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  1. BIzarre hypothetical situation

    Hopefully I don’t have kids with them both!!?!?!?!?! Dear God that would suck. @Invincible Thanks for the thought provoking scenario. It helps me to better understand myself, which would benefit my hypothetical marriage one day….The older I get, the more hypothetical it’s becoming haha This is one of those situations most people don’t truly know what they would do/feel until they go through it. I do not know for sure but here is my best guess: I agree with the above comment…I’ll just have to go full on Dexter on wife 2. After I’m done burying the body somewhere in the woods, I’ll rake in that life insurance policy and splurge on wife 1…haha kidding. Personally, my love for each of them would be unequivocally EQUAL. That being said…I think I would stay with wife 2. That would be totally unfair if I chose to end our marriage for another women. UNTIL DEATH DO US PART…so if wife 1 is reasonable presumed dead, I honored that first commitment and unfortunately it abruptly ended…so it’s now over… I would like to think I would honor my new commitment with the same integrity and remain faithful to wife 2. If I had kids with them both? That is probably the only time I’d think about a polygamous marriage lol…Only if they were both ok with that idea. Maybe you can do another post from the women’s point of view?….wife 1 has 2 children with her husband and one day they are kidnapped for ransom. The money was not delivered on time and the kidnappers fake the execution of wife 1 and the 2 kids. They are presumed dead. Several years later they are released but she finds her husband remarried and has 2 kids with wife 2…. Ladies, what do you do if you’re wife 1? Could you do a polygamous marriage if wife 2 is 100% ok with it? Do you move on and remarry but keep in touch with him because he is the bio dad to his kids? Do you stay single but let him be a part of the kids’ lives? Would you be tempted to still have sex with him, despite knowing he’s with wife 2 or would all feelings of love and intimacy be over?
  2. Hell NO! If there is a female out there that looks like me..... Shivers eww I feel sorry for her. I would make a hideous looking women...You could dump that hypothetical version of me in a prison yard and the inmates would be like....ummm I'll wait till my sentence is over...haha...While this is not a deal breaker or anything I prefer to date women smarter than me She will keep me on my toes and always learning...and I will do the same for her, just slightly less. Speaking of men looking like women:
  3. LADIES, IF YOU HAVE ANY SEXUAL HISTORY, THIS IS THE BEST DATING ADVICE: DATE CONFIDENT MEN! Confidence means he will have assurance in himself physically, mentally and emotionally, which he derives from his skills, abilities and knowing himself well. A confident man will NOT be bothered by your sexual history (as long as you’re not settling for him), he will hope you were treated well during those times, focus on being the best he can be for you and excited he is with an amazing women! If a guy is not confident in himself physically, he will constantly focus on his own insecurities and not the relationship. These types of guys are terrified they will not be able to sexually satisfy their wife as well as her previous partners. This will definitely become toxic and cause heartache for both of you. I am a firm believer in airing out ALL of your dirty laundry when dating. The more information, the better! You don’t want to find AFTER you’re married that he lacks the confidence to handle your sexual history….You want to find that out way before marriage. (omg I just realized how much dating is like interviewing for a job lol) Lastly, why on earth would you want to date a man that has to cope…just to be with you? That has to make marriage a lot harder. Wouldn’t you want a mentally strong, confident man who is EXCITED and can’t believe he gets to be with you? Ladies, typically you’re far more forgiving and confident when dealing with a man’s sexual history, so you should expect the same in return…Don’t sell yourselves short!
  4. "I Don't Know What To Say"

    I do understand your frustration in this matter. Here are just a few things that come to mind. 1) This is something I have noticed over time. Sometimes when people have not had to struggle with certain obstacles in life (i.e. money, looks, health, status, professional success and etc…), it is easy for them to either look down on others who are struggling…I have personally witnessed this many times…or to be totally confused with someone’s struggles. (Not saying people are looking down on you) I think this is due to a lack of empathy. You need to make sure the people you’re confiding in have the necessary empathy or else you might get the responses you have been experiencing. I recently had to have this very same convo with my sister. She was diagnosed with a medical problem that will leave her barren and required frequent trips to the hospital. She expected our mother to go with her for comfort. Our mother, who does not have a job and has not for 30+ years, never accompanied her to the hospital…not even once because she was too busy shopping on Amazon and browsing Facebook. Sadly, I had to remind my sister of all of the things our parents have done over the years that illustrate their complete lack of empathy…Then I had to ask her...What made you think mom was ever going to go with you? After 36 years my sister finally accepted she can’t expect any empathetic response or support from the parentals. She will have to go to other people who can give her what she needs. So just make sure you go to the people with the proper skills to help you. Just because someone is a friend or family member, does not mean they have the skills to help you....e.g if you need helping moving a heavy couch, do you go to the 105 lb petite friend or a strong, fit friend? 2) The people you’re confiding in might be completely empathetic towards your struggles. However, they might not legitimately know how to properly respond, perhaps fearing they might make things worse by accident. They might need to take time to assess your situation before they can help. Personally, I am that way. If you need immediate help, I would suggest looking into receiving professional counseling from a licensed therapist…or someone who is at least supervised by one. If you’re not sure which pathway to take for getting assistance, I’d start a different thread because I know there are people here that will be able to tell you exactly how to get help.
