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    Wow,...I'm late. Happy belated Birthday Mike! Thanks for creating this site and for the support you have given us waiters over the years. May your dreams come true!
  2. Answers to prayers

    Yes. I have talked to God about my special interest. On the one hand, I have prayed to God selfishly and asked him to bring us together. Fortunately, that didn't happen and I came to understand why a couple of years later. I have also learned that if you truly care for someone you will want what's best for them, and not what's best for you. Like Vince, the girls that I have had a crush on but prayed for non-selfishly, have met their special someone. So, what does this tell me...well..maybe I should become a monk (joking). On the other flip side, when I have prayed for something, I have also received an answer. I remember when I needed a music instructor after picking up the guitar, and within a couple of weeks I received one. Unfortunately, I learned pretty quickly that a guitar cannot give you a hug. I guess its back to waiting... . Hang in there Nicole. I'm sure God has someone planned for you.
  3. What are your favorite religious verses?

    A couple of my favorites are 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8, and Josh 1:9.
  4. What do you think are some qualities of a successful marriage?
  5. What animal do you identify with the most?

    For me, I think I would most identify with a wolf. A wolf is a hard worker, family-oriented, playful, and intelligent. I think these characteristics describe me in some way.
  6. Being Single

    Yes, that situation was awkward. I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only one who feels this longing.
  7. How important is compatibility?

    Hmm... nice ramble Vince. For me, I think compatibility is not 100% needed. I know this may sound scary to some people (eg., me) because it does sound counterintuitive. For example, I wouldn't mind if my future wife loved folk music, jammed with me until 1am in the morning, or was geeky chess nerd like myself. That would definitely add to the chemistry and attraction in the relationship. However, to expect someone to possess similar characteristics is a stretch. I think some compatibility is important ( like both having similar values or world views). However, I think what gets someone through the day is having the capability to work at his or her marriage because that shows that the person cares not only for his or her spouse but for the relationship as well. Its good to have compatibility in some areas but I think work is also needed to create a good and lasting marriage.
  8. Children: A deal breaker?

    I also think it is the thought that counts(i.e., having the desire to have kids of some kind). Do I want to have biological children sone day? Yes. However, I think what is important here is being sensitive to her needs and to the reality of the situation. Adoption would sound like an option.
  9. Have any of you found yourself crushing on a fellow member here on the site? Yup Would you ever consider dating someone from WTM? I would consider it When you found this site were you secretly on a mission to find other waiters to date, or were you just looking for information about waiting until marriage? I was looking for information about waiting till marriage and to find other like-minded people.
  10. Being Single

    Hey TLWA, I can also relate with the holiday blues too. I remmember walking into a diner on a Valentine's Day, by myself, and the waitress says to me, " Why are you by yourself, it's Valentine's Day." lol. However, I also find it romantic that you write poetry and songs. Keep doing those things that make you happy and one day I'm sure your future husband will be woed by them. He will be attracted to the unique you. Hang in there, .
  11. Just Joined

    Hey Marinda, welcome to the site. I'm also sorry to hear about your break up . However, I also think it is important to stay true to who you are. Glad to you have you here as a member of this site. You will fit right in, .
  12. The argument that a female non-waiter shouldn't respect a male waiter is not a good one. If abstinence is a generally seen as old fashioned, it is not the case that those who practice it are extremely religious, prudish, or unable to find willing partners. It is sometimes the case that those who practice it are non-religious, and/or have normal sex drives and appetites. Evidence for this premise comes from this website. Thus, the conclusion that a female non-waiter shouldn't respect a male waiter or find his abstinence admirable is not true. In Logic 101, it is taught that if you can prove one of the premises false, then the conclusion drawn from the premises can be in error. Why should a male waiter be looked upon with respect or find his abstience admirable by a non-female waiter, you might ask? I can think of one or two reasons. First of all, he is a trend setter. If you look at the data from this site, you will find that there are more female waiters waiting than male waiters (65% female to 35% male). A great orator once wrote that "dead bodies float downstream, it is only the live ones that resist the current". What can this adage mean? For me, it means that male waiters resist the current of societal values. They possess values that go against societal norms. For the female non-waiter, I will argue, these are good qualities. This means the male waiter won't treat her like garbage or yesterday's mail. There is a higher chance of him possessing gentleman-like qualities. Second of all, he is more selective of his life partner. Even though he may possess typical human being characteristics (e.g., sexual urges and appetites). He works to control them because he hopes to gain deeper and life-giving relationships. In this way, his mind is clearer and he can focus on items that matter to him. This is just one male waiter's perspective, .
  13. I don't think experience is required to become a better husband/lover. For me, it's not the experience that solely determines the quality of a person. There are people with no experience who would make good husbands/lovers because they possess good and enduring qualities.
  14. Stacie is the new 25+ admin!

    Congrats Stacie!
  15. Any Old Fashioned Guys?

    Hey Hopeful Poet! Welcome to the forums, . You can also put my name on that list. I'm also an old fashioned guy who believes in the traditional idea of romance and courtship. We are out there. I also know what it's like to be alone on a Saturday night, . However, sometimes, it might take just putting yourself out there. As a shy guy, I know how difficult it can be to do this act, but, in time, you will gain confidence and good social skills. Finally, please don't settle for mediocre; keep your values high. You deserve someone who will treat you with nobility, respect, and one who will fight for you.
  16. So guess what!?!?!? ;)

    Awesome news! Congratulations! I wish both of you a blissful and happy life together.
  17. NicoleNova is the New Girls-Only Admin!

    Congrats Nicole and Sally! Woo hoo!
  18. "Marriage tips for GUYS"

    Thanks for the article Vince. I learned a lot from these pearls of wisdom, . Just have to say...after reading number 12 on the list... I was like dang! What a way with words! Something to remmember! Number 13 cracked me up, but it makes sense.
  19. Who is your favourite saint?

    Some of my favorite saints are St. Peter, St. Thomas Aquinas, and St. Therese of Lisieux.
  20. Misheard lyrics

    The theme song to the movie "Kung Fu Dunk". I think I hear the words " I want tofu" instead of "kungfu".
  21. If you could be any animal

  22. Newbie

    Welcome to the site!
  23. Joint. Call me lazy, but I don't want to walk to the next room to give my wife a good morning kiss. I want her right next to me.
  24. Favorite Country Song

    "Better Dig Two" by the Band Perry
  25. Random Questionnaire

    1. Were you named after anyone? No 2. When was the last time you cried? Watching Schindler's List 3. What is your favorite lunch meat? Chicken 4. Would you bungee jump? I would give it a try 5. What is the first thing you notice about people? Their smile 6. Who do you miss the most? My grandma 7. What was the last thing you ate? Salmon 8. Mountain hideaway or beach house? Beach house 9. Favorite sports to watch? Basketball or Tennis 10. Hair color? Auburn 11. Eye color? Brown 12. Do you wear contacts? Sometimes 13. Favorite food? Seafood 14. Scary movies or happy endings? Happy Endings 15. Last movie you watched? Skyfall 16. Summer or winter? Fall 17. Hugs or kisses? Both 18. Tea or coffee? Tea 19. What is on your mouse pad? My mouse 20. Favorite dessert? Green tea ice cream 21. Did you like answering these questions? They were fun.