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sadasf12 posted a topic in Topics About Waiting and/or RelationshipsHi all! I'm in a bit of a problem and would like advice from people. I am 19 years old and have been dating my current boyfriend for 2 years. I made it clear to him when we first started dating that I was waiting for marriage, and although he wasn't, he said he would wait for me. We are both virgins. Beginning a couple of months ago, our relationship started to take a rocky turn because of this. He REALLY wanted to have sex and my refusal to caused him to start sexualizing a bunch of other women (which would mostly occur if he were to find out it was easy to get them in bed or that they sleep around) and caused him to feel heaps more attracted to them than he was to me, and he began watching pornography more often. Basically his eyes were wandering and although he was "still in love with me" I was no longer as physically attractive and he had a heavy preference for other women. He said a lot of hurtful things to me because of it and it almost caused a break up until he told me how sorry he was and how he was gonna change his behavior and completely knock pornography because it hurt me a lot. This was all taking place during our first year of college. We're home now, and his behavior has improved significantly. His attraction to me has gone back to how it was before sex became a major issue for him. When I asked him why his behavior changed so suddenly, he told me he felt more pressured to party all the time and have sex with loads of beautiful women because that's what his friends were doing and told him that he should be doing the same because "it's ridiculous that his girlfriend has not slept with him after 2 years". Being home apparently puts less pressure on him to do that. I was talking to him last night though, and now I'm beginning to have my doubts about whether a waiter and a non waiter can truly be together. He told me part of him is still very angry at me for not sleeping with him, because he knows the only reason he is not having sex is because he is with me. The comment upset me and I didn't want to speak to him for the rest of the night. So I want to know. Can a waiter and a non waiter be together? Should I try to make it work with my boyfriend, or should I dump him because it's obvious that sex is too important to him right now? Does he have a right to be angry and should I be the one apologizing? Do you think I will have the same issue when we return to school? All help is truly appreciated. Just sleeping with him is not an option. I've been struggling with this issue for a long, long time, but compromising my morals for the sake of a boy is just something I will never do.
I had my son when I was 20. I've split with his mother and have decided to wait since then. I realize the value in waiting after that whole fiasco, but it seems like women who are waiting don't take me seriously because I already take care of my little one. Does it seem crazy for someone in my situation to try and meet fellow waiters? I have so much more respect for women that do, but the feeling hasn't always been mutual. Any thoughts?