  5. Female Body Hair

    Totally agree with a lot of what was said…Although, I’m quite biased on this issue. I’m sure this has a lot to do with where you live in the world/cultural influences. I live in a Midwestern city of several million in the US. During high school/college (university) it would have been unthinkable for a woman to not shave. She would absolutely be mocked. The world would be a happier place if we raised our children to understand men and women come in all different shapes, sizes, colors (or colours sorry Great Britain for butchering your language lol ;), appearances and can have many other unique features…Most importantly, one feature is not better or worse than another…Just your own personal preference, nothing more…nothing less. But this is clearly not reality. Accept it?....I would EXPECT it!…If I ever get married, I want my wife’s nether region to be sporting a full-on Chewbacca. Why? 1) I view it as a sign of sexual maturity…I don’t want her lady parts looking prepubescent. 2) I am more attracted to an all-natural look, so long as it does not transcend into my view of masculinity. The more of herself she naturally is, the more I will be physically attracted to her….Subsequently, the less makeup, elaborate hair styles and accessories, the better. What I could not accept is masculine looking facial hair…Like the Muslim woman in the documentary…It definitely would not stop me from marrying/loving a woman but it would have to be lasered or waxed. However, I do agree with the comment by the bearded one regarding formal occasions and being socialized...but the older i get, the less important that will probably be lol Totally understand. My arm and leg hair gets really long and straight so it trim it for the same reason. If I did not, I’d look like an albino Sasquatch and people would probably whip out their cell phones and start taking pictures…thinking they just discovered some new cryptozoological creature.
  6. @AllishaG There is a reason why we teach young children to use their words when communicating something they do not want…and there is a reason why we don’t teach them to give hints when communicating. If you don’t like using your big girl words when dating, how will you be ready for a grown-up relationship? This has nothing to do with feminism/sexism/entitlements. It’s an issue of maturity and personal responsibility. If you don’t know if someone will freak-out on you, don’t date them or give out your personal information. You date people you know who will not flip out...same reason why you don't go hitch hiking, stay in bad hotels...etc You should be able to communicate your feelings way before you start dating…. Also, if you’re mature enough to communicate directly, respectfully and not give hints at your place of employment, then you should issue the same courtesy to your dates…especially, if they pay for the evening. If you’re not into a guy after the first date, you can txt him afterwards something along these lines…. “Thank you for the date tonight. I respect you and your time, I wanted to be clear and let you know I am not interested in a relationship with you. You’re a great guy and I have no doubt you’ll find someone special. Best of luck : p”…………Anything after that is on the guy. Some people naturally have poor social skills and will not be capable of improving in this area. In a way this is not much different from a person that has aspergers, autism…etc They were born that way.
  7. I am not claiming this is true for everyone…just the some background behind my reasoning. 1) I used to have a lot of female friends who were extremely sexually active. Many openly talked about their new hookups, one night stands, partners, the best and worst sex and why etc. Their level sexually satisfaction was not due to heartfelt emotions (although, for some women that can play a big part.) but rather their chemistry for the guy and physical criteria. Generally these were things a guy has no control over and can’t change. The greater number of sexual partners a women has, the more she will know what truly turns her on, feels better and what will satisfy her needs the best. I have found that men who lack confidence in their appearance/bodies generally want a virgin for two main reasons: - She will not know for sure what she needs from a man physically, to be sexually satisfied. - A virgin eliminates his fears of not being able to satisfy her as well as previous partners. Most of my sexually active guy friends are much different. Their level of sexual satisfaction is mostly determined by the woman’s attitude and technique (While I’ve had one sexual partner, I 100% agree and I believe this is true for most men). These are things a women can learn or has control over. Women who know this would understandable be less concerned about a man’s history because satisfying him is within their control and it’s really easy….so they might care more about his love/commitment to her. (*Side Note – This is one reason why I feel it is very important in most situations for a non-virgin female to date a confident man…Otherwise, he will focus on his insecurities/fears and it will usually become toxic for the relationship. As long as a women is not settling, a confident man will not worry over her sexual history. He will hope she was treated well during those times, focus on being the best husband he can be for her and happy he found someone to spend the rest of his life with.) 2) Some religions/cultures believe it is really taboo/a bad sin to have sex outside marriage. If you’re from this background, understandably you’re going to have reservations. You don’t want to marry someone you think is truly a bad person. Perhaps this is similar to dating someone with a criminal background? This was so true for me when I was a virgin and dating. The vast majority of women from Christian Mingle would never talk to me after I told them I was a virgin...A few women responded back and said the same thing about experience or they want a guy who has gotten that out of his system and they feel I would regret only sleeping with one women. Not sure if this mean anything but usually I found that women I met in church were more accepting of my virginity...they still found it very strange but at least they would still go on dates and get to know me.
