Invincible

How many is "too many" partners?

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On 9/28/2012 at 11:13 PM, Invincible said:

So many of us, a sexual past is not a deal breaker provided the other person is committed to WTM. But is there a point where having too many sexual partners is too much for you to overlook? Like if a potential love interest has slept with 10 people or 20 or perhaps many more? How many is too many for you?

The way I see it is when someone bonds with another sexually, they give not just a piece of themselves physically but a piece of their heart as well. It's a piece that you can never take back. When a person has given themselves sexually to so many people, it doesn't feel like they have much left for you since they have spread themselves so thin, so to speak. I will love my future wife with all my heart, sexual past or not. I could get over it if she was with a couple sexual partners. But I don't know if I could personally handle it if she has slept around with many many guys. On paper, I know I should be able to, but I don't know if I could emotionally get over it. I can't put an exact number but the more she has been with, the harder it would be for me.

I think if it's the right person God has for you, you won't even think twice about it :) ALSO, some food for thought: do you think that someone who had been married, waited till marriage, got cheated on, maybe got married and got widowed, if that would change the partner number at all? 

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For me personally any partner at all is too much. I am saving myself for someone who is saving themselves for me.

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More than 2 but even one is too much. Personally I will not like to have a wife that has defiled herself in the past. But I'm accepting the reality that fornication is becoming a norm even in our society.

But how would I know that whether she had a bad past or not?

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