Piper

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  1. ...in relationship to your decision to WTM. A friend told me today that I would never be able to get a guy to stick around if I wasn't sleeping with him, and genuinely did not mean it to be insulting whatsoever. So, out of morbid curiosity, what's the rudest thing (well-intentioned or not) you've ever heard from someone who knew you were waiting?
  2. I came across this article on the news the other day and wondered what other people would think of it. On one hand I think the author is selfish and, although she made a lot of mistakes, waiting till marriage isn't one of them. On the other hand, I do have a deep irrational fear of something like this happening to me... http://www.salon.com/2013/05/06/my_virginity_mistake/ Note--the article is a little racy I guess...maybe should be in Viewer Discretion Advised?
  3. I found this on HuffPo today and had to share it with someone...can you believe this woman is a dating coach? http://www.huffingtonpost.com/charlie-nox/i-slept-with-your-boyfriend_b_3815022.html
  4. I wouldn't ever say that I don't want to get married, but it WOULD be a big inconvenience to work around as far as my career goes. That would be my only hesitation.
  5. I lead a pretty active life, and it's got me to thinking lately about how this might influence relationships/marriage. I like canoeing, hiking, traveling etc and I think i'd really need someone who can keep up with that. How do you all feel? If you're the adventuresome type, do you need a partner who feels the same, or would you be okay wth someone to come home to? If you're a little less inclined towards adventuring, would you be willing to leave your comfort zone for your significant other?
  6. How Did You Spend Your 4th Of July Holiday!?

    Yup, worked. No rest for the wicked as they say...
  7. ok question, "GRAPHIC"

    I would prefer not. Not a dealbreaker by any means, just a preference.
  8. thanks for the thoughts, everyone...it pretty much seems to be the case that running into other WTMers is more a freak accident than anything else It isn't hard for me to be friends with most types of people since I mostly choose to fly under the radar as far as waiting goes, but it would be encouraging to meet other waiters...sounds like I need to find a good church i guess.
  9. Does anyone on this forum get the opportunity to hang out with like-minded people outside of the Internet? I really have no problem getting along with most anyone, but it would be nice to be able to socialize with people who have a similar perspective and worldview. It just doesn't seem like there's much opportunity for that sort of thing in the post-college working world. I'm currently in a very isolated situation where I can't really do any kind of socializing outside of work, but I'm relocating to KY in the fall where there's hopefully more human civilization. So do any of you guys have a WTM peer group? Do you have like minded friends or are you mostly alone in your wtm decision? Sorry if this has already been covered, I guess I'm just looking for ideas on how to locate peers who don't think my decision to wait makes me the equivalent of a two-headed circus freak.
  10. I'd like to believe that there's such a thing as "the one"...someone you just know is right for you. It would take a lot of the guesswork out of life.
  11. I agree with a lot of what you all said...I don't feel like it was entirely the guy's fault though. He did seem to be making some attempt to discern whether or not she was enjoying herself, and she continued the problem by lying about it. I do agree that her arguments against WTM aren't legitimate, however.
  12. What a Tease!

    This is a bit of a sensitive point for me. I have been told by guys I turned down that I "led them on" or was acting like a tease and quite frankly I find it annoying to the extreme. I do not dress or act provocatively in any way, or indicate that I was even slightly interested in more than friendship. I am however very outgoing and friendly to people (unless they give me reason not to be). What should I do, act like a snark all the time just in the off chance that a guy I'm around might potentially be interested? On the other hand, I do recognize that there are those--girls and guys both--that seem to think it's a power trip to lead people on. My random thoughts.
  13. Forgive me if this has been covered before, but I was wondering what you all's opinion would be. Suppose you met someone who was perfect for you by the 'checklist'--say, WTM, of your religion if applicable, a generally good person, etc--but there just wasn't a spark. Supposing you could like, even love, that person, but you aren't in love. There's no big love affair, no infatuation. If the opportunity presented itself, would you settle for being with someone you are comfortable and contented with, rather than hold out for the possibility of meeting someone who fulfills all your checklist criteria but also give you that spark? The reason I'm asking is that it just seems to unlikely to find all that in one package. Maybe some people get lucky, but for some of the rest of us, would it be better to 'settle' than be alone?
  14. "Hanging out" in the bedroom

    I do like the idea of hanging out together, I like the comfort, and I feel like it's hard to really get to know someone if you're never alone in a quiet, intimate environment with them. Personally, it doesn't cause a problem for me and I don't feel like I would get into trouble (until I get that ring, my pants are about as movable as the Great Wall of China). But it seems (from sad experience) that you just never know where the other person is at, or whether they can handle that kind of situation without temptation. I guess if I was going to consider it, there would have to be an absolutely inflexible ironclad set of rules in place about what is and isn't allowed. Otherwise, probably not going to happen.
  15. "Settling"

