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Women actually dressed like women!

Maybe it's just me, maybe I'm old fashioned or whatever, but it really bothers me how some girls dress these days. Cover up a bit, why don't you? And why do you need your dress to hug every inch of your body? Stop it. You leave nothing to the imagination and it's slightly annoying to me. End rant. I'm not talking to anyone here, I'm just saying in general. I've been lurking too many "southern gent" tweet accounts today and I have again fallen in love with all things classy. I like clothes that fit my form, but aren't too form fitting. I'm pretty small at 5'1" and just under 110 lbs, so it's kind of hard to find clothes that don't swallow me whole... However, I also don't want clothes that are so tight I could barely swallow a bite to eat haha. I'm not saying dress like a nun, either... But have some class about it.

Feel free to chime in, girls and guys if y'all are browsing this. :)

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It's nice to hear fellow girls advise others to have self-respect and cover up. If a guy says it, we get yelled at, lol.

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I definitely agree. One word, MODESTY. Please?? And i'm a girl asking this, so...

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Oh RJ, you just had to go there. You've just had to get me started on modesty, didn't you? You just stirred up a storm here :)

Ugh! As a guy who is striving for purity, I am simply frustrated with how girls dress these days. I bet the the price for women's clothing are getting cheaper because less fabric is needed with all the revealing clothes these days. I understand summer time can get hot and it's time to dress down, but do you really need to wear something so low cut and loose that you display your breasts whenever you bend over? Do you really need to wear shorts that are so short that the whole world can see your butt cheeks? No! You can dress down to fit the weather without being too revealing and maintain a sense of style.

The other day I was sitting at church waiting for service to start. I was still trying to wake up and was oblivious to my surroundings. That is up until a girl sat in the pew right in front of me. Aside from a small tied knot, her entire back was exposed! Seeing girls in public dress this way is bad enough, let alone in church! I didn't want to be rude, so I just simply got up and sat someplace else. I know that us guys are responsible for keeping our thoughts pure, but it sure helps us a lot if girls dressed modestly.

Another time was when I was with a friend who was shopping for a Halloween costume at a store one October. There was a little girl with her mom who walked up to the counter and the mother asked the clerk if they had any costumes for little girls that wasn't revealing. The clerk looked at the mom as if she was crazy and said, "Are you kidding? That's the style these days!" The daughter looked like she was only 11 or 12! It was simply appalling that they make slutty costumes for girls that age. That's borderline child porn! Have we fallen so far as a society where we encourage women, let alone little girls to flaunt their bodies like that? Smh.

But I do want to thank all the classy ladies here on this forum for caring about us guys and making the effort to dress modestly. I don't want any of you to go on thinking your efforts are unnoticed or unappreciated. Thank you for being secure in yourselves in knowing your true worth is lies what's in your shirt but what's in your heart and the right kind of guys will take notice one day :)

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I agree with you RJ!!! I like nice fitting clothes (as in clothes that are tight enough to complement my figure but aren't so tight that they are like a second skin). And I'm finding it impossible these days to find such clothing!!! Most dresses for going out/going to weddings are waaaaaay too tight and waaaaaaay too short. It's actually come to a point where I can only buy babydoll dresses (you know the ones that flow from the bustline) so that I can sew on extra netting/fabric as an underskirt to lenthen the dress to just above the knee.

And it's killing me because I really love the current peplum trend as I think that cut is so flattering but the skirts of those dresses are so tight I just wont buy them.

I agree with you, girls need to start dressing more classy and shops need to stock more classy clothes!

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Eh, I'm not so much concerned with what other people wear. Albeit, I'm not a guy so the whole effort to remain pure isn't really affected by what girls may choose to wear.

I grew up in a fairly conservative home so modesty was the theme, I am probably considered a prude because of what I wear, but again, I have absolutely no concern what others wear if it's in proper context. I think that almost every generation ends up wondering what the next generation is thinking in terms of clothing.

It's a sliding scale! I have friends who think that I'm a prude because I don't like the short shorts or micro skirts but I also have ultra conservative Christian friends who think that I'm in the wrong for wearing pants and not covering my hair.

I like that I'm not concerned with any choices but my own! And I like to think that everyone grows up and get's over whatever fashion choices they made in their teens or twenties. I'm not going to find them wanting because of it.

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Hm, for me this is a grey area. I'm a full figured gal, so I avoid wearing clothing that is too tight. However, I do love wearing low cut v-necks. I think they're sexy and show just enough where the rest is left up to my boyfriend's imagination. Whether I should give him something to yearn for or not in the first place is another issue.

