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Should Men Give Up Porn?

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I also just thought of something. It could be that God is holding that person for you until you give up porn. Boys?

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I also just thought of something. It could be that God is holding that person for you until you give up porn. Boys?

Sometimes I feel like God is holding me back from dating until I finish my studies xD haha

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I also just thought of something. It could be that God is holding that person for you until you give up porn. Boys?

very true...

lust and sexual immorality is the FIRST thing that we must learn to overcome as a Christian, if we are struggling with this before we are married, we would easily confuse love with lust within our marriage... also, pornography is not something you can just "replace." it is an addiction although you may not know it. you have the ability to have that sexual experience with hundreds of different women at a time, and you wont have this ability when you are married, (obviously) ya sure, within the first month or so your marriage will be great, but once you have that addiction, it will keep on creeping on you to turn back to it, and the last thing you want is to be dealing with this during your marriage. many marriages have been ruined because of this, 

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I just finished reading the comments. I have to say the letter from the girl to her dad was the main thing that stuck with me. Imagine if instead of finding out that your parents watch porn, you find out they are in the porn industry. Imagine the suffering that kid would go though if the kids in school found out. I'm pretty sure I remember a time in high school when a student had a nude picture of a girl, he covered the face and showed another kid in class. He asked him what he had thought, and this guy said he liked the picture and wanted to know who it was. He uncovered the face and it was his sister or cousin or something. I can't really remember who or where this was, but the kid was humiliated. Imagine getting harassed like that because all of your peers have seen what your parent does or has done. I read an article by a former porn star who has kids. They probably had to develop a very thick skin. It would also be worse if the parent was still doing porn and not sorry for it at all. Recently there was a mom who had sex with her sons high school peer. She was caught and accused of rape. I don't know what all she got charged with, but I'm pretty sure she was charged with abusing her son. Point is that it isn't just about how the things we do hurt us. It's about how what we do can also hurt people close to us. I have had a porn problem. I've just started getting over it recently. I said in a previous comment that men should try to never even start watching porn. I still stand by that, because I know what problems it can cause. I'm not trying to excuse what I've done, but I have had a huge mistrust of people because of stuff in my past. Porn only makes it worse. I hope and pray that I can be 100% porn free soon. I want to get married, and I don't want porn anywhere near my family. I hope this isn't as awkward to read as it was to write haha.

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I just finished reading the comments. I have to say the letter from the girl to her dad was the main thing that stuck with me. Imagine if instead of finding out that your parents watch porn, you find out they are in the porn industry. Imagine the suffering that kid would go though if the kids in school found out. I'm pretty sure I remember a time in high school when a student had a nude picture of a girl, he covered the face and showed another kid in class. He asked him what he had thought, and this guy said he liked the picture and wanted to know who it was. He uncovered the face and it was his sister or cousin or something. I can't really remember who or where this was, but the kid was humiliated. Imagine getting harassed like that because all of your peers have seen what your parent does or has done. I read an article by a former porn star who has kids. They probably had to develop a very thick skin. It would also be worse if the parent was still doing porn and not sorry for it at all. Recently there was a mom who had sex with her sons high school peer. She was caught and accused of rape. I don't know what all she got charged with, but I'm pretty sure she was charged with abusing her son. Point is that it isn't just about how the things we do hurt us. It's about how what we do can also hurt people close to us. I have had a porn problem. I've just started getting over it recently. I said in a previous comment that men should try to never even start watching porn. I still stand by that, because I know what problems it can cause. I'm not trying to excuse what I've done, but I have had a huge mistrust of people because of stuff in my past. Porn only makes it worse. I hope and pray that I can be 100% porn free soon. I want to get married, and I don't want porn anywhere near my family. I hope this isn't as awkward to read as it was to write haha.

Something on a tangent to what you're saying... I have some pictures of an ex that I don't talk to anymore, but it's hard moving in from that relationship. But yesterday I was thinking how if that's something standing in the way of God giving me my future spouse, I have no problem giving it up because I want that husband ASAP! Hahahaha.

Maybe you can see where I'm going with this...but maybe you could apply this to your porn problem. Every time you look at porn just think of it as pushing your future wife away at a yards length. There may be other things standing in the way but this is one of those things. My confession is also embarrassing.

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I actually have been thinking about that recently. I've been trying to stop for awhile. When I read your comment about God holding our future spouses until we quit, I felt like you were speaking for God. I know that sounds weird, but something just clicked in my head and I went awhile without watching videos like it was nothing. I ended up cracking. However, what you said kind of gave me something to mentally grasp. Thank you for sharing your personal experience to help me. I appreciate the support. I also think this site should get a confession area haha. I have confessed things on here nobody I know in real life knows haha.

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It's definitely a strong move confessing things, but realistically that's the only way to get any kind of movement or change to allow others to push you in one direction or another. It's also humbling.

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I completely agree. Ever since joining this site and confessing some things, I have been smiling more. I have started feeling better. Actually to a point where I'm honestly confused by all the change. I never used to smile. But I may have shifted the conversation from porn to confessions haha sorry.

