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  1. still here and...

    Don’t compare your progress in life with that of others. We all need our own time to travel our own distance. Great things in life don’t happen when society tells you they’re supposed to happen – they happen when they’re meant to be. So remember, you don’t have to make excuses about why you aren’t married with children. Our lives are not all meant to be scripted the same exact way.
  2. is masturbation a sin?

    I tried to think about tractors or something else when masturbating. (It didn't work). Its impossible to masturbate without lusting. Its also becomes a habit after awhile. I don't recommend it.
  3. a great article

    Those darn comments man. SMH
  4. New member has arrived!

    Welcome to the site bro. Bahrain sounds like a nice place.
  5. Hey Ladyluck, I know how you feel. I'll be 26 in a couple of months and I've never had a girlfriend. I've dated a few girls, but I just haven't met the right one for me yet. I can tell that my family (especially my mom because I'm her only child) is starting to get worried because I've always been single. However, I just haven't met the right person yet. And I don't want to sleep around while I'm single because I'd just be ruining the awesomeness that marriage provides and hurting my wife in the process. Being single is much better than being to the wrong person or marrying for convenience. Divorce is high in my family and so I want to make sure when i get married, I will stay married. Sometimes I feel insecure about it, but I know that God has a plan for me. Anyone who judges you for being single or for being a virgin at a later age is not worth it.
  6. Which Type of Guy Are You?

    I'm a nose guy. I always notice the nose first, then the face, hair and eyes.
  7. Do you like anyone on this site?

    I liked someone, but I haven't seen her here in a looong time. Wonder where she went?
  8. I think there is a double standard with that statement. I saw a YOUTUBE video about this topic. Some of the commenters said if you only date your race, it is self-preservation, but if you date other races instead of your own it is fetishistic and racist. I don't believe it is racist to have a preference for certain skin colors. I am black, but I'm heavily attracted to Hispanics, Native Americans, Asians, Brazilian and Pacific Islander girls, but I will date other races as well (including my own). No one has ever married outside our race in my family. It would be cool to shake things up a bit.
  9. Here are some of the arguments I've heard: "You can view it as making love and the physicality involved in having sex is another important part of BONDING. Women love bonding sessions and most men need sex regularly, it's give & take, so if they want to keep a man they have to give it up." "Girls don't understand why sex is important because they're not guys. Sex is important. It's biological. Even if we don't want to think about sex, if we're attracted to you, we're going to think about sex. It's like trying to tell a girl not to find something small and cuddly cute. I don't want to marry a slut, but I also don't want to marry a virgin who hasn't experienced anything and doesn't know how to please me." "Because for 98% of men sex is VERY important! Put it this way. On a biology standpoint, Women are emotional. Men are physical. So with that being said. We want sex (a physical act) as much as YOU want love (an emotional act). Our desire should not be less creditable because it's not important to you. Because would you stay with a guy that denied you love for years? He never once tells you or shows you that he's loves you for years? Probably not. Because love matters to you. As much as sex matters to him." "If you find a guy that is willing to "wait" for you until marriage. There is a 99% chance that he will cheat on you. Set that in stone." "Sex after marriage is a fools goal. Just being honest." “You don't want to marry without knowing EVERYTHING about your partner. There is no better way to do that than to live with someone and have sex. This should be common sense.â€
  10. I'll add this one too.
  11. "I was reading in the book of Numbers, and then I realized, I don’t have yours!†"I didn’t know angels flew this low." "Is your name Faith? Cause you’re the substance of things I’ve hoped for." "I’m no Joseph… perhaps you can help me interpreting the dreams I’ve been having about you?" "I didn’t believe in predestination until tonight." "Me. You. Song of Songs- The Remix."
  12. Hello! :)

    Welcome Steven! Shout-out for Toonami!!
  13. Race doesn't matter to me as long as we both share the same values and have a passion for Christ. I'd rather not limit myself to one race, even if I have certain preferences. Would you guys marry someone outside your race? Why or why not?
  14. "Bitch" as a term of endearment

    I don't like that word. Even though some people use it in a positive form. I personally don't use words that have a negative history behind it, because there is no way around the fact that it will offend some people. Besides it can't be that hard to find another word to imply a strong, self-confident, and empowered woman. I don't think "bitch" would include these traits. The N-word pisses me off more because I heard it 24-7 in high school and college. Even though the young guys accepted it, older people I knew were offended by it (yes, even other African Americans). If you use a word with a strong negative connotation it WILL offend me, I may not lash out (depending on your attitude when using it), but I won't be comfortable.
  15. Hey Joy, don't sweat it. Clearly, he wasn't ready for a real commitment, but him leaving just gives you space for the best. Here is a blog I found for you. Hopefully, it will make you feel better. Take care.
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  17. Your type

