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About Sobriquet

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  1. I let my better sensibilities overcome my emotional attachment. If I thought I could be around her in the capacity of "just for fun" like she wanted I'm lying to myself. I care too much for her, and I'm not going to hang around until she gets bored and finds a guy at a party to lay with. If she wants meaningless, vapid hookups she can go ahead. I'm not going to stand on the sidelines, and when she's done having her "fun" and decides to find somebody decent I hope she doesn't think it will be me. It won't be. And I still don't understand the hookup culture, but I don't think I ever will. It all comes down to how much emotion you attach to sexual relations. Apparently I value it a lot more than she does. For some it's a meaningful connection, for others I suppose it's more of a hobby lol. As an aside, I hated having to send the message via text, but there was no way for me to see her within the next week. I'm not going to let it fester that long. I've just got to move on. It's been a couple of hours and she hasn't messaged back. I suppose it makes little difference if she does or not. Even though I don't mean much to her I still want to part on good terms.
  2. Singlehood

    Not for lack of trying, that's for sure! I'm not what's generally seen as a very attractive guy, and I'm just not all that social. It's not that I don't want to be, but I just don't "get" a lot of social things. When I get to college I hope there's a social group for waiters, or if not I'm going to start one. I feel like most waiters want to date somebody that is, and that's really a pretty specific trait in a person in light of how uncommon it is. It could really help people of our stance find somebody significant to have a group to meet in person. Many waiters don't know about this website.
  3. Tattoos& Piercings