Anyways, the reason this is a grey area for me is because I've also had many older people say that a young lady shouldn't have her arms and legs bare. I think that is ludicrous. I see nothing wrong with my arms and legs-if I want to show them, I show them. I don't think it's inappropriate in any way. I've also gone to chuch and was told that a young lady should wear shoes with a heel to them. Depending on how high, I HATE heels. But to this woman, heels was how a real lady was supposed to dress. You know what I wear? Sneakers and Flip Flops.

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I know that us guys are responsible for keeping our thoughts pure, but it sure helps us a lot if girls dressed modestly.

This!!!! Yes, exactly. That's what I'm getting at. Ever since I've had this... Heart change, it truly has affected every area of my life. I don't run around cursing up a storm when I'm upset, anymore. I don't run around trying to tease a guy I like with sexual innuendo type comments, I do not care about Cosmo anymore haha, and I really don't want to be seen as something I'm not. It is partially our responsibility, too, to help y'all stay pure by being wise in our clothing choices. Form fitting is okay, but skin tight is not. It's not okay to show everything but and then be mad when he's making cat calls. Cover up, and shut up is how I see it. Haha when I hear girls complain about "Omg did you hear what he just asked me? Why would he ever think I'd want to sleep with him!!!" Well, I thought you did, and I'm a girl. I mean your breasts are hanging out of your shirt, and your butt is just barely covered, too while you're swaying right in front of him "conveniently" dropping things to pick them up. What are you trying to say? Put some clothes on, and then maybe he'd approach you respectfully. I get that it's difficult for some girls to dress in certain ways because of body types, or whatever... But that still isn't an excuse. You can still cover up. Haha sorry to get all ranty on y'all, but I've had enough of this crap.

I agree with you RJ!!! I like nice fitting clothes (as in clothes that are tight enough to complement my figure but aren't so tight that they are like a second skin). And I'm finding it impossible these days to find such clothing!!! Most dresses for going out/going to weddings are waaaaaay too tight and waaaaaaay too short. It's actually come to a point where I can only buy babydoll dresses (you know the ones that flow from the bustline) so that I can sew on extra netting/fabric as an underskirt to lenthen the dress to just above the knee.

And it's killing me because I really love the current peplum trend as I think that cut is so flattering but the skirts of those dresses are so tight I just wont buy them.

I agree with you, girls need to start dressing more classy and shops need to stock more classy clothes!

I understand. I love some of the current styles but I'll put them on and they're so tight I seriously feel like I can't breathe. I'm like "Why would you want to wear this, anyway? It's suffocating!" Haha. Don't even get me started on the body-con dresses. Oh. No. Cannot. Do. It. And people really say to me "Ro, if I was as tiny as you are, I'd be wearing every kind of new style out! Do you know how many girls would kill for your body? You're like perfect!" Umm... Thanks, but so? I love fashion and nice/pretty/trendy clothing... But I do not love looking like I'm saying "I'm for sale, how much do you (not want) to pay!?" So I tend to steer clear of too many tight/short items of clothing. Sometimes I'll wear a dress with leggings underneath it and boots, but even that can be suggestive. Leggings (which are skin tight) as pants... Haha they're like yoga pants on girls for a guy... He loves them. I love my legs, and I like wearing shorts in the Summer... But I really do try to watch my dress. I want to make sure that my outer appearance represents who I am (and what I want in my life) on the inside, period.

Eh, I'm not so much concerned with what other people wear. Albeit, I'm not a guy so the whole effort to remain pure isn't really affected by what girls may choose to wear.

I grew up in a fairly conservative home so modesty was the theme, I am probably considered a prude because of what I wear, but again, I have absolutely no concern what others wear if it's in proper context. I think that almost every generation ends up wondering what the next generation is thinking in terms of clothing.

It's a sliding scale! I have friends who think that I'm a prude because I don't like the short shorts or micro skirts but I also have ultra conservative Christian friends who think that I'm in the wrong for wearing pants and not covering my hair.

I like that I'm not concerned with any choices but my own! And I like to think that everyone grows up and get's over whatever fashion choices they made in their teens or twenties. I'm not going to find them wanting because of it.

Yeah, I get it. It's usually much easier for us ladies to remain pure because I don't exactly lust after a guy just by seeing how he's dressing. I can see how it's a sliding scale. I don't think there's anything wrong with a woman wearing pants, nor do I think it's wrong for her to show her hair. It's really not that serious to me, I just wish women would have more modesty, or less complaints about comments on their style of dress when they're approached in a disrespectful manner.

