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  1. My advice is to not ask for her number the first time. Get to know her a few times first. Be friendly and ask her questions. Let her know that you're interested in her without coming on too strong early on. Make jokes and smile. If you chat with her enough times and get a nice friendly/flirty candor going on with her, she'll be way more likely and even excited to give you her number when you finally ask.
  2. How did your parents meet?

    My parents met at a pizza restaurant where they worked. My dad was a cook and my mom was a waitress. My mom still has her serving tray that she used and it has my dad's name written all over it My sister and I used to play with it when we were young. They dated for 6 years before getting married and then had me and then my sister a few years later. It'll be 27 years for them next month
  3. I love to cook, so I wouldn't mind too much if my spouse didn't know how. I'd appreciate if he had an interest in learning a bit and cooking with me sometimes though. That can be a really fun activity. I agree that it doesn't HAVE to be a specific gender's role to cook, but I enjoy it so I'd gladly take on the role.
  4. Hello WTM Forums.

    Aw Ryan, I'm all giggly and so happy that I have such an awesome boyfriend who has such wonderful and intelligent things to say about this journey we're going through together! Thanks so much for taking the time to join this site with me and enjoy this community of like-minded friends
  5. I have had some experience with long distance relationships and would love to give you some advice! I was in a long distance relationship with someone 2000 miles away a couple of years ago, and I am currently in another with someone 550 miles away (apparently I'm prone to long distance, haha). Have you been in a normal close distance relationship before? If so, this will be very different. Long distance is not easy, but its very rewarding when you do get to finally see your significant other after long periods of waiting. Luckily, if you're waiting for sex until marriage, you've already got the waiting and patience down! 4 years is a long time to be long distance, but its doable if you do it right. My advice to you would be to get as much time in person as you can. And try to have a few visits that are longer than a week. Thats how I discovered that things weren't good with my ex. Once we spent more than a week together, we discovered some incompatibilities. Its easy to sugar coat and fantasize the things about your significant other that you can't see via long distance. Getting that extended time in will allow you to get comfortable with each other and show your true colors which will allow you to really figure out if you're compatible. In regards to how often you should talk, I think thats a natural thing that just progresses. Once you're actually a couple, I think having some sort of communication every day is beneficial. And Skype! Seeing each other's facial expressions, hearing each others voices, and seeing smiles is very very helpful! I Skype with my boyfriend just about every night currently. That may not be doable for all couples do to time differences and work and other activities, but it works for us. Seeing that you live thousands of miles away, you'll have to fly to each other, and that gets expensive. My advice would be to see each other at least twice a year, more if you can. Its so important to have that in-person time. And in my opinion, I wouldn't make things exclusive until you've met. Its so hard to really get a feel for someone you've never met in person. You may know all of their deep thoughts and feel a deep connection, but you're missing out on some of their mannerisms and the chemistry you may or may not have in person. Think of it as kind of doing a relationship backwards. You're getting to see the deep stuff first, where in a normal relationship, the deep stuff comes later. Expect to be sad. Especially after you meet for the first time and have to say goodbye. Its not easy, but if you can make things work, you've got a fantastic story to tell and you'll be way less likely to take each other's presence for granted once you close the distance! Good luck to you! If you ever need any advice, feel free to ask! Also, I've found this site very helpful: http://www.lovingfromadistance.com
  6. Wow that was really awesome. What fantastic advice!
  7. What does your purity ring look like?

    Mine was not nearly this expensive, but this is the one I have. I've been wearing it since I was 16. I'm 23 now. http://m.jewelbasket.com/jbuur16616-white.html
  8. Ladies: Does size matter?

