Viva

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  1. I married a non waiter. Problem came from him. I learned that it is a myth when nonvirgins say doing it will make you learn about how to do it. Actually, I always knew it was bs. Let's remind ourselves that our ancestors went to marriage without knowing how to do it. My hubby simply showed me in action that the thing was complete myth. Yep, I was virgin, but I was the one to teach him how to do it by making him forget how to do it. It is all in passion. Our sex crazed people know the least about sex. When you let love take control you are actually not having sex. You are instead making love. This is gonna be a huge challenge in a marriage if you lose virginity before it.
  2. Everything but Sexual Intercourse

    I married that guy. All my ex's believed in that, but not all of them were virgin. I rejected all those who wanted that before marriage.
  3. In public: You know that whole, "Aww, it is hard to find a man like yours". He is completely different outside. He looks very sophisticated. I thought I won after waiting. He wanted to be treated like a virgin also. I listened to that. Bomb dropped on me when I saw his inability to understand the meaning of what we were supposed to do on the night of our wedding. He couldn't understand what "special" meant. He couldn't bond. It was this same old "seen this before, did this before". I now completely understand the true meaning of virginity. It goes beyond biology and it truly is about two people and not one. I also see how the term damaged good is not an insult. It is real!
  4. You sound far more mature than me from the past. I had countless opportunities, but at the last minute, I always said "No". You did the right thing. He would have left even if you were nonvirgin. The only difference is that he would have done that after receiving what he aimed for. However, we really need to understand that waiting is beneficial to the society. It is a practical choice.
  5. How many…?

    I had all stable relationships with no sex. One very short and two very long before I met my husband. My partings always seemed to have something to do with moving away to a diff state or country. But yeah, none of those men ever made me feel "high" in love like my husband. I never did drugs, but I think the weird sensation I got could pass as one. I felt like I was having a rebirth almost physically and floating every time I spoke to him. It all turned out to be mutual. He came only after I told myself I deserved the best. Things then weirdly started to unfold. I will still say the man who came before him still had a weird impact on me. Kinda hard to forget. But then again, I see this to be true only when the man is a virgin.
  6. That is a myth nonwaiting frauds in disguise of experts use to scare people to go for the shortcut aka, lose virginity in the wrong way. My husband fell for it and even yesterday was crying about how he was scammed some 13 years ago. You will not end up being alone, but you dont wanna be with the wrong person either. Can you PM me your date of birth? After traveling the world, I have come to conclusion that almost anyone can be our friends. That said, you probably like us look self sufficient for which people don't think you need help. Churches, mosque and synagogues won't talk about that because they have to build their Facebook friend list
  7. Depends on the kind of demands the kids have to bear. If you push them to education things will be different. Muslim, Jews and South Asian families in the west consider kids to be kids. Parents don't want them to do anything extra and it works. Most of those communities have a large number of kids going in STEM and making a lot of money. Virginity before marriage is no big deal. The west currently is very hypocrite when it comes to kids' lifestyle. Here in the US, I think all 50 states approve child marriage. I met many in CA. They usually stay quiet because of how the marriage is stigmatized. But strangely, our society tells us that as teens we are to do everything minus applying for the marriage license to get approved by our peers and sometimes families. Nobody cares about the heartbreak that follows. Apparently, teens have a higher rate of cheaters and from my observation, most number of short lived relationships. Poor love life breeds not only poor focus on education, but also least amount of thought about an organized future. Thrown out of the house at age 18 really seals the deal. That is the age when brain is still growing. But our "adults" believe by separating the kids at that age they are teaching them to be responsible. Modern life is not easy especially if you consider marketing and how everything is so expensive. Btw, I did specialize in marketing. We have been taught today's and yesterday's western lifestyles have a huge diff. People used to be once happy with whatever they had. It was the tobacco companies which found this as an obstacle to selling cigarettes and thus, brought out a never before seen lifestyle in which a human has to DESIRE and DESIRE. It entered our every area. People are taught they need to live in the moment or they are losers. The formula of our sexual liberation is not new. But you really will end up with a horrible result if you send an 18 year old to face the outside world alone. A great prey to evil marketers!
  8. Humorous: Why you should wait!

    I was not waiting. I just needed a certified surgeon to operate on me.
  9. Why do guys do this?...

    In the beginning of our relationship, something like that happened. I was brokenhearted when I caught his eyes. We solved it quite quick though. Never it happened again. In your case also, I believe they did it to make sure their girlfriends didn't catch them looking at you.
  10. It is the current norm fueled by the Bush era economic crisis. So don't worry. The phenomenon is now global. I would still say that it has always been common in California for adult children. My husband is in his 30's. Before we married, I convinced him to stay with his parents while I was doing my masters 2 hours away. It helped him greatly. He paid off all his student loans, bought a house and gained his dream skill of repairing cars in their yard. He couldn't have done it in an apartment. He hates to live with his parents though. It is quite unlikely that a woman would reject you for your choice of home. What I am used to seeing now is that plenty of girlfriends are warming up to the idea of living in their boyfriends' parental home.
  11. They are more vulnerable. The subreddit called red pills has some threads in which men were boasting about using divorced people just for sex. Another time I read a thread on a different forum in which single moms were talking about how it was difficult to find a relationship. Apparently, the men they were trying to date wanted only sex. As a healthcare person, I would say the rape trauma is same for both the married and unmarried.