Hm, for me this is a grey area. I'm a full figured gal, so I avoid wearing clothing that is too tight. However, I do love wearing low cut v-necks. I think they're sexy and show just enough where the rest is left up to my boyfriend's imagination. Whether I should give him something to yearn for or not in the first place is another issue.

Anyways, the reason this is a grey area for me is because I've also had many older people say that a young lady shouldn't have her arms and legs bare. I think that is ludicrous. I see nothing wrong with my arms and legs-if I want to show them, I show them. I don't think it's inappropriate in any way. I've also gone to chuch and was told that a young lady should wear shoes with a heel to them. Depending on how high, I HATE heels. But to this woman, heels was how a real lady was supposed to dress. You know what I wear? Sneakers and Flip Flops.

Sometimes I wear low cut shirts, but always with a cami underneath. I don't even want to remotely give a guy the impression that I'm offering more than I'm willing to share. That's my own personal belief. That and I'm a little full figured up top, in spite of being quite petite... So I take extra care to cover up. I don't agree that our legs and arms should be covered. That's weird, to me. Besides, I live in Texas where it is blazing hot 9 months of 12, so I'm definitely not wearing long sleeves and jeans everyday, haha whatever. You also don't have to wear shoes with heels. Wear what makes you comfortable, but just be cognizant of the message you're sending out. That's all I'm trying to say here. I love my running shoes and flip flops, too, girl. I also love heels... But I'm not a Stepford wife and I don't feel the need to always be so dressed up. I love Southern style, but I'm also a girl next door and you can easily find me with 0 makeup 90% of the time, jeans, and a tee shirt with some sandals. That's just who I am. Haha, I don't really care what anyone says about it, either.

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Here's what I put on another forum post about modesty and I think it could apply here.

I don't agree either with girls who don't want to be looked at or stared at by guys, but yet wear this skimpy clothes that show too much! It's like OF COURSE they're going to look at you. Girls could make it easier on guys by wearing modest clothing, and you guys could make it easier on us by not talking about that six-pack you may have! (Well, for me anyways!) I think modesty and pure thoughts go hand-in-hand with virginity. To me, virginity is an extension of those pure thoughts. It takes strong will to be a virgin, and to me that will is supported by pure thoughts.

I wear tanks, decent v-necks, longer shorts, decent blue jeans, plaid roll-cuff shirts, basketball shorts, a lot of things.I wear flip-flops, tennis shoes, converse. I don't wear anything skimpy, but something that is modest. I agree with what you said. I also wish more girls could feel that they don't need to show off their body to feel beautiful. Beauty comes from the inside, and if people can't see that then I don't see why we should waste our time making them see that.

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I agree 100%. Nothing wrong with short sleeves, or skirts a little above the knees...but I've seen dresses that could be shirts and shorts that were practically underwear. Ick.

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Ugh! As a guy who is striving for purity, I am simply frustrated with how girls dress these days. I bet the the price for women's clothing are getting cheaper because less fabric is needed with all the revealing clothes these days.

Au contraire, envincebal: women's clothing prices are horrendous.

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This!!!! Yes, exactly. That's what I'm getting at. Ever since I've had this... Heart change, it truly has affected every area of my life. I don't run around cursing up a storm when I'm upset, anymore. I don't run around trying to tease a guy I like with sexual innuendo type comments, I do not care about Cosmo anymore haha, and I really don't want to be seen as something I'm not. It is partially our responsibility, too, to help y'all stay pure by being wise in our clothing choices. Form fitting is okay, but skin tight is not. It's not okay to show everything but and then be mad when he's making cat calls. Cover up, and shut up is how I see it. Haha when I hear girls complain about "Omg did you hear what he just asked me? Why would he ever think I'd want to sleep with him!!!" Well, I thought you did, and I'm a girl. I mean your breasts are hanging out of your shirt, and your butt is just barely covered, too while you're swaying right in front of him "conveniently" dropping things to pick them up. What are you trying to say? Put some clothes on, and then maybe he'd approach you respectfully. I get that it's difficult for some girls to dress in certain ways because of body types, or whatever... But that still isn't an excuse. You can still cover up. Haha sorry to get all ranty on y'all, but I've had enough of this crap.

