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The other day, I went to church and after service we had a picnic. I started talking to another church member and we got on the topic of marriage. She told me she was married at one time but divorced him. She realized he was not Mr. Right even though he was in church, he even went to the same church she did. However, she never had any kids which she regrets now because the marriage didn't last and now she's too old to have any even if Mr. right were to be revealed to her now and she doesn't date. She also was celibate until she married this guy so of course she had no other opportunity to have kids because she was trying to do what she thought was right. He actually disappeared one day and she filed for divorce but it's currently in limbo. After she told me all this, I couldn't help but feel sorry for her. Now that I thin about it, there are probably a lot of Christians and women in general who have this problem. This topic kind of hits close to home with me because I'm almost done with college but there seems to be no prospects of any guy being the one for me that I've met so far. Sometimes this scared me because i'm in my 20's so I have a while before my biological clock starts ticking but I think sometimes about what would happen if I meet the one or who I think is the one when i'm too old to have children. I really want to have kids, not this very second but sometime after I graduate college. I also know in this day and age, getting married and then having kids isn't that common but that's how I want it to be for me. My question is what would you do if you decided to become celibate for religious reasons until you get married but miss out on having kids due to age because you got married later in your life or because your relationship didn't work out before you had a chance to get pregnant?
Whats wrong with being in the friend zone? The next guy I take interest in will have to be my friend first so I can see who he really is and if we are compatible, we can get to know eachother better...whats wrong with that? Why are guys afraid of the friend zone? If things dont work out so what you just gained a new friend...why are men so egotistical when it comes to dating? Im tired of dating egos its so annoying, and to be honest Im tired of dating in general its supposed to be a fun experience but its not. What happend to just enjoying eachothers company and having fun meeting new people there is no harm in that right? Just because a girl doesnt want to date you now doesnt mean she's completely not interested in you, maybe she isnt ready for a new relationship and needs a break. Who knows but the friend zone isnt a bad place to be. Obviously dont let her take advantage of youre kindness but I think thats the reason dating is so difficult today people are in a rush to be loved. Instead of taking the time to get to know one another