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  1. On 8/19/2017 at 6:26 AM, BigMat said:

      When I began my close intimate walk with God in my early twenties, my already strong stance on waiting strengthened and intensified exponentially.  I turned forty one a couple of weeks ago and am still saving my virginity for when (if) I choose to get married.

    Wow, this is so encouraging. I salute you BigMat and know that the angels are cheering you on.

    #Staying faithful holding on the truth, breaking all ordinances add doing what is right# -singleandforChrist-

  2. You are welcome Thormist, :) guess you are not new anymore. It is interesting in the first place you were not a virgin by choice but God protected you from the poison and thorns of this world. You are blessed to be a blessing. Reminds me of Cyrus Isaiah 45

  3. You are welcome rotorgirl, we are just blessed to know and act on the truth of what is right and you are one of the chosen few to live as the light and the salt of this world.

    Salt is always little that changes the whole taste of the meal, no wonder you see a few waiters around you and a flicker of light also gives hope and sense of direction for a thousand miles, you are the light which cannot be quenched by darkness.

    Be blessed

  4. Hi Seabutterfly, you are on a right track, and congs for taking this brave decision to wait given the forces and loud otherwise voices in your generation.

    God is faithful and has already put out His righteous right hand which is also victorious to pick you up from any pitfall.

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  5. Thank you for sharing, we women really desire to be great women (wives, sisters, daughters) to the men in our lives only that we want them to respond to our ways and understand us without bending our side to understand them and deal with them as they are. Reason we have men now who want to be seen as woman, indeed God's creation is perfect we should not try to alter it by making men be like women.

    Be blessed

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  6. This book must be carefully written, it feels right. When couples search one another for their utmost sexual fulfillment they find it but when they consistently look outside especially pornography, because there is comparison on the scene, it becomes difficult.

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  7. Awakening things you shared Dave, I like the responses given by both Geraldine and Adam - I salute you all for standing for the truth.

    Dave the truth stems from the Word of God, this is what builds us and I agree your concerns are sounding but these are the voices so loud that are pulling many away from the truth. these people facing these things were at some point innocent, but these voices sounded louder than the truth and those cases you see are the pits the evil one has placed them.

    I know that God tests us to great lengths and some places may be discomforting but 1 Corinthians 10: 13 No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.

    There is this saying by one of God;s generals, "Trust and Obey God, leave the consequences to Him". As we stand for what is true, we trust He is working for us and will even in our marriages, I want to stop here because much has been covered by the 2. I always meditate on this verse when the world is drumming its ways louder.

    Philippians 4:8  Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.

    Our lives are and will be different from what the world has painted.

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  8. On 6/26/2017 at 5:21 PM, BlackRose said:

    I do agree to with the fact that love will change things. However when it comes to children, that is something that I would find out well before dating them. I wouldn't date someone who I am not friends with first and you would be able to tell if they have children from the onset/early on if you are friends. 

    The thing I think people fail to understand about love is that it is a choice - not a feeling. You may initially fall in love with someone but I do believe that you can choose who you fall in love with. I choose not to fall in love with someone that has children so it forever will be a dealbreaker. I will love that person in Christ but I cannot fall in love with them to the point that they will become my spouse. Once I see certain qualities in a man that has potential  (after ticking the most important boxes) and they have asked me out (after winning me over), I will decide whether or not to fall in love with that person. There are certain things they need to tick in order for me to fall in love with them in the first place. I would not fall in love with a person who is not a Christian, virgin, has children, lacks integrity etc. This is a decision I have made and acting like people are not in control of something like love is a reason why there is a lot of heartache in relationships right now. 

    Mixing up love as an emotion and choice is the reason why so many marriages fail.  People give up when they "fall out of love" with a person. In reality, they might not like the person at that time but it is your own choice to stay in love with that person and overcome those feelings. 

    I partially agree with you, Yes you have a choice but not on who to love but who to get married to, love is a feeling, an emotion and it can fade, developed or die. I believe it comes from within which is deeper than what i can decide (choice). That deep end is of course built by things you mentioned like beliefs and others which in most cases help us fall for the right person but this does not mean you cannot love purely someone outside your list.

  9. wow, different conclusions, desires, dreams and hopes from different people.. I agree with every one from their perspective. Personally I would not like to marry someone with kids but there is something we are overlooking here.. There is love in the picture, any one here who is looking for some one to marry even though they do not love them? well i guess many will say no, higher percentage and this question is answered by love.

    If there is love, you and I will marry anyone with or without a child, lame or right, blind or otherwise.. When you get to love someone, you are headed for happiness and complete joy no matter who they are.

  10. Hi Janet, you are welcome, we are all sinners and any who says otherwise is a liar.. we are all washed and cleansed, made pure by the blood of Christ so no judgement or checking of past, the future is waiting for a new you and the decisions you take now determine the passage of the person you want to be and specially the person you want to give your husband as a wife

  11. For every thing God in His wisdom asked us not to do, He was and is protecting us, not only waiting but even in other aspects of life because He knows the consequences. When you get married, you get naked with each other, completely exposing yourself, imagine how much you would be nothing after the multiple sexual partners ripping off a spiritual piece of you each time and now what have you saved up for marriage? I pity them whom this mystery has not been revealed to and at the same time pray for them.

    Be blessed and do not lose your guard

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  12. Like a few others, still leaning how to navigate through however very thankful and grateful that there are many who share with me this discipline and hold on to hope. We not only hope but do the right thing, you do not know how much this decision to wait till marriage protects you - many things are behind scenes. I encourage you to keep up the standards.

  13. On 6/19/2017 at 11:23 AM, J.J. said:

    @Yin-Yang I've only had a dream about having a relationship with someone that I felt so alive with that all selfishness/self-centeredness faded, and I proposed to her.

    It was as if we were each other's spiritual guides, and there was no enslavement present, as there seems to be with so many relationships around us.

    Maybe that dream will never come true, but that's okay. Usually the best way to be rid of a mosquito is to stop scratching it, lest it bleed. Eventually it will stop itching.

    Perhaps the same is true with desiring a soulmate. I agree with you @BlackRose, God will work things out. There's no need to obsess.

    Becoming aware of one's own existence is valuable to me. I'm tired of being selfish. Thoughts and repetitive behaviors always continue, with no lasting gratification. Opening to the sheer depth and space that is 'being' is of higher altitude than any pesky thought can reach. True meaning is only found when one goes beyond meaning, into eternity, where we all reside already. The problem I find is I too often attach to worldly things and miss all that God and the universe long for me to experience. I wonder, "who is this 'I' that attaches?" "Who is this 'I' that finds problems?" "Who is this 'I' that wonders?" "Who is this 'I' at all?"

    Basically, what is it about 'me' that remains when all else passes (thought, fear, desire, attention, belief, identity, etc.)? What ever 'I' am is where 'I' am, and that's where I silently rest. This meditative state is progressively easy to be constant with, and is where I truly 'belong'.

    To share this with another would be lovely, but not entirely necessary. I long for a her, but I understand it's okay to be told no.

    What is unthinkable and what e cannot comprehend completely in meditation and thought is what He Most High accomplishes, it is very beautiful if you keep reminding Him that He has opened this reality to you that it can happen so Him only who satisfies our longings will showcase

  14. it's that, by and large, you have not been receptive to the gentler, more respectful men you also attract. This is not due to your temperament or personality; it's a normal defensive reaction. After you've been hurt, of course you'll put up subtle barriers for self-protection - Extracted from Dave's response, what are some of these characters (barriers) that victimised women put up and how can this pattern of behavior be overcome.

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