Make no mistake, guys will lust after girls regardless if she's wearing a spaghetti strap or a turtle neck sweater. We have a great capacity for imagination. But dressing modestly is like a condom, it can't completely protect you from dirty things, but it can significantly reduce the chances :)

But seriously though, I've learned not to be too judgmental of girls who dress immodestly yet complain when guys look. I think many of them are simply naive and don't understand how the male mind is wired. We're designed to intensely desire a woman's body. I don't think many girls understand that and that's why it's so easy for them to dismiss guys as pigs. While they may be harsh, I can hardly blame them because they're not guys. They usually don't have the same struggles as we do. While many guys are pigs, even decent and good guys have these desires too. The difference between the bad ones and the good ones are how they handle this desire. A pig is going to embrace lust and treat women like objects. Good guys will exercise restraint and save his eyes and sexual energy for his future wife :)

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i wear tight clothes when i go out. but my rule is, if i show legs, cover my boobs, and vice-versa.

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But seriously though, I've learned not to be too judgmental of girls who dress immodestly yet complain when guys look. I think many of them are simply naive and don't understand how the male mind is wired. We're designed to intensely desire a woman's body. I don't think many girls understand that and that's why it's so easy for them to dismiss guys as pigs. While they may be harsh, I can hardly blame them because they're not guys. They usually don't have the same struggles as we do. While many guys are pigs, even decent and good guys have these desires too. The difference between the bad ones and the good ones are how they handle this desire. A pig is going to embrace lust and treat women like objects. Good guys will exercise restraint and save his eyes and sexual energy for his future wife :)

Very, very true! I've found that the kind of girls who dress immodestly and then complain about piggish attention either A) secretly like the attention and may be doing it on purpose, B ) are insecure and it makes them feel better about themselves, or C) really have no idea just how visual men are. I can't stand girls who are A, I feel sorry for girls who are B, and I understand girls who are C because they are probably very inexperienced girls or young women.

What makes girls call guys "pigs" isn't the fact that they look, but the fact that they usually make very rude, insensitive remarks. It's totally normal for a guy to look, but it should never be normal to verbally or physically mistreat a girl based on the way she is dressed. In that case, it is the guy's fault. He may not be able to control his eyes, but surely he can control his words and hands.

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I agree completely! I mean, it's not hard to dress well and in style--and with class. For example, here are a few things I bought over the weekend:

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(simple colourblock sweater)

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(collared blouse)

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(shimmering gold peplum blouse which looks so much better in person, I promise!)

anyways, see! all are cute (and fairly inexpensive), and I'm not showing the entire world everything I have. nothing is ultra-tight, see-through, and would prompt "how much?"

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But dressing modestly is like a condom, it can't completely protect you from dirty things, but it can significantly reduce the chances :)

Dear Lord!! How can you compare fashion to a condom???!! :D this made me laugh and shake my head at the same time. Oh men...you are such different creatures to us!!

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Dear Lord!! How can you compare fashion to a condom???!! :D this made me laugh and shake my head at the same time. Oh men...you are such different creatures to us!!

Ummmm......well how about a really stylish and comfortable condom? Wow, I think I just dug myself too deep into a hole and there's no way I can talk myself out of this one ^_^

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Oh men...you are such different creatures to us!!

And yet, we wanna date 'em, and even almost go head over heals for some. Oh the irony...

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I agree completely! I mean, it's not hard to dress well and in style--and with class. For example, here are a few things I bought over the weekend:

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(collared blouse)

(shimmering gold peplum blouse which looks so much better in person, I promise!)

anyways, see! all are cute (and fairly inexpensive), and I'm not showing the entire world everything I have. nothing is ultra-tight, see-through, and would prompt "how much?"

where is this from? i want it so bad!

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Ummmm......well how about a really stylish and comfortable condom? Wow, I think I just dug myself too deep into a hole and there's no way I can talk myself out of this one ^_^

Wouldn't hurt to grab a shovel anyways. ;)

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Hahaha I love y'all, and I'm happy I found this group. I love how we have differing opinions, but we're respectful of one another and we can discuss these things with rationality and sincerity. That's all I wanted to say. I'm having a headache-y kind of day, so I'm slightly down for the count (but not really, because I'm still doing things) but I just wanted to say thank you to everyone!! :)

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I don't mean to be a buzz kill, but I feel like I need to say this. I've read some, not all, some answers and I think they are sounding very judgemental. I myself believe modesty is the way to go as well, but I don't think I'm more or less than anybody. I'm not naming names, because this is not about anyone here, it's the idea in general really. Why judge someone, why not just let them be? That's just my opinion, I'm am not talking about anyone specifically so please don't be offended, this is my view on things in general. I also dislike conflict, and I'm not trying to start anything, only stating my opinion.

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