    I'm 5'6 and I am most attracted to guys who are at least 5'9. I really like feeling like the smaller dainty one. I really admire those of you who are attracted to shorter guys.
  9. Exactly what envincebal said. Sure, there are some political topics that don't matter as much to me and I'm not going to put as much weight on his opinions, but things like abortion, feminism, capital punishment, and other moral topics are very important to me and I think we need to be on the same page about those. So maybe another way to put it is that he has to have a lot of the same morals as me politically, but I wrote conservative because thats the way I lean.
  10. • First and foremost, he needs to be Christian or somewhere close to it. He needs to be able to put God first and realize He is an important part of the relationship. • He needs to either be waiting, or respect my choice to wait. • I'd love for him to be intelligent and mature. Obviously he has to be able to have fun and have a sense of humor, but maturity is necessary. • He needs to be taller than me. I'm just literally not attracted to men who are shorter than me. • He needs to be a leader. I want a man who can be the leader in the relationship just like it speaks about in the Bible. I'm very feminine and I have absolutely no problem being the typical 50's housewife that so many feminists complain about. Thats actually what I want. • He has to want kids. • He has to lean towards politically conservative as opposed to liberal. • He has to have a bit of a romantic side. • He has to want my femininity just as much as I want his masculinity. • He needs to value communication in a relationship. These are all absolute musts. Of course there are other desirable things that I want but may not be completely necessary.
  11. Is there a venting thread? Because I would like to express my EXTREME disgust, anger, and sadness at the fact that the guy I've been dating for a couple of months just told me he cant continue dating me because we can't have sex. ....like seriously? I just can't even.... Please anyone who has had this happen or has something to say to affirm the fact that he's not right for me would be greatly appreciated. This was completely out of left field. I did not see this coming at all.
  12. I just wanted to say thank you to everyone for their kind words and advice. I've talked to him in greater length about it and discovered that he's really just lived a life of having sex with anyone he may have feelings with and its just become natural to him. Waiting until marriage is just not the life he wants to live. Its extremely sad and I'm really hurt, but I am glad it did not go on longer and I know now that he was not the one for me. I'm in a new town in a new state and don't know anyone. He was really the only friend I've made here so far, so this makes it even worse that I have no one to lean on and spend time with. But I will get through this. I just have to have faith that the right guy will be around the corner.
  13. So I've only been in one relationship and he was also waiting until marriage, so there were no issues there. Well, I've been spending time with a guy I met recently and tonight we went on what I would call our first date. It was going great, when all of a sudden he throws on me the fact that he has a daughter. He was never married. Being very inexperienced and very sure of the fact that I'm saving sex for marriage, this was quite a shock to me. Have any of you had to deal with a situation like this, or even just dealing with someone who hadn't been living the lifestyle of waiting? As soon as he said it, I immediately thought "well played, God, well played." Because I know He knows this is something that would throw me for a loop, haha.
  14. Curve Ball...

    Ok, new question: When do I bring up the conversation about what my limits are? Now, when we're still just kissing? Or wait until things start to go further? I've never had to deal with this before since my only ex was also waiting and we met online and talked about all this way before we even met in person. I don't want it to be awkward if I bring it up now but I also don't want to make him feel rejected if he tries something soon and I have to stop him when he had no idea it was off limits. What are your opinions, guys?
  15. Curve Ball...

    Hey guys, thanks so much for your advice! It really helped me out in my decision. It's been a few weeks now and we are definitely heading in the direction of an official relationship. I'm so happy with the decision I made. He knows I'm waiting and respects that and I've learned more and more about the situation with his daughter and continue to realize he's a great father and this is something I really want to try. I know there's a lot more to deal with that could cause problems but he's given me no reason to think he's not worth the chance yet. I'm really happy
  16. Are you a virgin?

    I'm somewhere between orange and yellow on the triangle. I've done more than kissing but not "everything but sex" by any means.
  17. Abstaining From Sex While Dating

    Yes I have. For me the hard part wasn't abstaining from actual intercourse, but trying to not keep going one step too far. You have to make a limit for yourself. Chances are, the first thing you'll have a desire to do will not be actual intercourse but some step before that. So set a limit with whoever you're dating. For example: "We will not get to the point of removing clothing" or whatever suits you. That way when you get to THAT point, you'll hear your conscience and stop, rather than having to stop yourself once you've gone too far. When I set a goal like this in my past relationship, if we accidentally went past our limit, we still hadn't gone TOO far.
  18. I would definitely wear it all the time! Its a symbol of commitment.
  19. What is your favorite?

    movie? Runaway Bride tv show? Friends music? Too many to choose from! book? The Host or The Time Traveler's Wife color? Purple food? Mashed Potatoes city? Don't have a favorite place to shop at? The Limited sport? Tennis
  20. If he had a physical reason he couldn't have actual intercourse, but still wanted to do sexual things together, I'd be perfectly fine. But nothing sexual at all, or a severe lack of sexual drive on his part? Nope, couldn't do it. While sex isn't the MOST important part of a marriage, its up there too high on my list to not have it at all.
  21. Driving

    I hope that he enjoys driving and wants to do it 90% of the time. I like to drive, but when we're together, it seems more traditional for him to be the driver. Plus, once children come, I'll likely be the one turning around tending to them in the back seat, haha.
  22. Would you date/marry a shorter man?

    I feel bad that it might be a dealbreaker, but I just need to feel that he is the "protector" and I'm the smaller, feminine one. Maybe that could change if I met the right guy, but as of right now, I don't think I could do it. I'm 5'6" though, so my chances of him being taller than me are pretty good.
  23. Who here aspires to marry a wealthy man?

    For me, its not so much a requirement that he's wealthy, but that he is responsible and has goals to support a family. Of course ideally I want to be financially stable and not have to worry about money too much, but I'm going to marry for love, not for money.
  24. I think I would only go 2 years younger to 4 years older. I'm 22 currently.
  25. How old are you?

    I'm 22