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The book"Sacred sex"

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I haven't read the book "Sacred sex" written by Tim Alan Gardner.

It's a christian book I've heard about and someone shared a very short extract of it. 

I found it very deep and impactful and simply want to share with you all...

Don't hesitate if you want to share your opinion :)

" He says:  “…great marriages and great sex lives don’t just happen.  They are created by faith in God and by consistent, hard work…To have a great, God-honoring, soul-touching sexual relationship, we must seek our mate’s needs above our own.  We must seek oneness above pleasure… We must ruthlessly battle against any outside force (pornography, abuse, other relationships) that would seek to destroy our intimacy.  We must accept our mates just as they are, as God’s perfect gift.  We must see sex as a celebration of God’s presence.  We must enter into utmost intimacy with our mates with a perspective of sacredness, holiness, and grace.” (pg. 204)

Gardner reminds us all that love is more than just a feeling…it involves actions.  When you love someone you should want to show it.  You should want to “fill their love tank” by speaking to them in their primary love language.  And if there are hurts or things in your past that hinder you moving forward, he reminds us that:  “God is bigger than any hurt and greater than any cold relationship.  He can bring you out of the wilderness and into the Promised Land.”


Here is the link of the book : http://amzn.to/2uO2Jld

Official Summary of the book :

For years, Christians have been told that sex is God's creation, designed by him as a gift to husbands and wives. Yet few couples actually experience sex as a spiritual, God-ordained experience. Rather than admit their lack of fulfillment, many couples hide their disappointment and confusion, while others attempt to solve the problem through better sexual technique. 

Unfortunately, all the advice on improved technique fails to explain the one thing that makes sense of it all. Despite the proliferation of resources to enhance sexual satisfaction, couples continue to struggle in their sexual relationship. In fact, author and licensed counselor Tim Gardner estimates that as few as 2 percent of married couples ever experience a truly exciting, energizing, and soul-touching physical bond. But now, that can change. 

A couple's sexual relationship has a far higher purpose than pleasure or procreation. Scripture makes it clear that sex is the one thing on earth that joins two people into one. Now readers can learn how to approach marital sex in a way that brings the fulfillment of true oneness. Sacred Sex shows how they can experience a beautiful, God-ordained life of intimacy that blesses them far beyond the bedroom walls, serves as an act of worship to God, and touches their hearts and souls in ways they never could have imagined.

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This book must be carefully written, it feels right. When couples search one another for their utmost sexual fulfillment they find it but when they consistently look outside especially pornography, because there is comparison on the scene, it becomes difficult.

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I have actually read this book recently. While there definitely is some good stuff in there, I found it its core premise as sex mysticism somewhat wrapped in a Christian spiritual context. I found his arguments for his core premise flawed and insufficient. I was expecting a thorough exegesis of Scripture but was disappointed. He basically states that Kama Sutra and Tantric sex are "all an effort to achieve spiritual sex without acknowledging the God of the Bible". While he didn't go so far as to explicitly state that we should practice Tantra/Kama Sutra but replace its spiritual concepts with the Christian God, it's pretty much inferred.  To me it is the start of a creep (or a leap) into pagan theologies practiced in ancient Canaan so if that is not your thing, you'd want to be very careful. Tantra and Kama Sutra are sexual theologies built on cosmic humanism. Eastern mysticism has been creeping into the Christian faith for some time now and worth educating oneself about.Some extracts:

"God designed marital sex to be an encounter with the divine. Sexual intimacy, with all of its overwhelming emotions and heart-pounding sensations, was never intended to be experienced solely in the emotional and physical realms. Rather, it is to be a spiritual, even mystical, experience in which two bodies become one. God is present in a very real way every time this happens. Sex really is holy. It’s a sacred place shared in the intimacy of marriage. And it’s an act of worship, a sacrament of marriage that invites and welcomes the very presence of God."

"I’ve known times of sexual intimacy with my wife to be the very presence of God Himself."

"...every time we make love, we are ushered into the presence of God."

 

 

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