Geraldine

Porn : need some help to figth against it ?

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ahah! Thank you Daz :)

 

I hope this one works ? :D

 

http://www.fightthenewdrug.org/

 

Edit: The name of the website is Figth the new drug.

I wanted also to suggest some books from a man I really estimate. Douglass WEISS

He was sexually abused when he was a child and has experimented really hard things in his sexuality.

When he has been healed by God he wrote some very accurate books that can be very helpful.

 

One of them is :"CLEAN"

You can find the book on amazon for example

 

http://www.amazon.com/Clean-Proven-Committed-Sexual-Integrity/dp/1400204682

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Hi guys ! :)

 

Me again !

My awesome best friend shared another thing with me and I thought that could be very useful to those of you who are fighting.

I want to say that for all men out there who are fighting against porn, I do understand your struggles and temptations.

I realise that this is harder and harder nowadays.

And I really want to let you know that you have all my support and understanding.

That is truly courageous from you and not so easy to do :)

 

So the document in attachment is a reminder of all the harmful effects porn can have on brain, heart and how it destroys meaningful relationships.

When you are tempted and you think of all the damages that could occur to you it can be very useful.

I hope it helps guys :)

 

FTND_Harmful Effects of P.pdf

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Geraldine, it really means a lot knowing you care about those of us who are struggling with this terrible sin. For most of us, at least for me, this is something I know I'll have to constantly battle with for the rest of my life. 

 

I've researched a lot on the physical and mental effects of porn use and the findings are really scary. It's already bad enough that porn destroys relationships and our spiritual growth, let alone that combined with the physical and mental. It definitely strengthens my resolve in combating this. So thank you for having grace and for your encouragement. Every little bit helps. It makes this fight just that much easier :)

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Hehe Invincible :)

 

You definitively have all my deep respect and honor.

I'm really happy to help a little in this hard battle.

Thank you very much for having the courage to share this battle publicly.

Not easy to do at all.

It requires a lot of strength.

Your wife will respect you and love you all the more for this.

At least, you figth.

Some men don't even care to figth. so thank you for wanting to be the man God wants you to be.

You are already a winner with this mentality :)

Stay strong. And congratulations to you ! :)

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Hey guys ! :) :)

 

It's me again !

Someone who I greatly admire shared with me this website and I think it can be another useful tool in your battles.

 

http://yourbrainonporn.com/

 

I really encourage all of you guys to stay strong in this meaningful decision even if it's hard sometimes !

See you !

 

Edit : This awesome person ;)  shared also this video with me and I really think it's worth your time (quite 17 minutes )

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU  

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LK ... I appreciate you and absolutely don't want to argue... but I totally disagree with your post.

 

Of course, my main reason to be against porn is because of my moral beliefs. But it's not the unique reason.

And for the honorable men on WTM and all over the world who understand the danger and know by themselves the harmful effects porn has on their lives I want to continue to encourage you in your decision to quit.

 

 

A pure person I highly estimate and respect,  shared with me this website :"nofap".

This website is a community where about  180 000 non religious guys share their testimonies and their desire to quit porn because they have been harmed by it.

I just put the link here to help people. That's it. I won't argue.

 

http://www.nofap.com/

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Evidence? Look at all the broken marriages and families. Too many people are divorced or going to marriage counseling because of this addiction. As I've said in a post about porn before, I've counseled plenty of people older, younger, and my own age about this. Porn causes sexual dysfunctions. It's disconnecting and leads to abuse. Not just physical but mental and emotional. It is also a form of infidelity. Most people will say they aren't addicted but ask yourself this..... do you think about it when you're not watching? Is it your go to to relieve stress? When you watch, which do you do more..... perform or watch? Do you tell your friends and family that you watch or do you keep it private? Are you more annoyed with people than usual? After watching and or "acting out" are you happier or more drained? Do you often find yourself preoccupied with sexual thoughts that leads you back to watching? These are just a few questions.

Would you want your husband treating you the way women are treated in those videos or movies and vice versa.... if your husband isn't aroused unless you are wearing some type of skimpy outfit or act a certain way other than yourself.... isn't that a form of erectile dysfunction? That goes both ways.

Yes majority of us are religious but even non religious people can tell you porn is bad. There are ex porn starts speaking out about it.

For those of you that are believers in Christ and have this issue there are awesome bible study plans togo through. I'd be more than happy to help you. Just message me.

