Lovelyish

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  1. I have a question for the successful waiters! I will be one of you in a mere 3 months! This might be more of an issue for women, but did you have trouble changing the mindset from "NO" to "YES" after the wedding. I've heard that this can be an issue for women who grew up in very conservative religious groups. Going from hands off to all hands on deck, and the like. Was it an adjustment? Did you ever feel dirty or shameful from having waiting a long time? Thanks!
  2. I am literally double your age, and just married the man of my dreams 3 weeks ago. Don't give up. It's worth it for YOU and your standards.
  3. Jerusalem has walls around it, still, to this day.
  4. Vegan Style and beautiful women

    I'm happily munching away on chicken as I read this post. Eat what you want, but clearly it's not "holier" to be a vegan, since Jesus ate meat.
  5. No I would not. Too much psychologically against you from the start.
  6. Does she have to be in her early 20s? You are almost 30. What if she's almost 30 or maybe a few years older than you? Does she have to be a virgin? There are things more important than if she's a virgin or if she's in her early 20s. Like her personality, demeanor, family, values, faith, etc.
  7. What is your ethnicity/national identity?

    White European and proud.
  8. The website?

    I get weird popups when I go to the main website. I don't know :-/
  9. Pornography is poison and in many ways, more addictive than drugs. It is not fulfilling his sexual needs, it is perpetuating his addiction. Don't waste your time with this guy. It will only make you sad in the long run.
  10. Ah. I'm glad justice and mercy work in tandem. I have a hard time forgiving millions of people for sneaking into my country illegally and robbing me.
  11. You came to forgive ...Trump?
  12. Favorite saint of purity

    My confirmation saint is St. Amelia of Temse. She was consecrated to God, and Charlemagne fell in love with her and wanted to have sex with her, but she said no. He actually at one point broke her arm by trying to drag her away when she was lying prostrate in front of the tabernacle. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Amalberga_of_Temse
  13. Favorite saint of purity

    I love how this post went from "hi! Here is an encouraging thing! Who else has an encouraging thing to share?" to "Hey no offense but your entire religion is wrong, even though my religion came out of it. Here's some stuff you believe even though you say you don't".
  14. Sex is real life, and sometimes it's planned, sometimes it's not. You might be like..."HOLD UP...gotta brush my teeth". And that's ok.
  15. Past tense? What happened, if I may ask?
  16. Engaged waiter here!

    Hi there, guys and gals! I wanted to introduce myself here. I want to be pretty anonymous on this site and not give out who I am, to respect the privacy of my upcoming marriage! But I will tell you I've been waiting my **entire** life, and I'm 36 years old (I still cringe to say or type that), and I'm getting married in 4 months <3 I grew up in Evangelical Purity culture, which meant well but was quite damaging to me on an emotional level. It made sure I didn't have sex before marriage, but didn't keep me from using porn and developing very unhealthy ideas about sex. I am working through overcoming and healing from these damaging things, and it's a good thing. I am really looking forward to sex with my groom-to-be, but I have some hold-over issues that have evolved from thinking as people who didn't wait as dirty and damaged. I am a Christian, a Catholic, to be specific. I converted to the Catholic church about a year ago. It's helped me a lot in these things to see sex as a holistic thing and not separate from our day-to-day lives. It was the reason, when I was younger, that I could look at porn and be addicted to masturbation, but thought I was "pure" because I wouldn't dare have any form of sex. This isn't healthy, and I'm glad I was freed of it. I'm so glad I found this site. I've already had some freeing discussions. I hope to have many more, even after I'm married. Cheers!
  17. Total Lunar Eclipse

    I went out and tried to see it and it was blocked, I guess.
  18. Engagement Ring Stone

    I LOVE my diamond. I'm the 4th one in his family to have it. It's an amazing stone. I know I am very traditional and would be happiest with a diamond. I would like something else, but that nagging feeling would be there that I wish I had a diamond. So, the way this worked out is pretty perfect for me.
  19. This woman is someone you didn't know. You didn't, for whatever reason, think she was worth the time getting to know. So even if she was a wonderful person, the very powerful draw of "what if?" has you sucked in and is making you suffer right now. Just be away that that is an endless well and can take over your imagination and lead you to despair. I think it's interesting to note that you said you could have had sex thousands of times and had kids and more money...instead of that you maybe missed out on getting to know a wonderful person. Though it has many positive attributes, marriage is not about a status upgrade. It is about uniting with another person. That's what I would be worried about, rather than missing out on sex or kids. Is it hard for you to get close to people? Have you had other girlfriends you were close to? Are you a closed off and emotionally unavailable person? These things are relationship killers.
  20. Nope, and you shouldn't feel like you have to defend your choice of who you want to do or think you might possibly need to feel guilty about it. I'm only attracted to white men. So there it is.
  21. Female Body Hair

    I love shaving. I love the feeling of removing hair. I love the softness of my skin after shaving. Shaving EVERYWHERE. I grew up in ballet, so shaving always happened.
  22. Regarding Addicts

    I used to be addicted to porn. So I can't really say that no one who USED to be is not okay with me.
  23. What do you mean "completely a virgin"? If she hasn't had sex, she is in a higher category than 99% of girls out there. For reals.
  24. Ladies, your thoughts on guys crying.

    My gorgeous fiance was on his knee when I turned around after he tapped me on the shoulder in the Cathedral. He said "will you marry me, my darling?" and then tears sprang into his eyes. That was 110% masculine, non-pathetic, precious, and wonderful. I wouldn't trade his tears for the world, because it showed me how important this moment was to him. I am not a fan of public proposals for this reason. It is not something to be shared with the world. I am so glad it was just us, and Jesus.
  25. I have anxiety. Diagnosed, medicated, etc. There is no shame in getting help. It is very responsible. I get help from the doctor, my counselor, my fiance, and God. You can change your thoughts. It is possible! Sometimes we get stuck and need nudging.