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  1. denominations

    Yes, there is scriptural evidence for the belief that Jesus is present in the Eucharist. Here are some of the passages: 1) John 6 51:68 In Jegsy Scaar's Ask the Catholic Thread she explains this bible passage. The question given to her was Why do Catholics believe bread and wine is the literal body and blood of Christ? Here is her response: Great question! I reckon that's probably one of the most commonly asked questions about Catholicism, so I'm glad I can get it answered. Why do we believe it's really His body and blood? Because He said so. If you look at John 6, at about 6:51 is when Jesus tells the Jewish multitudes that the bread and wine is really His body and blood (It's pretty long, but I'll give you it all): "I am the living bread that came down from heaven. Whoever eats this bread will live forever. This bread is my flesh, which I will give for the life of the world.” Then the Jews began to argue sharply among themselves, “How can this man give us his flesh to eat?” Jesus said to them, “Very truly I tell you, unless you eat the flesh of the Son of Man and drink his blood, you have no life in you. Whoever eats my flesh and drinks my blood has eternal life, and I will raise them up at the last day. For my flesh is real food and my blood is real drink. Whoever eats my flesh and drinks my blood remains in me, and I in them. Just as the living Father sent me and I live because of the Father, so the one who feeds on me will live because of me. This is the bread that came down from heaven. Your ancestors ate manna and died, but whoever feeds on this bread will live forever.” He said this while teaching in the synagogue in Capernaum. On hearing it, many of his disciples said, “This is a hard teaching. Who can accept it?” Aware that his disciples were grumbling about this, Jesus said to them, “Does this offend you? Then what if you see the Son of Man ascend to where he was before! The Spirit gives life; the flesh counts for nothing. The words I have spoken to you—they are full of the Spirit[e] and life. Yet there are some of you who do not believe.” For Jesus had known from the beginning which of them did not believe and who would betray him. He went on to say, “This is why I told you that no one can come to me unless the Father has enabled them.” From this time many of his disciples turned back and no longer followed him. “You do not want to leave too, do you?” Jesus asked the Twelve. Simon Peter answered him, “Lord, to whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life. We have come to believe and to know that you are the Holy One of God.”\ If you look at that passage, there is absolutely nothing there to suggest that Jesus is speaking symbolically. In fact, He doesn't just say, "This bread is my flesh", He emphasises it several times: "My flesh is real food and my blood is real drink. Whoever eats my flesh and drinks my blood remains in me, and I in them". Now some argue, "Well, in the New Testament, Jesus also says that He's a "door" and a "vine", and he's clearly speaking symbolically there, so why not when He calls the bread and wine His flesh and blood?" Well, there's a huge difference. When Jesus says, "I am the vine", there's no one in the crowd who misunderstands Him and says, "Oh, how can this man be a plant?" They get that He's talking symbolically. And if Jesus was talking symbolically, and the people misunderstood Him, then why does He not correct them? In John 4:32, Jesus says: “I have food to eat that you know nothing about,” which the disciples misunderstand to mean that He has literal food with Him, but He corrects them: “My food is to do the will of him who sent me and to finish his work." So if He corrects them there, then why would He not correct a misunderstanding about His body and blood? Clearly, there's no misunderstanding. With that in mind, there's really only two possibilities. Either, Jesus was talking symbolically. The Jews all took it literally, were horrified because what He said sounded so shocking, and refused to believe Him. Rather than correct an honest misunderstanding, Jesus instead allowed them to leave Him, even thought that meant they'd miss out on the message of Eternal Life, and go back to their families and friends and spread this misunderstanding to them. That all seems rather unlikely. The other option: Jesus was talking literally. The Jews took it exactly as they were supposed to, did not want to accept His teaching, and left Him. Jesus then tells the Twelve that if they don't want to accept what He's taught them, they can leave too. (Clearly, it's really important to Him that everyone believes Him about this) That's why we believe that it's Christ's literal body and blood. Because He told us so. To add here, throughout this passage, Jesus doesn't soften his stance or make no attempt to correct "misunderstandings". In John 6:60 we read that many disciples of Jesus left him because they believe it was a hard saying. If what Jesus said was a misunderstanding if he had erred in someway, you would think he would call his disciples back and correct it. Instead, Jesus would repeat himself (e.g., four times Jesus said they would have to "eat my flesh and drink my blood') in the passage. 2)1 Corinthians 10:16 The verse reads: "The cup of blessing which we bless, is it not a participation in the blood of Christ? The bread which we break, is it not a participation in the body of Christ?" For a Catholic this means that when he receives Communion, he participates in the Body and Blood of Christ and not just see the bread and wine as symbols. 3) Matthew 26:26-28, Mark 14:22-24, Luke 22:17-20, and 1 Corinthians 11:23-25 In these passages, Catholics believe Jesus is saying that when you eat the bread and drink the cup, you are consuming his body and blood. For example, in Matthew 26:26-28 we read:"Take and eat, this is my body". Then he took the cup, gave thanks, and gave it to them saying, "Drink from it, all of you, for this is my blood of the covenant, which will be shed on behalf of many for the forgiveness of sins." Hope my post answers your question.
  2. denominations

