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Are women turned off by inexperience?

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Hello ladies,

 

I was reading another forum about relationships and was wondering if most women are usually turned off by a guy's inexperience with women. I don't mean sex, but dating or being in relationships. Below is a quote that summarizes what I was thinking about.

 

“The older you get the more experienced they get, and the more foolish you look for not being as experienced for your age.  The older you get the more pathetic you seem to the opposite sex.â€

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No, I will not be turned off by a guy who is inexperienced. Learn to love yourself and take care of your family. Be true to your friends too and you will have no problem in a relationship. 

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I think that quote certainly has some truth to it. A lot of women do not care for male virginity at all, and prefer an experienced man. They are turned off by it. You just have to look out for the ones who do give a damn, who can see the sacrifice you're making and honor it.

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It doesn't matter to me that a guy is inexperienced. There are things that are much more important, like character, values, qualities, etc. I would prefer someone who has these and little-to-no experience than someone who's cocky and full of himself (which I've seen in guys that have a lot of experience).

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If most girls are turned off by it then I'm screwed. Having no experience at my age so far, it's now become a chicken and the egg scenario. How am I supposed to get experience if no girl will give me a chance to begin with? But then again, I don't want experience because I hope to marry the first girl I get into a relationship with.

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Calm the f*** down.

 

My uncle was 35 and lonely. Got married to a beautiful woman overseas. Happy marriage with no kids stuffing it up haha. Just dont give a damn!

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It doesn't bother me in the slightest if a guy is inexperienced. I would actually prefer it if they were, especially if they were not sexually experienced. 

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I guess not all women are like that. I was just wondering if it was the majority. Thank God for the women here.  :D

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The older you get the more pathetic you seem to the opposite sex.

To me, calling someone "inexperienced" is an excuse.  Maybe they are something else other than inexperienced, such as having poor social skills and ineffective communication skills (and perhaps they see that as inexperienced and "pathetic").  (Remember: Women are communicators!  So effective communication is important!  Take an Interpersonal Communication college course or read the coordinating textbook!).  

 

I don't need experience or necessarily want someone with experience.  I want a whole human being who has something to offer to a relationship, experience not required.

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My moms first boyfriend was her husband [my dad]. She was 31 and a virgin when she married. They have been married since 1991. 

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My moms first boyfriend was her husband [my dad]. She was 31 and a virgin when she married. They have been married since 1991.

My parents are the same. They met at work when they worked at inland revenue and my dad took here out for lunch. Mom was 30 and my dad was 29. Both virgins. Moved to england in the 80s then I was born. They have been married since the 1989. I like my parents, have dated and am a virgin. That's why I am on this site but may need to settle for less as no girl is a non drinker or smoker.

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Inexperience only means less/no emotional attachment to another girl. To me...that's a great thing! Especially if that man becomes your husband that'd be first gf/bf first kiss (maybe or just for him) first (only) husband and first and only sexually intimate partner :)

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It doesn't bother me in the slightest if a guy is inexperienced. I would actually prefer it if they were, especially if they were not sexually experienced.

I wish more woman were like otherwise I am totally screwed. No girlfriend or wife by 42. I wished I dated more but its not my nature. I wait for god to show me the way.

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Certainly not women on this forum! But I'm afraid to say that yeah, the average woman doesn't want an INexperienced guy. They don't want a James Bond either but usually women do like a man with certain...talents. Especially if she has some experience herself. But I personally don't care!

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Personally.....it doesn't matter to me either way....I ultimatly want the man God has for me!!! So, if he is a little more ADVANCED then me or if he's

NOT.....I will be just FINE with it! Cause I know God will have picked the VERY BEST for me!!! I have TOTAL faith in God!!!!

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Nope, I want a guy who is new to everything because frankly, so am I. lol

I am the same I would prefer girl who is new but I doubt I will find somenoe like that. 

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I guess the way I feel about it is, if they’re inexperienced, how are they going to get experience unless they’re around a woman enough to get that experience? So, no, it doesn’t bother me. It may require a little more patience on your part, so if that’s not a gift you have, you may want to reconsider, but overall, nah. It’s no big deal. 

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Very valid point. That is why I want a partner who is inexperienced also as it will be easier for me 

I guess the way I feel about it is, if they’re inexperienced, how are they going to get experience unless they’re around a woman enough to get that experience? So, no, it doesn’t bother me. It may require a little more patience on your part, so if that’s not a gift you have, you may want to reconsider, but overall, nah. It’s no big deal. 

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Well technically I'll be inexperienced too so I don't know if I would know the different between experience and inexperience. It's like the...of...size thing. How would I know if it is average or big or small if I've never seen one and never been into pornography or anything...

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To me, calling someone "inexperienced" is an excuse.  Maybe they are something else other than inexperienced, such as having poor social skills and ineffective communication skills (and perhaps they see that as inexperienced and "pathetic").  (Remember: Women are communicators!  So effective communication is important!  Take an Interpersonal Communication college course or read the coordinating textbook!).  

 

I don't need experience or necessarily want someone with experience.  I want a whole human being who has something to offer to a relationship, experience not required.

 

You've got a good point. Some men are inexperienced with dating or sex not so much because they choose to wait/value waiting, but because they are socially awkward and hence unable to get into relationships.

 

(I would know; I'm socially awkward myself.)

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I am like that but I do want yo talk to girls however work always gets in the way. Just have to try harder or head to a nice wine bar.

You've got a good point. Some men are inexperienced with dating or sex not so much because they choose to wait/value waiting, but because they are socially awkward and hence unable to get into relationships.

(I would know; I'm socially awkward myself.)

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I don't know about all women, but I know it doesn't bother me. I have no experience myself, and I would probably like it more if they didn't know what they were doing either. That way we can both be awkward and inexperienced together!

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