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Hey gals,

Another question: How would you feel if your husband/bf was looking at pictures of swimsuit models/scantily-clad women either in sports/health magazines or on a billboard, etc? Would it annoy/bother/hurt you? Would you not care 'cuz you think guys are like that? Would you not care cuz you know he thinks ur sexier? etc?

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I wouldn't want a Sport Illustrated Swimsuit Edition in our home--it's practically porn becausethey are the littlest string bikinis ever, wet and posing suggestively.....why does he need that if we have a good sex life? If he says something like how he thinks I'm sexier or whatever I wouldn't believe it...actions speak louder than words..

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Well,

I'd be lying if I said it wouldn't bother me. If my husband bought these magazines just to ogle the women on the pages, I would feel disrespected. I am a confident woman. However, I know that I don't look like the women in those magazines, so I would probably feel somewhat insecure.

Do men admire attractive women with good bodies? Of course. Do women admire men with good bodies? Absolutely! However, I think that it's important to realize and understand that when you're in a relationship, you should want to protect the feelings of your significant other. It just boils down to respect. I don't know what my BF/husband looks at when I'm not around. And, I wouldn't spend a lot of time worrying about that. However, I would hope that he would think it was okay for him to blatantly do this in my presence.

Mali

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Ditto Mali....if I'm married, I'm not gonna keep poster of Channing Tatum shirtless and Taylor Lautner's Twilight poster (don't have those, just examples) from magazines....it's just totally disrespectful as Mali said. Will I still say they have amazing abs? Of course, but I don't need to ogle them....as he shouldn't either.

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yeah It would bother me. Even if he did think I was sexier I still wouldn't like it. I mean hopefully he would respect me enough to not look at women in other magazines and such. Likewise I should have the same respect for him.

Holdingtohope

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It would bother me. If I bought magazines with hot guys in them just to look at the hot guys, or because Iiked to look at the hot guys, it would make me a total hypocrite. However, I never look at pictures of hot guys, I absolutely never watch porn, I don't read erotica, I have no interest in male swimsuit covers, etc. If my husband wants to look at that stuff at work, or with friends, I can't stop him. But in our house? NO WAY. lol.

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This is a very good question Mark! Well, I will be honest Mark, actually it never bothered me but I was so totally naive about the male mind that I never really felt threatened because I didn't really know that when a man looks at women who are displayed in sexually suggestive ways how far their imagination runs. Like, as a girl, I'm looking at the hair, makeup, fashion, etc. You know the girly stuff-well not guys apparently. Mainly, because I'm girl so didn't know this at first. For example, when I was dating my ex and there were magazines of gorgeous girls in their bikini's I'd ask him to look at them with me and to let me know which bathing suit he thought was cutest or which girl he thought was prettiest. Just as my girl friends and I do. Like "Oooh her hair is pretty and I love her lipstick. She's gorgeous!." Kinda thing. Well because my ex is a guy and he knew what he'd be thinking he'd say "No, I don't want to look at them. I want to look at you" or something to that affect. Well, I've just begun to learn about the male mind and how they battle with things of that nature as it is so it probably wouldn't be a good idea to encourage it or accept it. I don't think it shows confidence, even if that may be the case, but I do believe it's asking for trouble because your husband will want to stray if he sees your accepting of it. Good lesson for me to learn from. & as others have stated it is a respect thing.

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For the sake of good humoured argument :-D

I get you ladies. Its offensive and insensitive. It's an unrealistic expectation that no real woman can live up to. But at least we dont force you to look with us. Remember this the next time you make us sit through a stupid romantic chick flick. THAT is an unrealistic expectation. Chick flicks and romantic comedy and the twighlight movies are female porn.

I will never be the charming British guy with weird teeth. I burp I fart and I wolf my food down too quick. I am a barnyard animal but im your barnyard animal. If you scratch me behind my ears when I remember to put the seat down my tail wags and I am likely to try real hard to remember. :-P

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For the sake of good humoured argument :-D

I get you ladies. Its offensive and insensitive. It's an unrealistic expectation that no real woman can live up to. But at least we dont force you to look with us. Remember this the next time you make us sit through a stupid romantic chick flick. THAT is an unrealistic expectation. Chick flicks and romantic comedy and the twighlight movies are female porn.

I totally agree. Just as porn gives men an unrealistic idea of what a woman should look like, chick flicks can give women unrealistic ideas of how a man should act. Not all of us can look like Brad Pitt or whoever is the hot celeb guy these days. We certainly can't read your minds despite what chick flicks portray the perfect guy being able to do. Real relationships require communication and work from both parties. And no matter how many chick flicks try to say otherwise, YOU CAN'T CHANGE A BAD BOY. It doesn't work. He will just continue to abuse you and you will get even more hurt. This is why Twilight and Pride and Prejudice are harmful to women. I'm personally shocked at how many women eat that crap up.

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I think you can still watch those movoes, but take them with a grain of salt....at least tgats ehat i do anyway...

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YOU CAN'T CHANGE A BAD BOY

Agree 110%

This is why Twilight and Pride and Prejudice are harmful to women. I'm personally shocked at how many women eat that crap up.

