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  1. Just like JeanCarlos' fantastic question/thread: After knowing a woman is willing to wait until marriage, what other qualities are you looking for in a girlfriend/wife?
  2. Female Body Hair

    What do you think? Men, could you accept your woman in her natural state? Women, could you go without removing body hair? Why do you remove it? My turn: I remove body hair but it is a pain for me. My skin does not react well to it. I simply remove for societal expectations and nothing more. I feel a lack of freedom to be myself, the way God made me.
  3. This is a question for the guys, because I already pretty much know what women think, being one myself. What is more important? Being attracted to a girl or liking her personality? Of course she can't be too obnoxious. But just how far will attraction take you? Are you more willing to overlook minor things if she is a bombshell?
  4. Flowers

    GUYS: What if your girlfriend got YOU flowers just because she wanted to? What would you do? How would you feel about that?
  5. You meet someone online and they seem like a great match for you. But they live miles and miles away. If you're in the U.S., then they live several states away. Are long-distance relationships worth it? Can they work? If so, how?
  6. Are you shy?

    Men: Are you shy? If so, what would your ideal girlfriend be like?
  7. As you are in the dating field, you find someone who is also single and waiting until marriage. Great. Now how do you know if they are the one for you? What questions do you seek answers to? What qualifies them to be your life partner? What are you looking for? What do you expect from them?
  8. LadyKaede, you are fantastic! Funny and smart!
  9. How to deal with promiscuity resentment?

    Your views, TarantulaNebula, are very normal around the WTM community. There are lots of guys who value waiting as much as you and are just waiting to meet you! These men do exist. But, the others (men who do NOT value waiting or value sex more than they value a human being) are also quite common, even more so unfortunately. It's reality. My advice would be to break up with your boyfriend simply because you should never be with someone who causes your self-esteem to lower. It's hard to be different in society. But everyone else could be very wrong! Hang on to your principles! Your boyfriend is using you. I know. Because many men have tried the same with me. It's a sad world, honestly. You have to look for the beauty, search for the beauty in the world, and maintain a standard of beauty in the good things of the world. Or you'll be taken advantage of very easily by numerous men with the same motive. I hate to sound so jaded, but I've been there one too many times. The world is this way. Being a beautiful woman with standards is a much different experience than many people realize. Many people think sexism doesn't even exist! That beautiful people have it made! But we're preyed on! We're hurt! We're taken advantage of! We're tricked with flowers and "I love you"s. It's not genuine. It's all about sex and selfish motive. "Be the change you wish to see in the world." -Ghandi Stand up for your beliefs. We need people like you in the world. P.S. I do not believe promiscuity should be despised. We shouldn't put people down in order to bring ourselves up. Standards are a beautiful thing. Promiscuity is often rooted in selfishness or low self-worth. We should pity it, but we should not shame it. Promiscuous people are not always bad people. They could just be lost.
  10. How should Christians handle pathological liars?

    I, unfortunately, also have experience with being jaded by a pathological liar. But I have learned some skills to handle them along the way. #1 you can't help them. Their problem started so young that it is way bigger and deeper than you are. These types of people you have to love from afar. You can't have a healthy relationship with them. The dysfunction is too deep. You can be friends, acquaintances, etc. But they are like porcupines. They will poke you whether they meant to or not; it's inevitable. #2 To know if they are lying or not: don't ever underestimate the extent a liar will go. They lie about things they don't even necessarily benefit from! It could be so minor and irrelevant! They lie comes quicker to them than the truth. But also, always look for the evidence. Before I knew that a person would lie to me like a pathological liar can, I was easily buffaloed (because the are great manipulators). If you say, "But earlier you said this and now you're saying this", they will deny the earlier statement or imply you misheard. They'll make you mistrust your own self! So, look for the evidence, if they said something happened. (Are their dates accurate? Were other people there that they said were there? Are their stories especially entertaining?) That's what police have to do. They catch a criminal but the criminal often says "I didn't do it!" You listen, you look to see if actions match words, but you can't always trust someone's word alone. Now this is why I find integrity and honesty extremely valuable traits in a person. #4 BOUNDARIES. You must set boundaries with this person (and all people), but especially this person. Be strong in who you are and where you stand. They love those who will pity them. They gravitate towards the easily swayed. #5 Donald Trump
  11. http://www.relevantmagazine.com/life/relationships/why-dont-guys-my-church-ask-women-dates I thought this was a great read.
  12. Born Again Virgin