    Would you ever get a tattoo of your wife's name or wedding date/day you met/fell in love etc No. I don't do tattoos. Do you like a girl with tattoos and/ or piercings? I've always found them sexually attractive with the exception of facial tattoos and piercings. However, I have yet to meet a girl with multiple tattoos and piercings that shares my moral standards. I have nothing morally against tattoos or piercings, it's just that many of the girls with them a lot of them are what I would consider to be of low moral standing. Would you ever consider getting a tattoo or piercing if someone suggested it to you? Nope. I don't do either.
  4. She wasn't up front about it at all. Never bothered to say a thing about it until I confronted her about why she didn't want to be in a relationship. She just assumed I wanted the same. I don't think it was out of dishonesty. I think she just never considered I wanted something more. And, sorry, but what she wants to be is a slut. Facts are facts. You can do what you want, but don't expect everyone else to sugarcoat it for you. Be ready to defend your decisions and live up to consequences. She doesn't want relationships. She wants to foregoe meaningful relationships to pursue one night stands and hookups at parties. Not saying she can't or even shouldn't, but it's naive to think criticism of your actions is verboten. I made this post fully knowing somebody was probably going to give me hell for it, and I'm not offended that it happened. Didn't storm off by the way. We're on very good terms and could still be whatever it is we are. I'd really have no problem with that to be honest. We have a lot of fun together, and as of now she's still an honest girl in terms of her actions. I'm not otherwise involved with anyone, and there's really nobody for me to pursue at the moment. I don't see anything wrong with having non-sexual fun with someone. You don't have to date a girl to take her to the movies and laugh over dinner. She's paying for her half of the bill though, lol. I'm not really mad at her. I was, but that was more of a symptom of my frustration at another failed relationship. I've cooled down a bit, and I'm not really upset about it anymore. I just have a lot of trouble understanding this whole throwing away morals for college deal. What's the point? I mean, if they're all meaningless hookups, what's the point? I can understand wanting to have sex, but I don't get why having a bunch of different partners would be a desirable thing. I don't get wanting to be used. She's refused to have sex with any of her past boyfriends, and now she's just going to get with random people? It makes absolutely no sense, but it's the truth.
  5. Yeah, it just hurts a lot. I don't know what her deal is though. She didn't act like it was a hookup or casual sex kind of relationship. She even told me it was too soon when I tried to kiss her (I did kiss her on a later date). She acted like she cared for me. I met her parents and everything, she wanted to meet mine. It was so not sexual in nature. A lot of time spent talking, joking. I feel like I was just used to give her emotional validation. Somebody to make her feel good. Heh, thanks for the definition. I've always seen the two terms used pretty interchangeably. It's just such a shame. She seemed like such a good girl, and I thought I had finally found somebody. The second girl I've ever gotten to kiss, and it meant next to nothing. I don't know if I'm stupid or weak or what. I still do want to talk to her. We're on good terms now. I've told her I'd be willing to be with her until she finds somebody else. I guess I've got some vague hope of making her change her mind. On one hand I'm furious, on the other I'm just sad. I don't know if I want to hate her or miss her.
  6. Sorry for the explicit title. First off, been a long time around. I found myself in a nice WTM relationship and all was well. That ended, and I've been looking around for over a year now. Suffice to say, I did find a yound lady in my class who I liked. We just graduated from high school. She was a virgin, didn't smoke, didn't drink, did well in school, no tattoos, no piercings. Everything was going well. We got along just fine, and she was very sweet to me. Yesterday I told her I wanted to go steady, and then the truth came out. She didn't want to be in a stable relationship because she wanted to be a whore in college. Not her exact words. She said she wanted to see what it was like "to party, flirt, and hang out with guys." I translated it to she wanted to screw around in college, and she confirmed though didn't quite care for my wording of it. (HA!) I told her I wished I had known that's how she was before I got involved. Her reply was, and this is a direct quote from her text, "Thats not how I am. That's how I want to be... I just want to see what it's like." The hell is this? Women actually want to "see what it's like" to be used as somebody plaything? I know you're not supposed to wish poorly on somebody, but I can't say I won't find it funny if her poor decisions come back to bite her. If you can't tell, I'm a little angry. I cared a lot about this girl, but it turns out I was just supposed to be the first in her long line of guys. She said she didn't think I'd get so attached. Oh well. Good riddance to a (future) whore!
  7. Chalk me up as another lover of women's feet. I know one young woman who has long, slender feet with long, slender toes. It's just so graceful and sexy looking. It comes down to the toes. Stubby toes are kind of bleh, long toes are sensual to me. Fair skin. I love fair skinned girls. The lighter the better. Tans are a huge turn off for me. Shoulders. Always a huge turn on for me to see a woman's bare shoulders. I'd prefer to give a woman a shoulder massage than touch her breasts.
  8. I suppose I will be the dissenting voice here. I have similar feelings to the original posters girlfriend. I draw the WTM line at vaginal/anal sex. I've never had much of a problem with oral sex, fondling, or anything of that nature. No matter what, you have to find somebody who shares your line no matter where you draw it. I expect from my women only what I expect from myself. I am not religious. My moral views are taken from a non-religious standpoint, and that is a huge factor in my difference of opinion. I do what I find to be right.
  9. I've only ever kissed two girls. One of them it was her first kiss, the other had kissed, er, quite a few guys. She said I was pretty good at it. Obviously, seeing as to the forum we're on, I am indeed a virgin.
  10. She'd be gone no ifs, ands, or buts.
  11. Plenty of "born-again" virgins here. We're very open and accepting about it. Make this the changing moment in your life! You won't regret it.
  12. I'm 17 and I know at least a half dozen. We're in a very religious community so that has a lot to do with it. I suspect there are others, but like you said it doesn't come up often. I do wonder how many will give up once they get out of high school though.
  13. Cheating during the relationship

    I too am very afraid of cheating. My GF is WTM, at least at the moment she is, so I don't have to worry about cheating which is mainly motivated by sex. I'm just afraid of college peer pressure, but that is another matter entirely. I'm with Jayspyder on this. You cheat, and you're gone. I don't care how much you say you loved me, or how much I loved you. If you cheated you clearly don't love me, and I was wrong to give you my love. I'd really suggest trying to find a nice WTM guy.
  14. New relationship - how to tell him I'm waiting?

    Yep, be straight about it. If he has any problems with it send him to the curb. Be warned, there are many guys out there who will look at you afterwards as an opportunity to "deflower" a virgin. For some reason a certain set of boys (I refuse to call them men) are obsessed with getting in bed with virgins. He may pretend to be okay with it at first to get your trust. If he pushes or hints towards sex get rid of him ASAP. If he's genuinely okay with it fantastic! Better yet, he may even be a waiter himself. You never know.
  15. Common Anti-WTM Arguments

    That's one of the things I hate most. I can't stand when people push you to have sex in college. "Experimenting" is the biggest free loving hippie load of BS to have ever been uttered.