Belle Femme

Christian Feminist and Successful Waiter Here

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Salut tout le monde!

 

I just discovered this website Sunday evening, so I'm very much a newbie.

 

I've been married exactly one month. My husband and I both successfully saved coitus for marriage.

 

I've been blogging about sex and virginity for 2 1/2 years now at Finding My Virginity (formerly Confessions of a Virgin).

 

I'm extremely candid about sex, and I think a reluctance to talk about it beyond "don't do it" is a big problem within Christianity today.

 

I try to be very precise in my language, which is why I prefer the word "coitus" over "sex."

 

I don't believe in sexual purity, and I don't believe that premarital sex is a sin.

 

I'm a feminist, an advocate for survivors of sexual assault, and a proponent of healthy sexual relationships. I spend a LOT of time talking about consent and rape culture, issues that (again) not enough Christians are tackling today.

 

You will see me online as Belle Vierge, although I've tried to change most of my anonymous names to Belle Femme. My husband is either Beau Vierge or Beau Homme. Using our real names would inhibit our honesty online.

 

I'm bisexual, but I fell in love with Beau before I had a chance to date any women. I have made out with both men and women, however.

 

Feel free to ask me anything! Y'all can contact me privately, or ask me questions in the Ask a Successful Waiter thread, or ask me questions in the Adult thread, or whatever is comfortable for you. If I'm slow to reply this week, it's because we have our last two wedding receptions on Saturday, so wedding stuff is taking up a lot of my time.

 

I think that's it, so...

 

Merci, au revoir!

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Welcome! Glad to see a someone a bit more liberal in their beliefs.

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I know I chatted with you on Sunday, but let me formally welcome you again to the site. I've enjoyed reading your blog for some time now and I'm so happy that you've joined our little online community! I look forward to seeing you around the forums.  :)

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Yay! Huge welcome, Bella. Make sure to add a link to your blog to your forum signature so you can get Google Backlink Juice from every awesome post you're sure to make here.  ;)

 

Very happy to have you around. Looking forward to reading your posts!

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Welcome to the site, Ms! You're probably one of the most open and liberal people on the blog and it's awesome to see another waiter join our community :) .

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Welcome to the site!  That's cool that you're a bisexual waiter.  I'm a lesbian waiter.  I've kissed men and women as well since I dated men before I realized I was attracted to women.  It's cool to see you on the site!  Welcome to the community!


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Hello and welcome! Can't wait to read some of your blog!

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Welcome! :) I'm very happy to see a fellow Christian person who is liberal about sex (I am also very liberal, a bit too liberal sometimes probably...heheh). Anyway, you'll love it here!

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Welcome and congrats on your marriage! You sound like a very interesting person, I'll check out your blog :)

 

Curious - where are you from? Je suis aussi francophone (I grew up in Switzerland)

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Je suis amèricaine, mais je me suis specialisée en français! Aussi, j'ai travaillé en France pendant deux ans après avoir finis mes études.

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I presented a ten-page paper at an academic conference during undergrad providing both biblical and historical evidence for the ordination of women.

 

I hope that answers your question! ;)

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