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Ideally, at what age do you want to start having children?

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Aw there is no age that you can say is right. Its just when its right for you. Im an old Daddy. Very old. He he. I get tired out when Henry wants to play ball and wants me to run from him when he is armed with his new Nerf gun !!! But at my age im better off and can spoil him. Swings and roundabouts. Love bears no age mind. Tonight we sat in the garden watching the moon rise. Same moon that you guys will see in a couple of hours and he watched the Geese migrating and said they are going South Daddy where it is warmer. Precious.

Happy Saturday all. Col. Xx

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Well I'm 22. 26 I'd say would be the earliest. That's in 4 years 2017. 

 

That would give me at least a year out of college unless of course I graduate early.

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As soon as possible for me! I have been desperate to have children from the age of 21-22 onwards (I'm now 29). If I had not made the decision to wait, I have no doubt that I would be a mother by now. I never imagined that I'd get to this age without having children, but that's just the way my life has turned out. 

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since im 21 now, I might marry at 23 or 24 if things go according to plan. If not, then I have no idea. As for kids, probably around the age of 26. just a guess though. I would want a 2-year kid-free marriage first, though, just to enjoy the new married life without starting to worry about kids.

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I am in my mid to late 20s now and hope to have a family by at least 32 otherwise I might be doomed to get serve depression.  

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I wanted to start having kids by the time I was 23. I'm 25 now, so it's really a matter of when I will get married.  

 

I think it would be ideal if, after the wedding, we had around 6 months of alone time before becoming pregnant. 

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I wanted to start having kids by the time I was 23. I'm 25 now, so it's really a matter of when I will get married.

I think it would be ideal if, after the wedding, we had around 6 months of alone time before becoming pregnant.

Very good post. I'm 26 now I would to have a family by at least 4 months after married

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I think 30 would be a really good age to start. I will be more grounded in who I am as a man, hopefully have a good income, I will have had time to do things that having kids will make more difficult, and ideally I will have been married for 2-5 years. If I get married around 24 or 25 then we'll probably have an accident before I'm 30, but that will be fine.

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It is really hard to plan things like that. I am 24 and hopefully find Mr Right and get married, then have kids. Ideally I want to have kids at age 28 but you never now. I think that's the kind of things that never follow our plans LOL

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It's not that it's a mindset or stereotype, but many old women can't physically have children...

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Women ideally have to get married by at least 30 because after that it's harder to bear children and men can get married up to age 45.

It's not that it's a mindset or stereotype, but many old women can't physically have children...

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Women ideally have to get married by at least 30 because after that it's harder and men can get married up to age 45.

Men can remain fertile their entire lives, not just until their 40's.

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Yes true, but the testosterone level reduce after age 30. 20-30 is the peak. That's why Viagra was created

Men can remain fertile their entire lives, not just until their 40's.

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As a newlywed me and the hubs are not ready for children and I hope and pray the Lord doesn't bless us with children until like 10years from now. I would not be happy if it were sooner but would have to deal with it. I'd be sad cus my husband and I give eachother our undivided attention right now and it's great!♥

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My sentiments exactly . I want kids at least after 2 years of marriage

 

As a newlywed me and the hubs are not ready for children and I hope and pray the Lord doesn't bless us with children until like 10years from now. I would not be happy if it were sooner but would have to deal with it. I'd be sad cus my husband and I give eachother our undivided attention right now and it's great!♥

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Yeh once I'm married (hopefully young 20-25) I'll wait a while...honeymoon phase WILL last a while for this girl! Lol :P

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I would love to have children after I have finished with my degrees and have gotten a foothold in my chosen career. I have seen my mother in a marriage and a single parent. The one thing that has taught me is to have your ish together as much as possible before bringing a kid in the world. All this talk about how being an older parent would be the worst time to have children is B.S. The argument for that can go both ways. My mom is an  older parent to me and my two younger siblings. She was vibrant, energetic, relaxed, and worldly during our younger years. It's only now that we are becoming adults that she seems to be slowing down; only a little bit. A lot of how people age is has to do with how well you take care of yourself through the years. My mother had been, and that has paid off for my mom. Sure you can run around with kids just because your young, but you can do all of that as well when your older (if you care to keep in shape).  Lots of time a younger parent doesn't even know how to discipline/ train their kids. Lots of younger parents are so damn immature and feel deprived of their youth, that they may even end up competing against their child. My mom had already achieved her life's dreams, grown wiser, and had prepared everything her children needs before I came. She's also more relaxed in raising me bc she doesn't stress over things younger inexperienced parents may be. I'm not knocking young parents, I'm just saying that neither is better than the other. Both has pros and cons, so lets not knock the older parents. I would love to have mine in my 30s(only about 2 after a couple of yrs settled in my marriage).

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I'm going on 19 at the moment, but honestly I think the earliest I would want to start having kids is probably around 24/25. I want to be married for at least a couple years before I have kids so that I can still enjoy married life without the extra responsibilities (and costs) of children. I'd have to be at least 21 before I get married though, since that's when I should be graduating college. And I also want to already be dating for 1-2 years before getting married, so everything kind of depends on when I actually meet my future husband. If it's while I'm still in college, then great. If it's after I graduate, the kids are gonna have awhile to wait. lol

 

I do really want kids though, I think I've always wanted kids. So I don't want to have to wait too long before starting a family. I'd really like to be married by 23, but I guess we'll see what God has planned!

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I had plans...  I thought that I would like to have a couple of children in my 20s or 30s.  And of course, I wanted to be happily married to my soulmate first! 

I had my child at 23.  I am happy with just one child.  When I get married, I will consider another one if my spouse wants to, but I am content with one.  I would even prefer adopting.  Truthfully, natural child birth.. scares me!  I had a c-section.  TMI?

About being more tired when you're older, I am young (29) and my child wears me out!  They grow up fast and life goes by fast when they are here. :)

 

Also, you can wait until "just the right time", but you can make anything work too with a little faith.  I am a college student!  And because I was an online student, I was a stay at home mom until she got to kindergarten! 

Parenting takes creativity, patience, and love. 

 

 

 

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To those who don't want kids, that's okay too! 

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