    I'd like a girl who is down to earth, intelligent, strong spiritual/Christian, an awkward turtle, nerdy (likes comics or video games) and loves Disney. Creative/artistic is a plus for me since I'm the polar opposite. I don't really like the type of girls that all the guys chase. I remember back in high school having this huge crush on the smartest girl in our class and no guys gave her any attention, but she got mine.
  18. Captain America is right. Welcome to the site Blaine. I hope you find encouragement here with your fellow waiters. Also you should check out the WTM survival guide written by Mike; the site founder.
  19. Hey guys, I was watching a video on YouTube. It was talking about how virginity is just a social construct created by men tied to the economics of post agricultural marriage. Whereby a woman's primary value was her virginity as a breeding stock. Do you think virginity should matter anymore or do you think virginity should continue to be valued in the opposite sex? Virginity is important to me because it signifies that a person has avoided the emotional trauma of sharing themselves with someone who dipped the next week because he or she wasn't finished playing around. When I give myself to a woman I want to share my all with her, not just my body. There is no getting around the fact that sex is emotional. Although, its popular to take the emotional aspect out of it and treat it as purely recreational. Alot of people in the comments are saying virginity is just a BS outdated concept that doesn't matter anymore because we are slowly letting go of religious traditional values held by previous generations (I doubt it'll be in our lifetime though). If you ask me I think we need to hold on to those values, but also not be judgmental towards people who don't share them. I don't want someone who has been around the block, UNLESS she has changed her ways for the better. Here is the video: Let me know what you think.
  20. Yeah I understand that. Her character is far more important than her virginity and it is not a deal-breaker if she is a non-virgin. I don't expect women to be virgins until marriage, but I DO want them to respect me for my decision and not shame me for it. Most women (excluding the women here) expect men past a certain age to have experience and if they don't they will be looked upon as strange or reject losers. Virgin shaming is just as common as slut-shaming and both are equally damaging. I guess its just so rare for men to be virgins past college in our society.They just assume all guys are having sex starting from high school onward. Thats probably why male virginity is not talked about in the video.
  21. "Having multiple sexual partners in your life will give you the experience you need to please your wife. Having multiple relationships in your life will give you the experience you need to keep your relationship with your wife working. Ask yourself, is being a virgin (unexperimented) in both girls and sex a quality women are looking for in a husband? Being a virgin is not healthy. Part of the socialization/maturation process is learning when to conform. Saying sex before marriage is bad, but being a porn addict....what an irony. You better have a normal sex life, than being a porn addict. It would be much healthier. Our puritanical society has conditioned you all to believe that monogamy is the only righteous path. Suppressing your primal urges is denial of the self and denial of the self is corruption of the spirit. So are you gonna live your life today or wait to get hit by a bus and die a virgin?" I agree with him about porn addiction, but I believe love is hard to find nowadays. Sex to me is so linear and minuscule in the grand picture of intimate relationships. You can get sex anywhere and from anyone, but love, understanding, care, loyalty, devotion, and personal beauty will only come from a few people. It doesn't matter how many "nuts" you've "busted" if its in a bunch of hollow logs. You don't need to spread your seed like a dog to be more committed in a relationship. What you need is a backbone and a mature persona. You will always be attracted to other men or women because its human nature, but it doesn't mean you have to act on it. The issue is not sex, its maturity. Its a shame that nowadays sexual experience is a prerequisite to courtship/marriage or you are automatically excluded as a dating prospect. Since sex is a natural God-given desire I think it will come naturally with the RIGHT person. Even with inexperience. What do you guys think about this?
  22. Too Late Didn't Wait...Starting Over

    Hello Airlie. Welcome to the site! We all make mistakes and it is never too late to start over. Just because you had sex before doesn't mean you have to keep doing it. No matter what people say. I really respect your desire to save yourself. You came to the right place and we will hold you up until your marriage. Happy New Year!
  23. Hello, all!

    Hey Eric, Welcome to the site! You have the same name as my younger brother. My parents are divorced as well and my brothers are not virgins. It can sometimes feel isolating when you're the only virgin left in the family (of course kids don't count), but there are others out there who are doing the same. Stay strong brother.
  24. I don't know Ian. Your wife might be an exception. The majority of American women would not want a romantic relationship without premarital sex. A concern I have with non-waiters is that since we don't share the same standards, she won't value sex the way I do. Which in turn, she may jump at the chance to seduce me when I'm feeling vulnerable or sexually frustrated. Afterall, she couldn't care less if we have sex now or later. That's why I highly prefer someone who is also a waiter. Hopefully, there are more women like Ian's wife.
  25. Hello ladies, I was reading another forum about relationships and was wondering if most women are usually turned off by a guy's inexperience with women. I don't mean sex, but dating or being in relationships. Below is a quote that summarizes what I was thinking about. “The older you get the more experienced they get, and the more foolish you look for not being as experienced for your age. The older you get the more pathetic you seem to the opposite sex.â€