    I go to a Catholic church. One reason why I go to this church is because I believe that Jesus is present in the Eucharist (to Catholics this is explained by the term Transubstantiation);although other Christian groups also believe that Jesus is present in the Eucharist (e.g., East Orthodox and Lutherans). In addition, I can go to any Catholic church in the world and feel that I am home. For example, when I went to church in Tokyo, Japan, I can follow the order of the mass (the format was the same back home) even though Japanese was the vernacular language spoken in that church. I think there are many churches because different groups hold differing opinions on things. For example, one group may believe in papal authority and another group may disagree.
  3. Would You Allow Your Wife To Groom You?

    I wouldn't mind it at all if my wife groomed me. As for grooming her, I would do it.
  4. Favorite flower?

    I like Roses.
  5. Random Thoughts

    Aw, that's really sad. My dog had cataracts and he was paraplegic towards the end of his life. That was hard to watch. I can relate with you a little, .
  6. Welcome to the forums, 4800 years. Is rape a type of sex, a type of assault, or both? Rape is not a type of sex. It is actually a form of sexual assault which usually includes penetration of the victim's body. It is often used as a legal definition to specifically include sexual penetration without consent. Other forms of sexual assault would be attempted rape, forcing a victim to perform sexual acts such as oral sex or penetrating the person's body, fondling or unwanted sexual touching. Here is a site that shows how each state legally defines rape and other forms of sexual assault. Link: Would it be right to say she's never had sex before since she didn't consent or participate? Experientially, she sees it as something totally different (like being in a fight vs. being abused, or skydiving vs. being pushed out of a plane). I think she is right in this case. In my opinion, she never had sex. What she experienced was rape. Would it be right to call her a virgin since she has never had consensual sex? Or would we be lying to ourselves? That would also depend on your definition of "virginity" since the definition of virgin has varied throughout history, religion, culture, and even today is defined in different ways by different people. If we look at the basic definition of virginity as someone who has not had sex before then one argument would be that being raped does not mean you have not lost your virginity. Rape is not sex, it is an act of violence where one person chooses to hurt the other;whereas sex is about choosing to be with another person; it is a positive experience where both parties freely and willingly consent to what is happening. Does this guy count as a sexual partner or add to her "n-count?" I am not sure what is a "n-count". No, I don't believe this guy counts as her sexual partner, but more like a sexual predator to me. If we get married, will we still have that same "specialness" of two virgins coming together for the first time? Hm, I think the answer depend on how someone defines virginity. For me, I would think your gf is still a virgin because she didn't willingly consent to sex. Does she still have just as much to give as a virgin? Yes! Who a person is is not 100% defined by her virginity or lack thereof. Human beings are multi-faceted creatures. That being said, I do think your gf would have much to give considering she has qualities (personal or otherwise). I think answering this question largely depends on how you view her rape situation and ultimately her virginity. How do I get over the idea of another guy having already "been there?" I feel nauseous when I think about it. I think you feeling nauseous is a good thing. It is a proper physiological response to a situation like this. It is also a time when you will be confused, anxious, and emotionally charged. I think your answer to this question would depend on your attitude. Personally, I would first recognize that your gf's rape wasn't her fault. Her rape wasn't