Whoa...tell me how you really feel lol. I can't comment on Twilight but regarding P&P I respectfully disagree with you.

Have you read the book or seen the A&E version? Mr. Darcy is FAR from a bad boy. He has genuine feelings for Elizabeth and he didn't go around monopolizing women. He came across as a jerk because he was introverted and not good at making conversation. He was held in high esteem by all those who knew him, including his maid; this was revealed when Elizabeth visited Pemberley. It's not a story of a bad boy becoming good, it's the story of two good people (Darcy and Elizabeth) becoming better.

The bad boy in P&P is "Mr. Wicham", and believe me he is far from glorified. Pretty much P&P shows that the bad boy is alluring but that they are manipulators and should be avoided. So, if anything, good guys like us should appreciate P&P!

Just MHO. Thnx for listening.

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O,

I think he was going with how they are more fairytale and romantic stories....how its hard for guys today to measure up to the old fashioned gentlemanly guys in that.

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Thats borderline pessimism not sarcasm lol you just gotta look in the right pkace...most girls i know at my chirxh live that

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Sorry, didnt mean to offend you; its even harder to tell via text than phone or in person

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Agree 110%

Whoa...tell me how you really feel lol. I can't comment on Twilight but regarding P&P I respectfully disagree with you.

Have you read the book or seen the A&E version? Mr. Darcy is FAR from a bad boy. He has genuine feelings for Elizabeth and he didn't go around monopolizing women. He came across as a jerk because he was introverted and not good at making conversation. He was held in high esteem by all those who knew him, including his maid; this was revealed when Elizabeth visited Pemberley. It's not a story of a bad boy becoming good, it's the story of two good people (Darcy and Elizabeth) becoming better.

Maybe P&P wasn't the best example. But when I read the book, my interpretation of Mr. Darcy was initially he came off as arrogant, self-absorbed and flatout rude. As such, Elizabeth wanted nothing to do with him. It wasn't until she rejected him did he realize how much his character flaws are affecting those around him and he decides to change himself. Sure, he has a lot of good qualities too, but it just seemed like a classic example of how it could be perceived as a good girl changing a bad boy.

In the end, it was a pretty good read. I'm kind of interested in reading the zombie version of P&P. Yes, you heard right. There is a zombie version

http://www.amazon.com/Pride-Prejudice-Zombies-Classic-Ultraviolent/dp/1594743347/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1333398770&sr=8-1

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In the end, it was a pretty good read. I'm kind of interested in reading the zombie version of P&P. Yes, you heard right. There is a zombie version

...Is it bad that I actually own a copy of Pride and Prejudice and Zombies?

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ZOMBIES! They are onto something! They could get any guy (or at least me for one) to watch any chick flick by adding zombie mayhem into the story.

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"But at least we dont force you to look with us. Remember this the next time you make us sit through a stupid romantic chick flick. THAT is an unrealistic expectation. Chick flicks and romantic comedy and the twighlight movies are female porn."

Whoa! Wait a sec... I understand for the sake of a good argument, but isn't that just excusing one problem because of another? Kind of like, if my classmate cheats on a test, then that should make it okay for me to cheat too? What about the rest of us girls who can't stand chick flicks, romantic comedy and Twilight movies, while their other girlfriends are ogling that guy in the Calvin Klein underwear ad? No justice for us? :lol:

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While this is a very interesting topic... Did somone say zombies?!?! Sorry, zombie movies really are my biggest weakness. I know it's bad to admit, but I just can't help it.

As far as the swimsuit model portion goes... I don't want my future husband to go out searching for these images when he has me to look at, but they are still everywhere we look. I find it most important that he can disregard these artifical images, and see the woman that he loves rather than some photoshopped image of an impossible to achieve perfection. I will try not to be angry at him if he still looks, because they're so bombarded that I'm willing to believe it was just a temporary weakness.

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I wouldn't want a Sport Illustrated Swimsuit Edition in our home--it's practically porn becausethey are the littlest string bikinis ever, wet and posing suggestively.....why does he need that if we have a good sex life? If he says something like how he thinks I'm sexier or whatever I wouldn't believe it...actions speak louder than words..

Not to mention, those stringy bikini tops are often poorly fitted/not supportive, and hence not all that flattering.

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Once again, I feel a bit out of place.  This time it's because I buy the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition for myself every year, haha. The painted on swimsuits are my favorite. No joke!

 

So, no, I couldn't care less if my boyfriend/husband looked at those kinds of things.  I'll almost certainly be ogling the same stuff right along side him!

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Wish every girl was like you but I personally never bought it. Do watch the interviews and behind the scenes stuff on si.com and I do like the painted on swimsuits. Looks good and very detailed. 

Once again, I feel a bit out of place.  This time it's because I buy the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition for myself every year, haha. The painted on swimsuits are my favorite. No joke!

 

So, no, I couldn't care less if my boyfriend/husband looked at those kinds of things.  I'll almost certainly be ogling the same stuff right along side him!

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I would be very disappointed..  :( It would mean I married the wrong man who doesn't respect my feelings. Our values would be so very different. 

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