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FlowerBee, September 10, 2011
Posted September 10, 2011
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Hmm. I definitely know what you're talking about. I think it used to be worse for me when I was younger. It's been a while, but I can remember watching a TV show and thinking "Oh son of a bitch...do they have to make out/have sex AGAIN?!"
Nowadays, it's not so much sex that annoys me in TV/Movies as it is casual sex. Like, I'm happy as long as people are monogamous and there's love/emotion involved. But when people start throwing it around like its nothing (and glorifying it) I lose all ability to identify with the character.
So my favorite fictional heroes end up being the ones with the most monogamous attitude towards love and sex, and I have trouble maintaining interest in shows that are consistently anti-monogamy.
This, again, is why Pushing Daisies absolutely rocked my world.
If characters are in love, I don't mind the sexual suggestiveness so much. To some degree, I want them to be suggestive because they've earned the right by falling in love. So if Hermione is suggestive towards Ron, I'm happy (for Ron). But if she's suggestive towards Viktor Krum, I'm annoyed and repelled.
I have yet to feel anything but repelled by most of the Doctor Who pairings, with the possible exception of The Girl in The Fireplace. If he's flying around abducting beautiful girls to have companionship, that's all cool. But if he's just seducing a new human girl (1/15th of his age) every few years...it makes him a bit creepy. So I never really liked that whole Rose Tyler crush thing. I thought it was a bit icky. Luckily they fixed that issue for me starting with Martha Jones.
But now I've gone a little off topic now haha. I'm curious to see what everybody else says about this!
With me the discomfort comes and goes. Some days I don't think about it much, but other times I do cringe and feel very uncomfortable. I always think it's kind of funny that I like so many shows that talk about sex so casually, like Friends and... Sex and the City (I know... ). I just try to take it with a grain of salt. I don't approve of the lifestyle, but who am I to judge, and there's so much else that's fun about the shows that I don't focus on that aspect too much. I will say that I find the casual sex stuff a heckuvalot easier to hear about when it's in fiction. But trashy "reality" shows and people chatting about it in real life... can't stand it.
Yes, highly suggestive/sexual scenes are quite discomoforting for me. What I do is, I almost never watch movies in the theater, so I usually wait till I have them on DVD and then can fast-forward any sexual/suggestive scene that comes. Regarding TV, I don't watch much TV, so that doesn't affect me much, but a good alternative I see (especially in this age we are in) is to watch TV shows online (be it youtube or other sites), so you are able to do the same thing like movies and fast-forward those sections.
I feel weird watching stuff like Sex and the City. Firends isn't bad because they usually don't show much---might see them morning after in pjs or laying the bed together but no action. I'm fine with that. I just hate like SATC----makes me feel like I'm watching porn! (Show people 'in action' and apparently are allowed to show women on top) Like sooo uncomfortable. And on top of that mkes me you know what. (the h word) Ugh. Even though it's hilarious I try not to watch it because of all that.
Posted September 11, 2011
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I agree with Alice. And p.s mike. DON'T YOU DEAR INSULT DOCTOR WHO!!! He doesn't even touch any of the girls he always refers to theme as friends! And Amy pond is happy marred! (Though I do emit her trying to seduce him the night b4 her wending day bugged me to no end.) But Is okay I still like you mike.
Flowerbee, I've noticed I'm doing the same lately too! Adverts are becoming really sexualised and it's hard to not get caught up in it. I hate that it is everywhere because I'm trying my best to clear it from my mind but then it gets thrown straight back in there by tv shows, films, adverts.
It's really really frustrating but as soon as something comes on you just have to try your best to think about something else or pick up your phone and start texting someone you owe a reply or haven't talked to in a while to distract yourself.
"I wish I could just put a movie or whatever in and just relax. Knowing that I have to constantly fast forward things, how am I supposed to actually enjoy it? " I feel exactly the same! Lately I can't sleep properly because I normally put a film on to drift off but everything I used to love watching has sex in it or something and recently things like that really bother me because I start feeling really tempted and lax about waiting. "Watching them say or do gross things makes ME feel dirty for some reason" I feel the same too It's a struggle, I'm hoping that if I try clear my mind properly in a few weeks none of this stuff will bother me. I hate being bombarded with sex on tv.
