Getting tougher to Wait -- Help? in Topics About Waiting and/or Relationships Posted July 13, 2012 · Report post John Morgan, no offense, and maybe you didn't mean to come off this way, but you sort of sound mean. Like, I know its the internet and hard to tell where people are coming from, so maybe you weren't trying to be, but there's really no need to be harsh. I said I wasn't going to have sex with him just to save the relationship. I just want to know about other people's doubts. A little kind reassurance that I'm doing the right thing by waiting. Plus, "chances are he will not want you at all" .... I guess that's the sort of person you are, you only want a virgin. That's fine for you. But I would marry someone even if they weren't a virgin, as long as they wait for me. And if someone didn't want me because I wasn't a virgin, that would be the end of me liking them or thinking they are a kind, accepting person. I don't know how far you've been, sexually; you don't have to tell me. Maybe you have been almost all the way there. But I will say that in my experience, and from what I've heard from other people, the farther you go, the more difficult it is to stop. The more you do, the more you want. I guess that's what I'm dealing with now, and so is my boyfriend. He is not a jerk, and he is special. I don't fault him for wanting to have sex. That doesn't mean I'm going to give in to him, but I also understand that it is a new and yes, difficult thing for him to wait. I'm sorry, but I don't need someone to tell me not to have sex with this one. I guess I just want other people's stories of doubt about their choice. And thanks, markb4!