caused by what she wore, where she was, or what she did. A rape happens when a man makes a decision to hurt a woman he thinks he can control. Rapes happen because of the rapist and not because of the victim. Secondly, the fact that your gf had the courage and talked to you about her rape experience is good news. It can be one of the most frightening experiences for a survivor to tell you what happened and she often wonders how you react. The fact that you accepted her and her feelings does help. Is this something I will always be worrying about, even into marriage? Or will I eventually be able accept and move past it? Well, rape has negatively impacted some marriages. However, I think you will be able to move forward as best you can. One thing that might help you is finding a support group since they will help you validate your feelings and meet others who share your experiences. You can also see a therapist who will offer an objective perspective on your unique situation Could this help us both grow in the long run by helping her to heal and helping me to focus on the heart and love unconditionally? Yes, this event can help your relationship with your gf grow. However, it will require patience, love, and time. Though, you sound like you are each other's best friend, which is good to hear. Hang in there! There will be some rough spots but I think you can have a deep loving relationship. Some resources that may help you: 1) Sexual Assault Service Providers Link: 2) Virginity and Rape Link: 3) A Man's Guide to Helping a Woman who has been raped Link: 4) What is Sexual Assault? Link:
  7. Getting very broody

    I also get broody too. I also exhibit similar symptoms when i am around children too (want to protect them and want children of my own). To me, i interpret my feelings as being attracted to family life.
  8. 29 yr old virgin. Los Angeles, CA

    Hey Javier! I can relate with you (especially on how you feel lol). I will let you into the forum. Welcome, .
  9. 29 yr old virgin. Los Angeles, CA

    Hey Javier! Welcome to the site! I am a 30 year old male virgin and I can understand a little bit of what you are going through. It does seem from my perspective that male virgins at this age are a rare thing and at times undesirable. On the one hand, I know as a guy I am given messages to have sex with lots of women. Or, people give me the silent treatment when I say I am a virgin like they are surprised or something. In addition, I don't think wanting to marry a female virgin is unrealistic either. It is something that's good. If that is something that you want, hang on to that belief. I believe God answers prayer since your prayer seems to come from the depth of your heart. Finally, I think LadyKaede's video touched on a very good point which is the unexamined life is not worth living. As a person who follows a religion (Catholicism), people may think that I wait till marriage only to follow a deity, but my religious identity is just one component of who I am as a person. I also wait for personal reasons. I think it is important to examine the reasons why you wait and not just the religious ones. There a good resources out there (like from this website) that can help you in your waiting journey. Finally, hang in there. It is difficult to wait in this day and age but not impossible. I am glad to meet you as one of our newest members. If you want access to the Guy's Only Forum, feel free to message me as I am the gatekeeper for that forum. We could use your input and I am sure the other guys could relate with you in some way. I hope this site helps you out on your waiting journey. -Chris
  10. Random Thoughts

    I broke my high E string on my guitar while I was restringing it and I feel sad because there is no place nearby that sells a single high E string .
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    My medicine ran out this morning.
  13. Random Thoughts

    Yes, that is definitely what is happening in that dog picture. You are funny Jegs.I liked the video. Thanks for sharing. Speaking of basset hounds....
  14. Random Thoughts

