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What are your deal-breakers?

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My deal breakers:

Against WTM

Egotistical/Inconsiderate/selfish (I honestly dont see how someone can be in a relationship with these qualities)

Not spiritual/nothing beyond the surface

Smoker

Drugs/criminal past(I dont care if theyve changed the past always comes back to haunt you and I dont have time for that)

UnEducated/Closeminded/racist in any way/sexist

Preachy/prude/

Too serious/goody two shoes/Boring

Unwilling to try new things

Hypocrite

Rude/mean/violent

Lazy/Not into fitness/poor eating habits..I know that may sound a little extreme but in my experience the guys Ive dated that had poor eating habits were just plain lazy and careless about what they put into their bodies and not motivated.  Because not all foods are fuel to the body, bad foods can make a person feel bad and Im tired of teaching a grown man how to eat :P

 

But, if a person is into fitness they usually if not always eat properly :P

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Wow this one keeps surfacing from the depths ,!

Ok a lot of the above say 90% but also

A partner who has a sexual past that is not nice. And they do not regret it ! They say its happened it was ok at the time so all right! Even plod on about it being part of what makes them what they are now. Yeuk.

When of course do you break off the deal ?? Hey now that's hard !!! Especially if their are others depending on you .

Baarrrrrrrrrrrr. Lol

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Okay I'll have a go...

 

Deal Breakers:

Cheating

Alcoholic/Drug user/Excessive Partier

Lying about past especially with STDs/STIs

Has an incurable STD/STI

Vegan/Vegetarian

Anti-Religious/Militant Atheist/Non-religious

Liberal/Hipster/Hippie

Arrogant

Argumentive

180 degree different political viewpoints

Pro-choice

Listens to mainstream rap or has sagging pants

Wears skinny jeans (seriously I would not date a guy who even entertained the notion)

Gold in mouth or grills

Calls me "shorty" or similar name

Sexist/Racist

Ignorant in terms of cultural ramifications

Uneducated

Serially unemployed (being laid off after a long job is one thing but being frequently laid off brings up a red flag)

Unfit(doesn't have to be muscular just healthy)

 

Preferences:

WTM (of course!)

Religious

Similar view points and places God/Bible in life decisions and choices

Can find the importance in both evolution and creation

Steady job

At least have an associates degree

Can discuss not argue

Meat eater

Cooks/Cleans 

Loves animals especially saltwater aquariums

Doesn't change his morals to fit the world's view/firm beliefs

Virgin or have had at most one sexual encounter (regretted it later)

Wants children

Honest/Untrustworthy

Good listening skills

Respects me and stands up for me

Loves to travel

Understanding

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There's just a couple of things I can't stand (that I can think of on the spot!):

 

- Dominance issues

- Prejudice: which includes racist, sexist

- Obesity

- Doesn't want kids

- Addict: drugs, alcohol

- Violence

- Promiscuity

 

I don't mind if he's not as smart as me, or plain looking. He must have a loving heart

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-I prefer for her to be Taylor Swift lol but she being my celebrity crush it's unlikely!

Taylor Swift is mine, back away!

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I agree with vince as a man thats how i am, but i want he to love guns cause if she aint going to like a room ful of guns with me then its pointless, 

some of my personaly deal breakers are

1. hats country music

2. isnt a christian

3. swears all the time, now i dont mind a few words once in awhile i do to, i am country after all

4. hates gays, i may be a christian but i still love everyone

5. isnt a conservative

6. hates hunting, i love to hunt, i love me some rabbit stew.