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@NoName(wish I knew it haha) I agree with the confession section! That would be awesome....we he have to have someone trustworthy for that section though. Someone that wouldn't talk behind our backs because of our mistakes.

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I was thinking group confessions, but personal confessions are also more safe for people who don't want to share information with everyone. Also my name is Tyler.

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Maybe you can see where I'm going with this...but maybe you could apply this to your porn problem. Every time you look at porn just think of it as pushing your future wife away at a yards length. There may be other things standing in the way but this is one of those things. My confession is also embarrassing.

 

To go along the same lines, it is also effective to imagine the porn actors being your own wife, daughter or sister. Because that actress on the screen is someone else's wife, daughter or sister. Any man with even a hint of a moral center should be disgusted with the idea of one of the women in his life being beaten, abused, raped, defiled or treated less than a human being. Far too often, I feel the burden of guilt of contributing to that kind of abuse every time I click on a porn site. Also, as a Christian, I see it as plunging a new nail in the body of Christ every time I give in.

 

 

It's definitely a strong move confessing things, but realistically that's the only way to get any kind of movement or change to allow others to push you in one direction or another. It's also humbling.

 

I completely agree. Ever since joining this site and confessing some things, I have been smiling more. I have started feeling better. Actually to a point where I'm honestly confused by all the change. I never used to smile. But I may have shifted the conversation from porn to confessions haha sorry.

 

@NoName(wish I knew it haha) I agree with the confession section! That would be awesome....we he have to have someone trustworthy for that section though. Someone that wouldn't talk behind our backs because of our mistakes.

 

Indeed we as Christians are called to confess our sins to each other. Perhaps if there is great interest in having a section devoted to it, I may be able to arrange one in some form or another.

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Also my name is Tyler.

I had a feeling that your name started with a "T" or an "A" hehe it's nice to meet you Tyler! :D

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To go along the same lines, it is also effective to imagine the porn actors being your own wife, daughter or sister. Because that actress on the screen is someone else's wife, daughter or sister. Any man with even a hint of a moral center should be disgusted with the idea of one of the women in his life being beaten, abused, raped, defiled or treated less than a human being. Far too often, I feel the burden of guilt of contributing to that kind of abuse every time I click on a porn site. Also, as a Christian, I see it as plunging a new nail in the body of Christ every time I give in.

 

 

 

 

 

Indeed we as Christians are called to confess our sins to each other. Perhaps if there is great interest in having a section devoted to it, I may be able to arrange one in some form or another.

I'll bring the tissues! ^_^

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@NoName(wish I knew it haha) I agree with the confession section! That would be awesome....we he have to have someone trustworthy for that section though. Someone that wouldn't talk behind our backs because of our mistakes.

 

 

Indeed we as Christians are called to confess our sins to each other. Perhaps if there is great interest in having a section devoted to it, I may be able to arrange one in some form or another.

 

An easy implementation would be to have an account set up and have people PM it their confessions. Then have that account be the only one with rights to make new threads on that subforum. Alternatively, does the anonymous posting feature still work? Hiding the VD forum from non members destroyed the anonymous posting ability as you had to be logged off to use it. 

 

Although I think the question is "Would we really need a forum?" I'm sure if we did it the same way the Letters to Girls/Guys were done it would be easier. With everyone submitting either anonymously or through the alt account idea then we could probably get 90% of the confessions people would make without need to add an entire new subforum.

 

Now back to the porn.

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Now back to the porn.

 

You talking about this thread or your own personal browsing?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

That woulda been great if I weren't 2 months late  <_< 

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You talking about this thread or your own personal browsing?

 

How many showers did it take for you to come up with that? 

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How many showers did it take for you to come up with that? 

 

Just one with no distractions.

 

 

 

 

Wifi was out...

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Just one with no distractions.

 

 

 

 

Wifi was out...

 

It's alright man, you can get back to it now.

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Late to the topic...

Anyway my three cents:

 

Women watch just as much porn as men do.

 

Jesus states in Matthew 5:28 that if a man looks at a woman and lusts after her he is committing adultery in his heart.

I don't know if it's possible for someone to say they watch porn without lusting, but if it is I'd sure like to hear/read about it.

 

Many are addicted to pornography, but it's just like everything else in this world. A bad thing that society is trying to say is normal. It's part of the sexual revolution that in my opinion is destroying america.

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I'm answering on Christian, spiritual grounds. I am sure there are many on here who don't have any faith in a creator and don't believe there are very many rights and wrongs and absolute truth so they may not think anything of it.

 

I believe it is wrong. I believe it is harmful to the marriage and his attraction to his wife and I don't believe it should have any place in a marriage. Spiritually speaking he would be looking lustfully at these women and not his wife.

 

“You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.  But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

 

Once again, my reply is directed at Christians. Those who aren't this reply isn't directed at you however I believe its harmful effects would hit you just the same and honoring her by desiring only her with your eyes will enhance your intimacy just the same.

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