    Waiting is worth it no matter where you are in your journey. Welcome.
  13. We often talk about the benefits to waiting. But, to some who wait, remaining celibate is quite difficult. This thread is to list reasons remaining celibate is challenging. ---- -It is hard to say you are a waiter in the moment when the person you love is initiating sex with you. -It's easy to wait when a person has very few actual temptations, their path in celibacy is different than the person who actively dates. -One difficultly for me in celibacy is when I tell a man I am dating that I am waiting, its like they take it as a challenge to change my mind! Men are deceiving me and makes me mad at men! But its not all men, just a lot of them. God tests the heart of man, and I think a lot of them fail the test. (This is just my perspective as a single, 30 yr old female). When I meet a man who respects me, I will just appreciate them that much more. ---- What do you find difficult in your celibacy?
  14. A nonvirgin waiter will understand the reasons a person decides to wait for he IS a waiter. Most nonvirgins are not waiters. If a nonvirgin decides to wait, they have made a profound choice. It just may have taken them awhile to come to this virtuous truth in the notion of waiting. But they do understand its value or they wouldn't be waiting.
  15. This thread is not about what you think about nonvirgins.
  16. -- skin hunger -- loneliness
  17. Would ever date someone who was mentally challenged? Someone who needed constant tutoring in school and sounded different when they talked, but otherwise was a very nice and friendly person. Was able to learn almost anything (even finish college), just at a slower pace. And if everyone else knew they were mentally challenged.
  18. Higher Education

    Just like Libs thread here: Higher Education How do us women feel about our man having an education? My answer: The more educated I become, the more I appreciate conversation that education nourishes. I prefer a man with at least a bachelor's degree. I think I would be a great supportive wife to a medical doctor for example, because I understand the terminology and all the basics of the medical field. Or an engineer because I love creating prototypes and inventing (although there is still a ton I could learn). I am a first generation college student. My dad does not have a college education and I thoroughly respect that. I'd even consider dating someone without a college degree. Especially if they were open to me sharing all the interesting things I've learned in college or if they have a sense of wonder. More importantly than college, I think it is important (and attractive) for a man to have a set of career skills. Skills that are marketable. That means he's thinking about his future and his contribution in society. My uncle said to me once, the secret to success is to know how to help people. If you know how to help people, you'll never have to look for work. People will always be coming to you. They'll need the skill that you have (such as fixing cars). If you need to go to college to attain a skill, then do that. I'd also rather my man work 2 or 3 jobs to make ends meet than to not work at all because he couldn't find a job in his field. What do you think ladies? Education a requirement, preference, or not?
  19. Guys with long eye lashes

    I like long eyelashes on a man... except if he acknowledges them in a way that implies the fact they are a longer, better than mine. Then I can't stand the vanity he exudes.
  20. Vegan Style and beautiful women

    As a future nutritionist, just want to make sure you get your Vitamin B12 (as was already mentioned) and your calcium! Cereals are fortified, yes, but if we need B12 and it comes strictly from meat, then were we meant to eat meat? We don't need a lot to meet our needs. Just a thought to ponder. Plant-based diets have many, many benefits as well namely cancer-reducing benefits. (Vitamin B12 deficiency can give a tingling in the feet, FYI)
  21. Ask a Seventh Day Adventist

    How do you feel about Dr. Carson as president?
  22. Honestly.. why are you single?