New here, and I have a question for the men on the site. I realize men here may not know the answer to this scenario, but maybe you will have some input:
A very common struggle I have in dating is that men do not believe me when I tell them I am saving myself for marriage no matter how clear I am. Then 2 or 3 months pass and it is a big shock to them that I was serious and it ends. Typically I bring this subject up after at least a few dates, I don't wait much longer than that. Many men also don't seem to consider me as their girlfriend unless we are having sexual intercourse. In general, I think that's flawed... even if I wasn't waiting I believe that mentality shows a lack of respect to not commit to someone until sex has occurred. I don't know how to make my intentions more clear from the beginning. I know eventually people reveal their true intentions, but it would be nice to not have to constantly invest 3 months into someone only to find out they didn't believe you.
As an additional note, I've dated men who have agreed to wait in the beginning and then tell me 2 to 3 months down the line they were just agreeing because they didn't believe me and didn't want to stir trouble early on. Don't really know how to rectify this and be more clear...
Any input would be great! Thank you.