JesSea

Hopes For Young Women (and men)

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My goodness...... WHERE HAVE I BEEN? UNDER A ROCK? YES! WHO IS THIS MAN? WHERE DID HE COME FROM? WHY HAVEN'T I EVER HEARD OF HIM? TYLER WARD......PRAISE THE LORD FOR TYLER WARD! AGREE 100%

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My goodness...... WHERE HAVE I BEEN? UNDER A ROCK? YES! WHO IS THIS MAN? WHERE DID HE COME FROM? WHY HAVEN'T I EVER HEARD OF HIM? TYLER WARD......PRAISE THE LORD FOR TYLER WARD! AGREE 100%

Check out his music too!

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Oh my goodness!

I watch his videos and sometimes listen to his music and bought some of his songs (originals and covers) for YEARS!!! I check his channel out now and then...I think he seems like a super friendly, good guy.

 

He made some cautious hints for several weeks that he might wants to make a video on pornography soon. Was really curious about what he had to say about it, but I NEVER EVER expected something like this (although porn was only mentioned a few times and wasn´t even the main topic....). That he actually thinks waiting till marriage is an option......WOW!!!! That´s so cool!

Recently he really shares some of his experiences regarding personal change and growth. It´s very interesting and enlightening.

Thanks for posting that Video JesSea. You totally beat me to it ;)

And thanks to you, Tyler!

(I know you won´t read this. But that´s okay :superwaiter:^_^)

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My goodness...... WHERE HAVE I BEEN? UNDER A ROCK? YES! WHO IS THIS MAN? WHERE DID HE COME FROM? WHY HAVEN'T I EVER HEARD OF HIM? TYLER WARD......PRAISE THE LORD FOR TYLER WARD! AGREE 100%

 

Hahaha, that cracked me up :lol:

Yes, you have been under a rock (happens to everyone now and then :D ). But that doesn´t matter any more, because now the heavy rock got lifted up your shoulders and you can totally discover what you missed out on (does that sound creepy? :superwaiter: )

He goes on tour in the USA in September and October this year! So you know what to do ;) (if you want, of course).

Have a good day!

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Hahaha, that cracked me up :lol:

Yes, you have been under a rock (happens to everyone now and then :D ). But that doesn´t matter any more, because now the heavy rock got lifted up your shoulders and you can totally discover what you missed out on (does that sound creepy? :superwaiter: )

He goes on tour in the USA in September and October this year! So you know what to do ;) (if you want, of course).

Have a good day!

Haha thanks andnow that's not creepy! I'll look at his tour dates for sure! :)

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Check out his music too!

That's what I've been doing! I think I'm in love? Lol jk

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Ehh...

 

I think his general premise is good; encouraging young ladies to stay away from guys that would cause her to compromise in the area of purity. That's a positive thing. I also liked the fact that he explained how sex bonds individuals and that it shouldn't be taken lightly.

 

However, I didn't care for the way he throws dudes under the bus. He does nothing but compliment women, but for the guys you constantly hear "boys are dumb" along with different things that guys need to do better in their relationships with women. I don't know if he realizes this, but men aren't the only gender that tend to pressure/manipulate others to get sex. Encouraging purity is a great thing, but that "only real man in the room" routine where you put other guys down while holding women up as flawless just isn't a good look.

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However, I didn't care for the way he throws dudes under the bus. He does nothing but compliment women, but for the guys you constantly hear "boys are dumb" along with different things that guys need to do better in their relationships with women. I don't know if he realizes this, but men aren't the only gender that tend to pressure/manipulate others to get sex. Encouraging purity is a great thing, but that "only real man in the room" routine where you put other guys down while holding women up as flawless just isn't a good look.

Good point. Agreed. 

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However, I didn't care for the way he throws dudes under the bus. He does nothing but compliment women, but for the guys you constantly hear "boys are dumb" along with different things that guys need to do better in their relationships with women. I don't know if he realizes this, but men aren't the only gender that tend to pressure/manipulate others to get sex. Encouraging purity is a great thing, but that "only real man in the room" routine where you put other guys down while holding women up as flawless just isn't a good look.

