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Do you abstain from other things besides sex too?

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I'm curious about something. Along with being a waiter, I am also a vegetarian, a teetotaller, and I will never smoke or do drugs as a personal rule.

Do you think being a waiter also makes you prone to abstinence with other things, or is this just me?

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I abstain from socialization. I also don't smoke or do drugs and things like that. 

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I abstain from the same things as you, @Yin-Yang. :) 

In addition to those, I don't have any social networking accounts or even a smart phone yet (though I might soon because my old 2010 phone is having issues with texting -_-). In recent years I started abstaining from excess consumerism and from owning too many objects I don't need. I also refrain from anything I think will have a bad influence on me, has an immoral plot line or violent theme (I don't watch the news or television, and avoid advertisements). I never watch anything with nudity.

It seems like I abstain from a lot, but it's just a natural result of striving to live a good, simple, and healthy life. Abstention extends beyond the physical realm. "Whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things." - Philippians 4:8

Yes, I believe waiters are more inclined towards consciously avoiding certain commonly accepted, "enjoyable" behaviors. We generally want to live well and don't fear going against the grain.

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18 minutes ago, redgrapes said:

I abstain from the same things....

How would you define immoral plot line?

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22 minutes ago, Thomist said:

How would you define immoral plot line?

One that glorifies something immoral (premarital sex, murder, drug trade, etc) by misrepresenting it to impressionable audiences.

I guess there are other complexities I could have mentioned, like characters and content, but I couldn't think of a better overarching umbrella term than "plot." For example, I would avoid anything that used the protagonist to demonstrate being mean and selfish as "cooler" than being kind to others. Regarding content, I would avoid any that makes me feel violated as a viewer. Many shows and movies try to push the envelope to be "edgy" and viewers mistake their discomfort with the material as being entertained, mentally stimulated, or emotionally excited.

Anyway, I just find my life more enjoyable without subjecting myself to influences that don't suit me.

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I only eat organic meat. I'm trying to eat clean 100%, but I have to work on it. Some foods are always calling for me. 

I don't watch the news either. I mostly just watch cartoons, and animated films. I don't watch any other kind of movie, unless the plot is so interesting that I just have to, which is rare. I'm still a sucker for reality t.v, but not just the crazy kind people talk about (hoarders, 600lb life, cooking shows, and anything dealing with "real" people). Some shows are bound to have inappropriate stuff, so I either skip it or don't watch the show anymore if it's persistent and making me uncomfortable. 

I always save things for a special time. Graduation, my birthday, my wedding, FRIDAY, any random event. I'm starting to worry that I'll miss out on a lot of things because I keep saving them. I'm the kind of person to save the best piece of candy for last, only to end up giving it away, because someone asks for it when it's all I have left. :mellow:

 

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I think it's more common for waiters to abstain from other things because waiting tends to line up with conservative belief systems that believe in abstaining from other things.

I drink occasionally and primarily to get drunk because I enjoy it and it knocks the edges off, allowing me to make friends and bonds I wouldn't have been able to otherwise. It also leads to some hilarious moments. I hope to try other recreational drugs as the opportunities present themselves.

I've been abstaining from sugary food for almost a year and a half and have lost like 40 lbs. Plan to abstain from sugary foods for the rest of my life, as I'm pretty much an addict and it's been the best health-decision of my life to cut them out.

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@Adam I actually did mean 90% of the time, lol. I don't know why I said 100%. I "cheat" once a week (well, that's what I did when I was actually following the diet). I wonder if going so hard with the diet is what caused me to not being able to get back to it at all. Although, when I did do it, I was really happy with myself, and I felt good. And I enjoyed my "cheat" day.

I think that because cartoons can't rely on sex, murder, and whatever else, they have to focus more on actually being good (PIXAR). Although, I've had to cut some cartoons out due to the blatant suggestive themes that were very terribly hidden. Mostly because I think it's unnecessary and selfish of the adults who make them. Rocko's Modern Life is a no for me now. And in the decoder episode of Dexter's lab, Dede said something along the lines of ".... is for big idcks" (decode that). Wow. I still like DL though.

Don't wanna derail this thread so I'm done. :lol: Anyway, I think the correlation between waiting and abstaining from other things is probably limited to things that are morally significant (to you, I suppose), and not just things that someone doesn't do for health, or personal preference. Otherwise, we can argue that a lot of people don't do a lot of things for various reasons, and most people aren't waiters, so there would be no connection there. I don't know where I'm going with this, lol.

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Haha @redgrapes is almost my twin except I eat lunch meat.

The question : God's message of your body being a temple is something that's kept me away from a lot of sin over the years. Drinking was always something I looked down upon and I'm thankful I never started. Eating Healthy is a big part of my life, I don't eat out at all and prefer to make my own meals. Living a more minimalist has been a focal point of the decisions I've made regarding career and lifestyle expectations for the past 5 or so years. I don't drink caffeine or do other drugs either obviously.