I was even watching a U film from the 60s the other day thinking YES this won't have anything sexual in it but there were sooo many horrid references to it and songs about men in the navy needed a woman etc. really grossed me out.
Mike-"But when people start throwing it around like its nothing (and glorifying it) I lose all ability to identify with the character." I agree! I was watching the 80s superman films the other day and when Lois finally realises who superman is they go sleep together straight away and then he erases her memory. In one way he was in love with her but he seemed ridiculously quick to jump into bed with her and it kind of ruined it for me.
Oh and I went off Doctor Who as soon as the new writer took over and David Tennant left. Everything that comes out of Matt Smith's mouth just seems sexual. I don't think kid's programmes should even have underlying messages, even if they don't notice I hate the loss of innocence now I know what they mean
Posted September 13, 2011
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Oh and I went off Doctor Who as soon as the new writer took over and David Tennant left. Everything that comes out of Matt Smith's mouth just seems sexual.
Damned right! Hear that, Andi?! That's two of us in the Tennant camp now muhahah.
Although really, I would watch all the Matt Smith episodes semi-happily if they were on Netflix right now. He's still better than no Doctor.
I was watching the 80s superman films the other day and when Lois finally realises who superman is they go sleep together straight away and then he erases her memory.
Wow I totally don't remember that whole memory erasing part. I'll have to go watch it again now. I think I'd probably be OK with Lois & Clark sleeping together. I realize that sex is to most people what "making out" is to me, so considering how well Lois and Clark know each other, and the fact that they're soulmate-like characters, that scene probably wouldn't register very high on my "off-putting promiscuity" scale. Of course, I haven't see that part in probably 15 years, so I'll have to go watch it again to be sure.
I generally like old movies though, but not from the 60s. I like pre-60s stuff like Humphrey Bogart, Lauren Bacall, etc.
Posted September 14, 2011
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I only have a problem with it when there is no other point to the story. Like the writers seem to think the only thing adults can be into is random sex and hookups. That;s why I got bored with HIMYM.
i think with the whole superman thing it was a really nice escape from all the latest movies that degrade women and sex. It was bringing me back to when i was younger and loved romance etc. So it kind of ruined it just because i built it up to be the perfect happy film without sex. I've got into the flight of the conchords programme recently and loved it because again it was a funny show i could watch without the fear of sex until the last episode where they showed jemaine having sex and despite it being a fantasy and during one of my favourite songs by them i can't look at them the same way! I still love the show but i just hate that realisation. Brings me back to reality which i dislike! It's just slightly devastating but i get on with it. Does anyone else get that or just me? I think i put certains things on a pedestal and then they disappoint a bit.
I love old movies. I think the only movies i don't enjoy are westerns except for the old true grit-i enjoyed that
i have a lot of audrey hepburn films, frank sinatra and dean martin films/musicals and a couple of marilyn monroe films but she gets on my nerves-not that great an actress. She only ever played the blonde bimbo funnily enough! My cousin has a rule never to watch films pre 90s! And will never watch black and white movies! Which is sad!!
Posted September 21, 2011
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I don't really have a problem with sex scenes in movies or TV shows, because I'm choosing what to watch or not watch, so I know what I'm getting into when I sit down to watch a certain show. And in some shows (like Game of Thrones and TrueBlood) those scenes are some of my favorite parts!
That being said, what I DO have a problem with is suggestive TV commercials because you don't have a choice (aside from TIVO/DVR) what commercials you see.
This Sealy commercial from the Super Bowl was particularly annoying to me:
Watching shows with suggestion stuff doesn't bother because I know I can watch it without thinking I need to give because I know I don't. Just tell yourself it's just a TV show and it's not even really happening. No need to feel bad about it. You're not doing anything wrong
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