 

Yeah, his intentions are probably good, but his words indicate he falls into the "women good, men bad" camp (or "girls good, boys bad" here I guess). It's that same old attitude that says that if a guy sins / does wrong, it's because he's inherently bad, but if a girl sins / does wrong, it's because she was pressured into it by a guy. Some people, especially men, don't want to talk about the fact that women want to sin, too, because that's too controversial.

 

Nevertheless, he did have good things to say about the type of bonding process that should only be shared between spouses. He should focus on that.

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It's funny, but I didn't get the impression that he was setting out to put men down. I think he just went about it the wrong way...it happens, he is human. I felt like he was using his own experience, and what he has learned from his POV, to make a point. It's just that women/girls, were his primary focus. He says, more than once, if you were his sister or daughter he would want you to realize some things. Maybe I was looking past just his mere words to the meaning, because I CAN understand HOW it seems he was putting men down. I just don't believe that was his intention. Of course, I don't know. It's also possible that he was over dramatizing how bad men are to try and make his point (if that was his intention, it was very very wrong, but only he would know if that's what he was doing). I do, though, know what it's like to be so worked up about something, not be able to sleep because of it, and then go off on a diatribe...sometimes without realizing that it could be taken the wrong way by some. However, since his primary focus was to lift women, and to inspire them to know their value, I think we can agree that (yes, men should as well know that they are amazing and worthy of love) you men would not be waiting if you didn't feel his words are true...at least a little...and hope that your sister/daughter/mom/aunt etc etc, would believe in themselves and their worth the way he is trying to express that they should. Especially since most people here want to marry a fellow waiter, sometimes to the extent of it being a deal breaker. So, if you ignore what MIGHT be a very unintentional, meaning he wasn't serious, meaning of 'men are bad', it's really a great thing for a girl/woman to hear.

Just my two cents. I don't usually like to share my thoughts on the articles and videos shared, because I understand that we all take something from what we see, read, or hear...and sometimes we can watch the same thing and, yet, take totally different things from it. It has a lot to do with our different views, interpretations, and what we are actually looking for. So, I just thought, this time, I'd share what I took from it. Just to give a different POV. Not to offend anyone, and I hope I didn't. Just know that I respect the difference of views, and am not trying to put anyone down, so I won't argue. My only intention was to give a different interpretation.

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I have a lot of mixed feelings on this video.

On one hand, I applaud him for being a male using his platform as a Youtube celeb to spread a message of waiting to the masses. It is good that he reassures girls of their worth and that there are guys out there who do wait. Especially since many girls these days are told the lie that no guy will wait a significant period of time before sex, let alone marriage. I liked the part where he tells guys to treat every girl as if she were his own sister, daughter or mother, because every girl is one at least one of those things to some other guy. One of my biggest sins and moral failures was my struggle with porn. That kind of mentality helped me fight it because I would be beyond horrified if it was my daughter or sister that some guy was getting off to from a computer screen.

On the other hand, he really went overboard in painting guys as creeps while girls are innocent. I get that it may be tongue and cheek, but society has already propagated that idea as a serious one. It is true that guys are the main perpetrators when it comes to pressuring for sex. But one thing no one seems to be willing to say is if a girl consents to giving sex, then she is equally to blame as the guy. If it wasn't rape, then she could have said no. If that offends you, then you are part of the problem. Because not only is it promoting unfair suspicion on all men, it is also insinuating that girls are incapable of making their own decisions therefore can't be held responsible for their own actions. Yes women deserve to be respected and honored, but they are not stupid. No matter if it's a guy or girl, we each need to own up to our own actions.

And really, it wouldn't be so bad if he made another video of the opposite in which he gave some tough love to the girls. Because there are lots of good men (or in my case, a despicable and abrasive moron who only aspires to be a good man) who get taken advantage of manipulative women. I can't count how many times I have been used by girls for emotional intimacy when things are going bad in a relationship or whatever. But the moment things are good, they toss me aside and I don't hear from them until something bad happens again. I love being there for people when they are struggling, but I expect to be appreciated.

Bottom line is, don't use people.

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