    Nice cute pic. Here's mine.
  15. Asking out an introvert

    Hey CF, I can understand a little bit about your feelings. As a guy, I am also introverted myself so getting up the courage to tell a girl that I really like her can be terrifying at times. One thing that sticks out from your post is the fact that you are trying. You wrote him a poem and letter and I do think that's great! You also spend time with him (even though it may not be long) and that's good too! I think making a move would be good cause it would help get rid of some unwanted anxiety. I think as a guy, it would feel great to get a letter or a poem. Why? Because, knowing someone took the time write to me a letter tells me he or she cares and I think it is something that everybody can relate to. People like it when others do something for them. Plus, as an introvert, I like to get stuck in my own little world so reading a letter will keep me stuck there. It is great (or maybe it is just me, ). From my experience, trying to get to know someone better can be daunting and times intimidating, but I think if you take it in increments, you will be okay.
  16. Random Thoughts

    Yes, those things are important. I like this book. Link: What's your poo telling you?
  17. Hi from Maryland!

    Welcome to the site, .
  18. Please help... I feel so conflicted

    Thanks for sharing your post. I am also really sorry to hear about your abusive upbringing. What you went through wasn't your fault. I am glad to hear that you found God and are working to strengthen your relationship with him. I also believe you are on the right track. Hang in there, . As far as advice on being abstinent, I second Invincible's opinion. I think it is also important to evaluate your relationship with your current boyfriend. For example, what are your bf and you's values? Do they coincide with each other? In addition, maybe talk about boundaries with your bf since knowing your bf and you's comfort levels can help the relationship be an abstinent one and reevaluate it from time to time. I will keep you in my prayers.
  19. Hey HeWhoWaits, There is no posting quota for the "guy's only" forum. You just need to PM the "guy's only" forum admin. In that case, that would be me, . I will let you into the forum.
  20. Guy Dancing to Alicia Keys

    Just thought I'd share. For those who are having a crummy day, I hope this vid brightens it.
  21. Mother Angelica dies Easter Sunday aged 92

    Thanks Jegs for posting this clip. I am saddened to hear the news of her passing since I am a fan of her network. I liked watching the reruns of "Mother Angelica Live." Her sharp wit, knowledge of her faith, faith witness, and courage are infectious. I am also inspired by her faith in Jesus too. One of my favorite shows on the network are the reruns of "Life is Worth Living" by Archbishop Fulton Sheen. Just liked to share a funny story here: When Mother Angelica was asking for a loan from the bank in order to help pay for the cost of the network, the banker asked Mother this question: Do you have collateral? Mother Angelica responded by saying: "Yes, I have the convent and 11 nuns." Lol. I wasn't expecting that as an answer. RIP Mother Angelica. I will keep you and your fellow sisters at Our Lady of the Angels Monastery in my prayers.
  22. Warning: Phishing site

    Hey Everybody, I have also received Google's red security page recently. I was able to contact Mike, he is aware of the issue, and he will ask Google to rescan the site (now that the spam threads are gone) sometime this week. He hopes that will resolve the issue.
  23. Apparently WTM is selfish or something

    I take this article with a grain of salt. Hm... I cannot speak for all men, but if I met a woman who announced that she was celibate, I would have a lot of respect for her. I know some women in my family who chose to be celibate for one reason or another, and those women are strong women. They have strong morals and values. Um, I can assure you men can hold out longer than 90 days without sex ( e.g., see men on this site). It is not an easy choice to follow, but it does have value. I was confused by this paragraph: how does being sexually celibate follow pocket book celibacy? I am sure there are people who are sexually celibate but are not celibate with their pocketbooks. I wouldn't mind it. A chance for a good meal, . Um, not all men think like that. As a man, my ultimate goal is not to gain carnal knowledge of a woman. Actually, I want to know what are her interests, her values etc.. Does she want to watch a movie or play a game with me?Pan's Labyrinth or chess anyone, . Hm...if a woman wanted to do all those things, she is a good woman, .