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Your Thoughts on "Players"...

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What are your thoughts on players and why? Me, I cant stand them. The bragging about girls or guys they played really gets to me.  

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If anyone has a high view on players, then this site probably isn't the right place for them.

 

Bragging about manipulating people doesn't make someone worthy of praise. It makes them an insecure and pathetic human being.

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A dude in my fraternity is a total player but I cannot blame him. 
His girlfriend cheated on him then got pragnent. Now the girl is living with the father of the baby, and my friend was all alone.

 

Some plaers might be a total asshole but some has a deep history.

Nevertheless, do not trust a player. They are like a ying yang.

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My great grandpa was one. One time he cheated on his wife (my great grandmother) but when my grandma tries to do the same thing he forbade her to do it.

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In the sense of people who have been seduced by the world, we must not hate the sinner, but hate the sin. People who brag about their conquests with the other sex are suffering individuals inside. It goes with everything though. Anyone can brag about anything they did. When I was in synagogue I hated to listen to people's life stories. However I did post my life story not out of bragging but because I wanted to show what my life was like, where I went and how I got here. So I guess if someone read it, they could take a portion out of context and make it sound like I am a player because I frequently remember the girls I had connections with and so I would be talking about them a lot, and sometimes sin in the glee of the fact that they did find me attractive, but never in the sense that I used them. If they read further they would see it deeply hurt me that so many liked me and wanted me that I could not give love to them all, because I was really only interested in a serious committed relationship and not interested in the lifestyle of the people I was listening to at the time. Now it does make me mad even porn I really would want to just connect with women but of course there is a problem underlying that because in real life it's hard to be not attached to the situation and not talk about it afterwards which I know always ruined it. The more I talked about it, the more energy I put into it and then the more emotionally I got attached to an outcome, and the more needy I got with her and then the more likely I would say something controlling or possessive, it's a vicious cycle. If someone did a lot in one day, and then they told someone else about it with glee in their voice, they could be considered to be bragging about it, but maybe they aren't. I really do hate the sin where people view it as a numbers game. Even more so for the people who get used and abused because of it. History can be seen as a way for the winners to brag about how they won and the losers have to live with the winner's side of the story. That's why it's called "his story" in my opinion. Not everyone can be selfless, but if we spend a lot of time being hung up over it, it could drive us insane. How deep the rabbit hole go, probably forever, maybe it's best to sometimes relax and let it all go.

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Well I won't judge them. People are free to do what they want to do. If the girls/guys those players "play" with are fine with that, it's okay.

I just wish that the monogamous and polygamous worlds are separated and never collide, then a lot of people will be happier. But it was just a dream  :(

I know some players have mental and/or emotional illness, like they were hurt before and don't believe in love or faithfulness, so they become players to protect themselves from getting hurt again. 

Still, I don't welcome them to my world. 

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I certainly don't admire what they do. All that manipulation makes it harder for genuineness in the dating/interrelational scene and treats humans as objects or means. However, I must say I admire the interpersonal skill and insight they have. If only they used it the right way. Then again, not having studied into their strategies much turning the skills of inducing guilt, insecurity, and need for recognition into a way that benefits the "target" might not be that any easier for them. Particularly loosing the mindset that you would develop along with those skills.

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I think players are the people who are single-handedly abusing the notion of love. I mean it's fine if they are "fooling around"with those people who believe in the same thing. But it's completely wrong when they break someone's heart. It's a devastating experience for those people and it takes a hell lot of time to get the broken pieces together.

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