    Haha...I know exactly that feeling.
  16. "Settling"

    I guess 'spark' isn't really the word I was looking for. I'm not talking about physical chemistry exactly, which I know can be a temporary feeling, or any particular deficiency of character. I guess I just feel like we sort of learn from a very early age to think that we all have a Prince Charming (or female equivalent) out there somewhere, someone who's our 'one-and-only,' 'love at first sight,' or whatever you want to call it. What if you just don't get that feeling with someone, even though on paper they might look perfect? Could you be happy with them, or would you eventually become bitter and feel like you'd made a mistake? What if you ended up marrying that person only to find that the real Prince(ss) Charming was just around the corner? Maybe I just over-analyze things...? LOL
  17. I was kinda depressed after reading your post. Sorry you had to go through that stuff! There are so many creeps on the internet...and in real life too, of course. I have had that kind of thing happen to me a fair amount and I've been trying to not let it get to me or let it influence how I view men in general. There are lots of great guys at there, and I don't want to start judging them all because of the actions of a few bad eggs.
  18. I've reached the conclusion(lol well known it for a while, I guess) that WTM isn't the most companionable decision to make. It seems to make for a lot of lonely nights where you can't sleep and you just don't know what to do with yourself. During the day for me at least there are plenty of distractions (work, school, friends) so it isn't as bad, but the nights can get a little rough. Does anyone else have the same problem? Any tips on dealing with "white nights"?
  19. Ladies, when you're walking down the aisle....

    I would definitely want my dad to walk me down the aisle. I don't think in modern society that it has any of the whole property association left, I think it's just a sweet father-daughter moment.
  20. Thanks for being encouraging, guys @Nicole I am now addicted to that website....
  21. Wedding vows

    I am a traditionalist as far as the vows go, I guess...I mean if I'm going to go to all the trouble of being married I want the church wedding and the big dress and the Til-death-do-us-part, plus I love the language and sentiment of traditional vows. On the other hand, I think the idea of private vows later is amazing and very romantic. I'd love to do both.
  22. The iPod Shuffle Game!

    I can never resist doing these things... 1. What is your name? Yankee Bayonet, The Decemberists 2. Where were you born? Below My Feet, Mumford & Sons 3. What do your friends think of you? If I Die Young, The Band Perry 4. What do your enemies think of you? The Phantom of the Opera, Michael Crawford & Sarah Brightman 5. Where would you most like to be right now? Save the Last Dance for Me, Michael Buble 6. What is the best thing about you? O Mio Babbino Caro 7. What should you do with your life? Since You Been Gone, Kelly Clarkson 8. What do you avoid if possible? Octopus Garden, The Beatles 9. What is the main reason you were born? Man! I Feel Like a Woman, Shania Twain 10. Where will you be in 24 hours? Midnight, Trans-Siberian Orchestra 11. Where will you be in 24 years? Scarborough Fair, Simon and Garfunkel 12. What couldn't you live without? Sunny With a High of 75, Reliant K 13. Name a song that you want to play at your wedding? Never Gonna Leave This Bed, Maroon 5 (…?) 14. What will you name your first child? June Hymn, The Decemberists 15. How will you die? Feels Like Today, Rascal Flatts (should I feel a sense of impending doom?) 16. What will your dying words be? Never Saw Blue, Hayley Westenra (cover) 17. What song will they play at your funeral? Roll Away Your Stone, Mumford & Sons 18. What's your biggest regret? Firework, Katy Perry 19. Who do you admire? Fall Away, The Fray 20. What do people assume when they first look at me? Better Than Revenge, Taylor Swift 21. What is some good advice for me? The Wild Rover, The Dubliners 22. What will be a big challenge in life for me? The Little Horses, Trad. 23. What is my sexual preference? Gravemakers and Gunslingers, Coheed and Cambria 24. What do you say when life gets tough? Eye of the Tiger, Survivor 25. What is the story of your life? Bad Romance, Lady Gaga
  23. It is weird that rehashing the rude things people have said to me make me feel better about my decision to wait? I can't believe some of the stuff people have said to ya'll though! Haters gonna hate, I guess....
  24. Agreed! It just blows my mind what people think it's okay to say to you.
  25. ok GUNS!!! :D

    Sorry if I'm kinda taking this a little off topic (should I have started another thread?), but I was wondering if anyone had any advice--I want to get my CCW within the next year, and I have no idea what I would want to get as far as the actual gun. I have some experience with shotguns, but I'll be the first to admit that I know next to nothing about handguns. The only reason I need it is because I often work in isolated situations and/or by myself and I would like to be carrying something a little scarier than mace just in case I get into a bad situation. I would prefer it to be as small and light as possible, but other than that I have no idea what I would want to get. Any suggestions?