greece and to Troy. And inspire at least one other person's life for the better
  12. Hello from Russia

    Welcome, Eben!
  13. The Saint That is Just Me

    That was really pretty! I really like the lyrics. Even though I don't relate to them as well as I imagine Catholics would, I think they're really well worded and beautiful. The singer has a lovely voice too
  14. That was super awesome to watch! Thanks for sharing! It kind of reminds me of this: (Enter a date in the top right to navigate through time ) Not religion related, but I had a ton of fun with it!
  15. Random Thoughts

    Tacos for everyone! I'm making myself hungry again.
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    I'm making dinner. You want some?
  17. Here's an article on this site about 7 reasons why non-religious people choose to wait till marriage: I myself am religious, but I belong to a religion which doesn't make a big thing out of WTM. We have more of a "here's some general guidelines, now decide on your personal moral code and stick to it" philosophy rather than "here's some detailed guidelines, now stick to them or else". So it's fair to say that, apart from those times I pray for strength and conviction, religion hasn't really played a part in my choice to WTM. I think the great thing about waiting for personal reasons, rather than waiting because your religion recommends it, is that you, and only you, are responsible for your decision. You weighed the pros and the cons, looked up the facts, reflected on how you felt about it, and taking all that into account, chose to wait. You hold all the power. That makes you all the more stronger. Of course, that can make you a bit more vulnerable too, especially if you don't have a deity or a faith-based community to back you up when you waver in your decision. You also need to justify yourself more. In my experience, people will nod and leave you alone if you say that it's a religious decision, whereas if you're non-religious, they'll be confused and ask, but why? One of my friends was a bit puzzled when I told her I was waiting, since the people she knew who had made the same decision were all very religious Christians. My answer to that is that I value sex as the most loving and intimate connection between two people, and I'm not comfortable sharing it with someone unless I'm comfortable sharing everything else - and that means getting married. People respond more positively when I explain that. While they may not agree with my feelings, they understand where they come from, which helps them accept them better. To strengthen your decision and understand it better, I recommend listing your personal reasons for waiting. You can also do research online, read up on surveys etc. This is the equivalent of prayer and reading your holy texts as a religious person. Most of all, don't let yourself get influenced, or discouraged by the negative information there is out there. There's a lot of people who wait for non-religious reasons. You're not alone! Right, I'll let the real non-religious WTMs answer now
  18. I wouldn't mind dating or marrying a bisexual person. Who cares if he's attracted to another gender, so long as he's attracted to mine?
  19. Name someone you particularly like on this site!

    Haha, I was going to say Steadfast too! I admire how she can argue her point of view in such an articulate way, and on top of that, she's friendly and great with gifs I was also going to say PhotoGirl. She's always so kind and open to everyone, and so much more special than she thinks There's a lot of people I like on this site, but for now I'll name those two.
  20. Hello from Italy!

    Welcome, Jessica! Hope you like it here!
  21. Hello from Toronto, Canada!

    Welcome, Brandon! I second what JesSea said - we're a bunch of diverse people, and I'm sure you'll find a place among us to fit in
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    Wow seriously?! So awesome!!!
  23. My family doesn't know. I was raised in a completely non-religious family (mother is agnostic, father is atheist) with varying degrees of tolerance towards religion. My sister is a bit of a mystic, my cousin is probably going to become Christian when she's older, but the older generation (parents, grandparents etc) are mostly opposed to all forms of faith. All of them had sex before marriage - some of them quite young. Most of them don't know what my religion is, let alone that I'm waiting till marriage. I didn't feel safe being open about either in an environment like that. (When I told my grandmother about my beliefs, she said I need to "start living in the real world" so… yeah.) Waiting is very uncommon in the area that I live in. My friends know what it is, but only one of them knew someone besides me who was waiting, and the girl in question was very religious. Waiting for love, though, is a lot more common. Some of my best friends waited or are waiting for the right person, so they were understanding when I told them I'd taken it a step further. Their reactions were very much "okay, good for you if that suits you". The people I hang out with aren't into the hook-up culture (in fact, I think it's a lot less prevalent where I live than in other places) so it's easy to find common ground, even if the extent of what we're comfortable with varies from person to person
  24. "The One God Has for You" vs. Free Will

    As far as I know, the concept of soulmates is actually a Greek idea, not a Christian one. The idea that each person is one half of a whole, and that somewhere, walking this Earth, is the other half, comes from Plato (Symposium 189d-191d). Incidentally, it's also the story he used to explain homosexuality. That's not to say that Christians can't believe in soulmates Just because the first person to suggest the idea was Greek doesn't mean you're not allowed to hold the same view as him. But it's good to know, at least, where it comes from and that it's not in the Bible.