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Is "sex only within marriage" an idol?

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Is the belief that sex should only be within marriage an idol? I know that sexual idolatry involves fornication, lust and pornography, but what about when you believe that sex only within marriage is the right way to go? Are there resources which point to answers about this?

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I think for it to be an idol you need put it's importance above God.

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Like Weapon X said, an idol is a false god, something you put above God. Sex outside of marriage, lust and pornography are not necessarily idols (you're not treating them as gods), but they're still wrong.

 

I don't understand what you mean by believing sex belongs only in marriage could be an "idol". Do you mean, people could treat WTM as if it's more important that God?

 

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Well, it was part of a discussion about pornography on another blog (which I no longer comment on), and one of the commenters told me he thought that I was idolizing sex within marriage, in essence elevating it far above where I should. I would not consider any kind of sex to be more important than God, and I think the use of the term "idolize" in this context wasn't the same as the Biblical meaning, but it gave me pause. I feel better now knowing that no, I am not idolizing sex in any way.

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Anything can be an idol if you put it way up on a pedestal. Purity and WTM does become more important as a concept than as an act of obedience for some people. But it is not something to worship, it is a means to an end, purity of mind and body is something we are called to follow all of our lives, it is just a little different before marriage than after.

On the other hand, sex is put on a pedestal by a lot of people, and it is especially hard for those of us WTM to keep it in perspective while single.

I once saw a vehicle sticker that said "Sex is like air - it is only important if you are not getting enough of it." While I don't agree with the casual air of the comparison, I sometimes think about that and remind myself that as great as it sounds from the WTM side, sex is just a simple (hopefully wonderful) part of life for those who are happily married, but not the great goal that hormones and the media would have us think. I will value the love of a spouse much more than the sex that is only one of the ways to express that love.

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In certain conservative religious communities, sexual purity has absolutely become an idol. The language used to describe premarital sex and those who have engaged in it is often shaming and abusive. Calling girls ruined, spoiled, dirty, etc. for having premarital sex. Treating sexual sin as though it's greater than any other form of sin. Equating consensual premarital sex with rape. This is the kind of stuff that countless women have experienced across the US, and yes, that is turning sexual purity into an idol.

 

Choosing to save sex for marriage in and of itself, however, is not an idol.

 

I'm honestly disappointed, if not surprised, that our churches don't discuss other American idols, like food, wealth, and fame, more than they discuss premarital sex. There's an overall obsession with excess in our country, but somehow the criticism is mostly an excess of sex and not anything else.

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In Islam, sex only within marriage is a commandment from God, so it's a God-given rule, rather than a man-made idol.

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@L8dyluck. . . . . Believing sex within marriage is not an idol....it is a command from God not to commit sexual sin (fornication). Their are scriptures that tell believers to do just that.  1 Corinthians 6:18 (Message Bible)..."We must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never “become one.†There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies."

 

Hebrews 13:4 (Message Bible) "Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex". Their are more scriptures that warn us as believers against the dangers of sex outside of marriage....these are the two that really show how God truly regards how sacred sex is & the only place for it to be expressed is in marriage. I truly hoped this has help clarify it for you!

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On 9/22/2014 at 1:28 PM, Belle Femme said:

In certain conservative religious communities, sexual purity has absolutely become an idol. The language used to describe premarital sex and those who have engaged in it is often shaming and abusive. Calling girls ruined, spoiled, dirty, etc. for having premarital sex. Treating sexual sin as though it's greater than any other form of sin. Equating consensual premarital sex with rape. This is the kind of stuff that countless women have experienced across the US, and yes, that is turning sexual purity into an idol.

Well said i was coming to the same conclusion that sexual purity has become an idol and i needed to rethink why i am waiting mostly im not waiting for sex but im waiting for the right person who is my equal and the discussion revolving ariund sex made sex an idol it's not really a relationship who's most cherished goods is sex because i am not looking for having children and i can satisfy myself sexually so what i am looking for is intimacy and affection and commitment but not marriage because I don't see the point in tying assets together or proving my love in front of others because my ideal relationship is one of adventure not settling down. So i'm here because i never had sex but don't want it to be about sex but about how my equal is my equal in all aspects of life and not ever having sex not even kissing passionately on the lips yet are just two of many traits

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Allow any Christian theologian (or Christian, for that matter, as I'm not one) to correct me, but I believe the Bible defines idolatry as the use of physical representations for the purpose of worship. The most numerous mentions are in the book of Genesis, which specifically refers to physical objects.

Within the commandments, Exodus 20 forbids creation of idols, seemingly referring to physical creation. Exodus 34 specifically refers to molding or casting idols/gods (depending on the translation).

Additionally, Leviticus 26:1 states:
“You shall make for yourselves no idols and erect no carved images or pillars, and you shall not place figured stones in your land, to worship at them; for I am the Lord your God.”

In his first letter to the Romans (22-25), Paul comments on these images to be anthropomorphic or theriomorphic deifications:
“Claiming to be wise, they became fools, and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images resembling mortal man or birds or animals or reptiles. Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed for ever! Amen.”

The controversy over religious iconography in the 8th and 9th centuries is a direct representation of this definition, as it is the images themselves that are posited as possibly idolatrous, even within a Christian context, not any intangible conceptualization of idolatry.

The user in question clearly misunderstands the biblical definition of idolatry and is relying on a specific modern definition of the term “idolize,” meaning to “admire, revere, or love greatly or excessively” (OED definition), which is not the same as the alternate definition, which specifically means to create a physical idol.

But like I said, I'm not Christian, so feel free to correct me.

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On 20/09/2014 at 1:32 AM, l8dyluck81 said:

Is the belief that sex should only be within marriage an idol?

No. Sad state of affairs when following what one's God says to do is to be considered idolatry by that God. 

Idolatry requires you to put something above God or in place of God. If you are worshipping X or placing it in a more important position than God then you are committing idolatry with X. Even if X is normally (and in its proper place) good.

On 24/01/2017 at 5:44 PM, Skald said:

Allow any Christian theologian (or Christian, for that matter, as I'm not one) to correct me, but I believe the Bible defines idolatry as the use of physical representations for the purpose of worship. The most numerous mentions are in the book of Genesis, which specifically refers to physical objects.

While perhaps most explicit engagement with idolatry in the Bible is in the context of physical objects, I believe restricting idolatry to the worship of physical objects and allowing the worship of non-physical objects would be unreasonably legalistic. The Bible refers to obeying the spirit of the law - see for example Jesus' teaching on the hypocritical violation of the Sabbath e.g. exerting physical effort for personal gain is prohibited but exerting the same or more effort in helping someone is not. Also the Bible associates idolatry with other than the worship of physical objects: Ephesians 5:5 and Colossians 3:5

 

 

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