I've pretty much avoided all social media with the exception of this site, still have a flip phone, and don't watch TV at all. I am still a sucker for 1950s Westerns on Prime though. :P Satan's position as price of the air is more evident than ever. I'm very sensitive to people gossiping and doing evil so I really can't handle watching TV with all of its pro homo/pedophile agenda and obsession with violence and hating others (especially politics). It just gets internalized and I think about it for days on end. :lol:

Just the other day I heard some horrible trash on a "Christian" radio station about divorce. The woman was singing about becoming "stronger" after leaving her husband and "finding" God. Completely disgusting. She didn't find anyone but Satan and she's living in adultery now! God would NOT lead someone in that direction, ever! I can't believe a Christian channel would play such garbage, I should have seen it coming as they also had some "rap" aka trash song a year or two ago where curse words were in the lyrics. Still not over that one either.

Being a crybaby when it comes to testimony is one of the side effects of abstaining from things that desensitize you. Last night we had an excellent testimony from a Navy veteran who became addicted to meth and was living homeless for years. He reached the top of a hotel and right before jumping he let out a prayer asking for God to make something out of his life. Just then his sister called him crying and saying she wanted him to move back. :o Anyway long story is he went to a Christian University to be a pastor where he met his wife and they now have 2 cute daughters and a son. He has an amazing outreach program with Hawaii's homeless population now.

It definitely made me cry and I was looking around trying to find other people crying too! :D I'd love to do something like that in the ministry field. It gives me hope of finding a wife later in life too haha.

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"Do you think being a waiter also makes you prone to abstinence with other things, or is this just me?"

There are definitely some very strong correlations but I don't think that that is the causation. I think it is more that the reasons/beliefs/ideas that led one to be a waiter are also what influences ones outlook on other matters. So for me, being a waiter is the natural conclusion of the beliefs I have. I don't drink, don't smoke, don't use narcotics, etc.... (I do eat meat though ;) ) but it's not because of being a waiter. It is because of some of the same reasons I have for being a waiter. I think a desire for purity and a focus on health influences all of these things. 

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I am also a vegetarian and have never and will never do drugs. I only drink on occasion but it's always a tiny amount- I'll never get drunk. I also don't swear (unless perhaps I'm singing a rap song:lol::rolleyes:).

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Second what @Syzygy said. I don't drink, smoke, or do drugs. I think for waiters it may be slightly easier to abstain from other (unhealthy) things because they are more used to being the odd person out and dealing with pressures to do things they don't want to without caving in.

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I have never and will never smoke or do drugs. I used to drink alcohol but I really don't anymore, even though I'm not necessarily opposed to it.

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As sex is integrated into who we are, and never separate...I have found it extremely beneficial not delve into other forms of sex.  Masturbation and pornography use are soul-killers.  I know this from expirience!  Back when I was looking at porn and masturbating, I was so angry and an escapist into these unhealthy things instead of focusing on fixing the problem.  I would delve into fantasy and neglect my real-life responsibilities.  Since I have stopped looking at porn and masturbating I am so much freer and happy.  

I don't smoke and never have.  I do enjoy a drink now and then, but I'm careful not to have too much.  I don't like feeling out of control.  

I abstain from meat on Fridays during Lent.  

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I'm a pescetarian and I'll never smoke nor do drugs nor get drunk. I guess it does go hand in hand with waiting

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On 11/14/2017 at 8:47 PM, LeeGood said:

I obstain from coffee :) it used to be a strong addiction of mine

 

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I wish I'd found this website like... 10 years ago. Has it been here that long? I like seeing other people who wait for marriage and abstain from other things. 

I personally abstain from nudity, swearing, vulgarity, alcohol, caffeine, smoking, and drugs. This can mean avoiding certain song lyrics, movies, places, and people I surround myself with. 

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I abstain from alcohol, coffee, and other vices. Alcohol is mostly for my mental health, coffee because I never cared for the taste. Smoking or drugs would be dealbreakers for me and I've thankfully never gotten involved. I stay away from swearing too; never really saw the point. I admit that I've struggled with pornography in the past (a sadly common problem for guys in the internet age), but it's something I've learned to leave behind as I want to be a better person for my future wife.

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I abstain from alcohol, drugs, smoking, cussing and nudity in movies, shoes, etc. Mostly inspired by my religion so I feel like the correlation between them is correct since it's also why I waited til marriage. 

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I'm not so strongly religious, but I try and live as optimal/ healthy as possible.

Cigarettes, alcohol, caffeine, drugs, kissing, sexual contact, I've abstained from them all. I'm good good at finding clean and healthy (mostly organic) food sources with no pesticides, filter my water, keep track of my blood sugar levels, etc. I don't mind cooking food without meat in it as that is currently what I eat.

If you ever want tips on healthy eating, hit me up, I know some pretty standard nutrition info that is generally good for everyone.

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Great question! I was not aware of this before reading your post, but I have realized a lot things are being controlled in my life now: when I eat meat I feel guilty and I also quit eating fast food as well... ok 80%. Because of my environment it is taking some time to shut the door to all of these stuff. However if there is one thing that I have not eaten for 2 years now is bubble gums. Wow... it was a little break that I allowed myself (when I feel I had eaten too much I would put a stop for a certain amount of time). The last time I tried this, I did not impose myself any length of time. And here I am today totally free to eat back a chewing gum as soon as I feel like doing it, but actually the desire is absent. Until when? I don't know!!!

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drugs, smoking, and drinking. i suppose you could say i abstain from normalcy as well. if i have not said or done anything peculiar for twenty-four hours assume aliens walk among us and i am now one of them

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