7. wears uber revealing clothes in public,i cant stand that, now i dont mind alot but short shorts and low cut blouses that show ever thing are a no no

 

now my preferences

1 Loves Guns

2. caring

3. wants to be a missionary at some point

4. loves texas

5. adventures 

6 looks like the most beautiful girl in the world(thats how my girl is)

7. i think that is it for the most partother then has to love trucks

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My "dealbreakers" are quite simple: she must an adult. That means no "Cosmopolitan", or Fifty Shades of Stupid or reality TV. She should also be quite queer and geeky, like myself. Anime, comicbooks, games, whatever generates her mass effect field. She can have any kind of beliefs or religion she desires, as long she doesn't try to shove them onto me. My wife needs to have a passionate fire in heart, and be willing to try new things. She must also be respectful of our union and talk to me about whatever is troubling her and be willing to compromise. 

 

And, most importantly, she absolutely must understand that she is indeed replaceable, and that I can very much go on and be happy without her.  

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My "dealbreakers" are quite simple: she must an adult. That means no "Cosmopolitan", or Fifty Shades of Stupid or reality TV. She should also be quite queer and geeky, like myself. Anime, comicbooks, games, whatever generates her mass effect field. She can have any kind of beliefs or religion she desires, as long she doesn't try to shove them onto me. My wife needs to have a passionate fire in heart, and be willing to try new things. She must also be respectful of our union and talk to me about whatever is troubling her and be willing to compromise. 

 

And, most importantly, she absolutely must understand that she is indeed replaceable, and that I can very much go on and be happy without her.  

Ooooooooooo. Perhaps I'm reading this wrongly but hey isn't some of this going to make her feel a little er vulnerable and insecure ?

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Ooooooooooo. Perhaps I'm reading this wrongly but hey isn't some of this going to make her feel a little er vulnerable and insecure ?

 

I don't see why. I would not bully or belittle her in any way--in fact I think I'd put a lot of time into doing just the opposite: building her up. I couldn't stand for my woman to be a constant downer. Me wanting her to be passionate and ambitious should not make her feel "vulnerable" or "insecure". Like I've said before, I want to be able to look at my life partner with pride. Make no mistake: a woman wants to be with me, I am fully prepared to give her my all. But I expect the same in return.

 

As for garbage like Cosmo and Fifty Shades: I've seen firsthand what it does to women...mass desensitization! 

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My "dealbreakers" are quite simple: she must an adult. That means no "Cosmopolitan", or Fifty Shades of Stupid or reality TV. She should also be quite queer and geeky, like myself. Anime, comicbooks, games, whatever generates her mass effect field. She can have any kind of beliefs or religion she desires, as long she doesn't try to shove them onto me. My wife needs to have a passionate fire in heart, and be willing to try new things. She must also be respectful of our union and talk to me about whatever is troubling her and be willing to compromise.

And, most importantly, she absolutely must understand that she is indeed replaceable, and that I can very much go on and be happy without her.

I agree with much of what you said but if she did have different reading taste such as a novel like Fifty Shades of Grey and not comics, I don't see how a novel would be more childish or not adult like than a comic, not saying comics are for only children, just speaking through how other people would see it.

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I agree with much of what you said but if she did have different reading taste such as a novel like Fifty Shades of Grey and not comics, I don't see how a novel would be more childish or not adult like than a comic, not saying comics are for only children, just speaking through how other people would see it.

 

Okay, then how about this: she can read the damned book, but by thunder if she asks me to "be like Christian Grey", or to re-enact scenes from it so help me, God...

 

This is already happening. A woman divorced her husband because he refused to reenact scenes from the book. I'd've been happy to get rid of her: its downright insulting. Fifty Shades is an infantile power fantasy...no woman should be reading it.

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Okay, then how about this: she can read the damned book, but by thunder if she asks me to "be like Christian Grey", or to re-enact scenes from it so help me, God...

This is already happening. A woman divorced her husband because he refused to reenact scenes from the book. I'd've been happy to get rid of her: its downright insulting. Fifty Shades is an infantile power fantasy...no woman should be reading it.

But I don't think it's a good book that people should be reading anyway, it's poisen to the minds of unsuspecting women. I was just saying what if...

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I've always believed you will always get what you deserve. Nothing more than what you deserve, nothing less than what you deserve.