I really hope this makes sense I'm half asleep!

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But I will say that those things sound like fun and porn has given me a lot of ideas about things I would like to do after marriage.

Porn is not that simple , people who are doing it are not some normal dudes try to capture they sexual activity. It is they job and they are professionals , actors, directors, camera guy , audio guy , special visual and sound effect guy :blink:

And porn is not real , it is like watch something you cant have

How much is a normal size of "the organ on the body of a man that is used for urinating and sex" ? And how much is it in porn?

How long it take for someone to reach orgasm and how long is it in porn ?

I believe watching porn make it a lot less enjoyable to have sex , because people will compare them self to what they saw and simply they can not have it "normally"

Don't watch porn while in a relationship or after marriage and none of this will be a problem.

That make no sense , that is why we call it addiction

Addiction mean you cant end it when you please

By the way topic is not a bout porn is bad or good, it is a bout helping people to do not watch it again so i think it is maybe better to start new topic a bout porn is good or is bad

sorry for my poor English

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I agree with Ali, this isn't about whether porn is good or bad, it's for people who don't want to watch it anymore to be able to stop. Also, porn addiction is real. I have seen it. Most people don't have one but it does exist.

 

There's nothing wrong with believing one shouldn't watch porn, especially if your decision to wait until marriage is a moral one. Why should you wait until marriage (what you believe is the right thing to do) but get to watch other people not only have sex outside of marriage but for the world to see. Seems kind of hypocritical and exploitative. That's like a pacifist monk going to watch two gladiators kill each other in the roman Colosseum.  :lol:

 

For people who see waiting as simply a lifestyle choice, they might not have an issue with watching other people have sex, which is fine too but that doesn't mean that others can't see it as an issue. As long as we all respect each other and don't try to push our views on one another, then we'll be fine. Thank you Geraldine for offering to help those that want it. ^_^  

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Im going to be as honest as i can here and i hope i dont get judged for it. I used to watch porn from a very young age and i have to admit it was an addiction. I tried so much to stop and i couldnt. But i realized that just a year ago that it's having a negative effect on me as well as it goes completely against my christian beliefs. I have stopped watching any form of porn for the last one year and it's great. my body feels so much better, i dont keep feeling guilty and in general i feel so much more sensitive in every part of my body than before. Porn really messes up your penis and genitals (its natural functioning)...Im serious!!. I guess i am proof that is really affects a guys mind in many ways. Even my perception of women has changed from negative to positive after i stopped

 

For any guy or girl struggling with this addiction, i know how you feel and my advice is to stop watching porn completely by keeping targets. Force yourself not to watch it at any cost. At first it gets very frustrating but you learn self control like never before. Trust me it got very bad for me but if i could stop it completely so can you.

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Hey guys ! :) :)

 

It's me again !

Someone who I greatly admire shared with me this website and I think it can be another useful tool in your battles.

 

http://yourbrainonporn.com/

 

I really encourage all of you guys to stay strong in this meaningful decision even if it's hard sometimes !

See you !

 

 

I have that link in one of my bookmark folders.

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Im going to be as honest as i can here and i hope i dont get judged for it. I used to watch porn from a very young age and i have to admit it was an addiction. I tried so much to stop and i couldnt. But i realized that just a year ago that it's having a negative effect on me as well as it goes completely against my christian beliefs. I have stopped watching any form of porn for the last one year and it's great. my body feels so much better, i dont keep feeling guilty and in general i feel so much more sensitive in every part of my body than before. Porn really messes up your penis and genitals (its natural functioning)...Im serious!!. I guess i am proof that is really affects a guys mind in many ways. Even my perception of women has changed from negative to positive after i stopped

 

For any guy or girl struggling with this addiction, i know how you feel and my advice is to stop watching porn completely by keeping targets. Force yourself not to watch it at any cost. At first it gets very frustrating but you learn self control like never before. Trust me it got very bad for me but if i could stop it completely so can you.

Wooooooooooooowwwwwwwwwwwwww !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! CONGRATULATION TO YOU JOSEPH !!!! Thank you so much for being so honest !

Your testimony can help plenty of other people struggling currently !

Thank you again and keep on going on the rigth path ! :)

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I have that link in one of my bookmark folders.

Ohhhh really GOOD 573V3N :D^_^:)  !!!!

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