Mike

What has surprised you the most about sex?

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there have been several surprises about sex once i became sexually active.

 

first:  that i was good at it.  that sounds like bragging - and i don't mean for it to be that.  i mean for it to be a statement of exctiement and satisfaction and enjoyment about making love... and when you enjoy things, you relax and become good and natural and easy at it....   i don't mean anything prurient about "good at it" - i mean that it was easy and natural and such a great part of being a human male (for me of course :-) .

 

second:   that contrary to the dire predictions people would have at you...   we are married over 20 yrs and we still enjoy it, i still actively push to have sex, and if anything, sexual desire, appetite and affection grow over time with your true love... it does not diminish... which always seems to be the way people talk about it.   we have had "dry spells" for sure - kids are a challenge on that there's not getting around that point - but i think about sex today at 50 as much and as often as i did when i was 20.  so guys... do NOT let those idiotic voices from others tell you that you have to have sex early because desire and ability go away (they dont) or that you won't have sex after age 40 because you're old (not true).  :-)

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third:   and for those of you who over time have wondered quietly if hey is it really that much better than masturbation... I for one will tell you that's WAY better than masturbation and it's NOT like what you see in porn (that is bad acting...  i know you all know that!) and the pacing expectations that you have (perhaps encouraged by porn) is something you should throw away mentally...   you'll quickly see and feel a pacing that is unique to the two of you... you just have to "listen" (with your eyes, your ears, and your bodies) and you'll very quickly find the rhythm to it that is consuming and compelling and hot.   sometimes fast, sometimes very slow yes... but NOTHING like porn.... and wayyy better than you dare quietly inside-you hope...  not because it's SEX and it's penis and vagina and all that - clinical words on purpose here...   because it's getting all hot and bothered and sexually rattled with the one person you waited for and the one person who claims making love with YOU.  :-)   i promise :-).

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For us it would just be how simple it can be, and how everyday it can turn (which isn't necessarily such a bad thing!). Sure, there'll be times that it's all romance, passion and fun, but other times, it's just a great way to spend time together.

 

But don't worry, it'll be hot most of the time ;)

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For some reason, I didn’t expect intercourse (the penetration part) to feel like anything. I guess I had always heard that women rarely could orgasm through penetration and to me, that equated in my brain to “well there must be no pleasure at all.” I figured just the men got the pleasure from that part. Luckily, I was mistaken!

I also expected to feel very self conscious in front of my husband but that has not been the case at all. When you’re with your spouse who you’ve made vows with and you know they’ve promised their life to you, it’s such a natural and beautiful thing.

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