 

"As you sow, so shall you reap"

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I replied but didn't actually list any. haha

Deal-Breakers

  • Drug Use (Even weed, I am okay with alcohol)
  • Incurable STD
  • Smoking (Cigerettes)
  • Inability to be an honest, kind person
  • Lack of desire or drive in life (I want a significant other, not a free-loader)
  • Vegan (not against this, but I like meat and will continue to eat it)
  • Egotistical, arrogant or batantly rude

Preferences

  • Waiting until marriage (Not required, but desired)
  • Enjoys being outdoors (someone to Ski, Golf, and Kayak with)
  • Willing to try new things
  • Like-minded politics or religion (not extremest or radical, similar "outlooks" on either subject)
  • A honest, kind person, that merely desires to be a force of good in the world
  • Someone who will love me for me
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Hmm. I'm a little late to the party on this one, but...

 

Deal breakers...

  • Mean-spirited gossip

Preferences...

  • Brains
  • Vulgarity
  • Slightly twisted sense of humor
  • Some kind of artistic ambition
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DEAL BREAKERS:

Non christian or catholic

Smoking

Swearing

Unmotivated

No CAREER im serious a just a job doesnt cut it. A real career. Doctor,engineer,teacher, etc.

non virgin

Doesnt like to travel/ homebody. Im a traveller. I want way more trips all over the world instead of just the honeymoon trip

Drug user

Peircings

Narcissistic

WHAT I WOULD WANT:

A traveller, like a huge one

Someone w/ a love of history

Kind

Loving

Tries to reason with me

Makes sacrifices

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My deal breakers are

Has kids from previous relationship

Smoking 
Drinking
Drug use
Racist
Excessive tattoos and piercings

Religious (I don't mind marrying an atheist) 

Mean

Want sex before marriage

Inconsiderate 

Preferences

-Kind

-Caring

-Respectful

-Smart

-Lone Wolf

-Love to travel and sports

--Interested in Cars

-Enjoy music
-Love outdoors (golf, skiing )

-Virgin

-In good shape (Fit and Athletic) 

-Good swimmer (I can't swim :(, Nearly, drown when learning in infant school)

-University educated (I'm a Bachelors and Masters graduate :))

-Wealthy

-Tall 

-Love Kids

-Enjoy art and opera

-Enjoy video games 

-Great cook 

 

 

I am a person who abstained my whole life from drink and smoking and I want a partner who is the same. I hate smoking and drinking strongly. 

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Dealbreaker:

-Needs sex before marriage

-Shoves religious belief down my throat

-mean

-inconsiderate

-her idea of fun is getting drunk and clubbing/partying

Preference:

-Christian

-Virgin

-Brunette

-Tall

-Athletic

-College educated

-Wealthy

-Interested in sports, travel, or cars

-Great cook

-Loves kids

-Romantic

-Adventurous or adrenaline junkie

-Great swimmer (I can't swim :(

-Great at public speaking

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Deal Breakers:

Has kids

Rude

Drugs

Alcohol

Pressures me to do sexual things

Selfish

Religious

Refers to women as bitches

Watches porn

 

Preference:

Kind hearted

Open and honest

Committed

Provides

Selfless

Mature

Smart

Controls his temper

Celibate

Edited by Princess Victoria
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Deal Breakers:

Has kids

Rude

Drugs

Alcohol

Pressures me to do sexual things

Selfish

Religious

Refers to women as bitches

 

I'm guilty of one of those. Wanna guess which one?  ;) 

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I, on the other hand have done none of them. Makes me so boring but I am a safe bet for husband material :):D

Deal Breakers:

Has kids

Rude

Drugs

Alcohol

Pressures me to do sexual things

Selfish

Religious

Refers to women as bitches

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I'm guilty of one of those. Wanna guess which one? ;)

The last one :)

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The last one :)

 

Lol! Only in jest! (jk)

 

No, I'm pretty selfish. I only like to go out and do things if they're on my terms. 

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