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Have you ever been picked on or bullied because of your WTM belifs and if so how did you deal with the problem?

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I ask this because it seems like alot of people with good intentions always ends up being stepped on by others. Again have you ever been picked on or bullied because of your WTM belifs and if so how did you deal with the problem? 

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No, because it is generally normal in our culture, especially in the high-register. But still, when they bully, you can still replace the word 'virgin' with monogamy and say it back to them.

Some people asked me from west whether am I going to nit to consider her just because she is not a virgin, and it is their actions and bla bla blah... To make these clear, I usually write (1) Whether or not it is past or future, there is no difference I see on this, and they are responsible for it, as they should be, in the future, too. (2) Are you going to reject someone just because he is a guy?. (3) [censored]. (4) Telling them that we respect sex and our future spouses by waiting for them, giving value to sex and them. [less entropy] (5) Risk of STIs. A night isn't worthy of AIDS.

From an atheist/agnost-perspective, there might be no wrong it, so, there may simply say 'there is nothing wrong with sex'. Well, rather than saying that there is nothing wrong in waiting either, say 'there is nothing wrong with drugs, either; their body, their rights. Your sex rights are not any more important than my drug rights. Want to snort coke?' (Although you have never seen that or get close to coke, it would still work) or 'I wouldn't like to waste time having sex with random women, period.'.

These kinds of questions from those who do not wait, go beyond my political correctness threshold and the next thing I am going to say would be something to censor, so I am finishing my post here :D

P.S. The difference I find between general peer pressure and pee pressure is that the pee pressure is at least useful for some things.

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I don't know if this really counts as bullying, but I've been "prude-shamed" by doctors on 2 different occasions. I won't go into detail because it's very personal, but it was incredibly uncomfortable and strange. I think a doctor's office should be a place where people can openly discuss questions and health concerns, and when I was mistreated by doctors because of my lifestyle choice, it made me less likely to trust them and it made me feel like I was some sort of freak. I'm proud of myself that I told them off and I obviously went to a different doctor after that. 

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I don't know if this really counts as bullying, but I've been "prude-shamed" by doctors on 2 different occasions. I won't go into detail because it's very personal, but it was incredibly uncomfortable and strange. I think a doctor's office should be a place where people can openly discuss questions and health concerns, and when I was mistreated by doctors because of my lifestyle choice, it made me less likely to trust them and it made me feel like I was some sort of freak. I'm proud of myself that I told them off and I obviously went to a different doctor after that. 

 

What kind of doctors do you have? As part of hospital policies, doctors should be polite toward their patients.

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What kind of doctors do you have? As part of hospital policies, doctors should be polite toward their patients.

One incident did occur in a hospital, yes. The other was a specialist I went to for a personal matter. The point is, my health is fine now, no thanks to them. I had to go to a different doctor because I felt so uncomfortable. Just because they are supposed to be courteous doesn't mean that they will be. 

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Not really so bad over WTM but I was bullied a lot in general. The conversation never went to virginity so much because in high school I was just so awkward that I did not realize when they were picking on me for what I said and when they were being nice. And then in college, I also did not know the difference either sometimes. Most of my handling was trying to say I did not drink, and that led to a lot of problems. There was one time and I was so naive at the time when I was 18 that I thought the guy bullying me over it was my friend but he really was not. It was a silly prank he played by getting me to say over the phone a crude way guy talk about the subject to his friends or even girlfriends and they all laughed at me behind my back and so I turned on him, claimed he was my enemy and did not seek to talk to him anymore. He got upset and thought I rejected him but it was nonsense because of course I was so naive when I was 18 and compared to city or MTV/VH1 kids they knew all this stuff about the urban slangs and laughed at how I didn't. A lot of it had to do with my voice because the same guy bullied me by making me sing for him and his friends but it took me a while to realize that my voice singing actually does not sound the way I thought it sounded. I was put in a headlock. So if you are bullied over this in particular, know you have a whole community of people here who are willing to listen.

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I don't know if this really counts as bullying, but I've been "prude-shamed" by doctors on 2 different occasions. I won't go into detail because it's very personal, but it was incredibly uncomfortable and strange. I think a doctor's office should be a place where people can openly discuss questions and health concerns, and when I was mistreated by doctors because of my lifestyle choice, it made me less likely to trust them and it made me feel like I was some sort of freak. I'm proud of myself that I told them off and I obviously went to a different doctor after that.

Some doctors and nurses don't believe me when I put down I was never sexually active. They keep asking me am I sure or at my age it's very rare.
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I had people tell me they can't believe I'm WTM because I'm too pretty not to have sex. Or I could just bang any guy because it's a waste of time to wait.

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Some doctors and nurses don't believe me when I put down I was never sexually active. They keep asking me am I sure or at my age it's very rare.

 

Haha, as if you would forget that you'd had sex?!

 

"You're a virgin? Are you sure?"

"Oh, wait, actually… Yes, I did have sex with my ex-boyfriend now that you mention it. Actually, I'm having sex with my current boyfriend too. Silly me! That had completely slipped my mind."

 

I'm lucky in that I've never been bullied or shamed for not having sex. People have been surprised and curious when I tell them, but I've never been told anything rude.

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I'm never bullied. It's just that people don't believe I'm a waiter cause 'I don't look like a waiter'.

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I ask this because it seems like alot of people with good intentions always ends up being stepped on by others. Again have you ever been picked on or bullied because of your WTM belifs and if so how did you deal with the problem? 

 

I have never been bullied about celibacy because I simply keep my virginity a secret.  No one knows, which is why I am so secretive about my identity, even on this site.  I am grateful, therefore, that I don't have to let it all build up inside by being able to make friends on this site...

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I'm never bullied. It's just that people don't believe I'm a waiter cause 'I don't look like a waiter'.

:P:lol:

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I don't typically bring up my 'waiting status' in casual conversation, but in the few instances where I did, I've never actually been made fun of. Sometimes folks are a little surprised, but then they're like "I respect that, I just couldn't do it".

 

I had people tell me they can't believe I'm WTM because I'm too pretty not to have sex. Or I could just bang any guy because it's a waste of time to wait.

I'm never bullied. It's just that people don't believe I'm a waiter cause 'I don't look like a waiter'.

 

This tends to be my personal favorite reaction. It's funny when people outright refuse to believe that you haven't had sex, since virgins tend to be stereotyped so negatively in the media. Nope, we're just regular people lol. :lol:

 

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Actually, this reminds me of something that I saw a while ago -

 

 
Folks can make judgements based on how you dress and how confident you are.
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