  8. You did not hurt my feelings. You knew full well I am not the type of person who would view the women he loves in this manner…However, you continued to take the term I was referencing way out of context and you suggested I might actually treat her this way. That’s just as bad as accusing me. Your comment was completely uncalled for, inappropriate and disrespectful. Your comment would have been appropriate if I told you that’s how I actually view women. The people viewing this thread don’t lack so much morality that they need to be told hunting people (In your context, not mine) is wrong. They already know this. (Even Dexter knew that….lol jk) Anyway, as to not detract from the original purpose of this thread, I’d suggest you pm me any further comments regarding this topic.
  9. @seabutterfly The term I was essentially referencing was “husband hunting”. I often heard the single women in my old church use it in a jocular context. It simply means a woman who is actively looking for a husband. It does not mean they are actually viewing a person as a reward to hunt down. However, if you knew I was joking (probably because I referred to the women on this site as lovely), then you had no basis to go out of your way to suggest I might actually objectify a woman in the manner you stated. When I am trying to be uplifting and helpful to someone who appears to be down, you don’t need to search for something so negative. @ChildOfTheOneTrueKing I agree with a lot of the things you mentioned, well said. There is a difference between a girl playing hard to get and her not being interested in a guy. Can you explain the things a woman does when she is playing hard to get verses her not being interested? A clearer understanding of this might help DHZ when he is considering if he should pursue a potential interest. Sometimes if a girl is playing hard to get, it can come across as not having an interest. If that happens, the guy might move on to a girl who is interested in him. It is important for us guys to properly read a women’s responses or else we might come across as pushy, not respectful or creepy, when in fact we simply misread the situation.
  10. Hey good job on putting yourself out there and keep on trying! Now I'm no expert in women so take this with a grain of salt....or whatever that saying is... First, you have to know when a girl is just being friendly and when she is interested in you. If a girl likes a guy, generally she will let him know through her body language, how she looks at him when she is talking to him, making time for just the two of them to socialize together or through her conversation. One of the best ways to tell if a women is interested, is by the conversation she has with you...Usually, (not always) if a girl is asking you personal or substantive questions, pay attention...this can be their way of probing you for information. Also, they will be excited to talk to you. Let's say after a few weeks of getting to know a girl, she starts asking you about the types of girls you're into, she's probably hoping you will describe her lol...or if she starts asking you about your views on dating, deal breakers/preferences, marriage, divorce etc....I'd say she might have an interest. If you're not sure, then watch how she interacts with other people. If you can't tell any differences, then it's possible she might just be a friendly gal...If she is super shy and you can't tell, you could always ask one of her girlfriends if she's dating anyone... (if you know one of them well enough)... and you can be 100% guaranteed they will tell her you asked. Lastly, you might want to make a new thread asking the lovely ladies on this site...something like how to tell when a girl is just being friendly or if she's interested in a guy...they will clearly give you a better answer me lol...and I am sure there are guys on here that have great insight to the question. Never stop trying to find a wife. You will regret it later in life but you will not regret trying your best. Good luck on the hunt! This is so true!
  11. Funniest or weirdest date you ever been on!

    Hmm I have two good ones...Which is sad because I have not gone on many dates 1) This girl and I were flirting back and forth on OKC so I set up a date. As I was leaving my apartment to go on my date, I ran into my neighbor who lives above me and realized that was my date lol. After lunch, she grabbed the check and insisted on paying...I kept offering to pay or at least split it or something but she was serious about it so I graciously accepted the kind offer. During the date she mentioned how hard dating is because guys only want sex from her and nothing else...Then at the end of the night she randomly texted me saying she's alone, horny and the sexual things (too graphic for this thread) she wants someone to do her.....Uhhh talk about mixed messages. There was no second date after that but since she was going through a lot of hardships I remained friends with her. 2) My date said this to me in a matter of 20 minutes.... Kristen - You look shorter than I thought you would be. Me - Uhh did you read my profile? I said I was 5'9. Kristen - Not all of it..I must have missed that part. You looked taller from your pictures. I'm not sure what I said after that because the whole time I was thinking what if I said...You look fatter than I thought you would be...You looked slimmer in your pictures...I'd probably get a drink thrown at me and she'd never talk to me again. Later on in the date she says... Kristen - Are you balding? Me - No Here's the funniest part....She was 4'11 and in very good shape but super self-conscience about her weight...and yet she can say that stuff to me on our first date? I ended up dating her for a few months afterwords and sure enough she was crazy...I thought maybe she was just nervous or really socially awkward or something....nope just crazy.
  12. If you believe premarital sex is wrong, then ultimately it is up to you to determine whether or not it is forgivable. If a man loves you enough to commit the rest of his life to you, that sounds way more special than one’s virginity…at least to me. If a guy is physically or emotionally attracted to a woman, he will be extremely easy to please…(Think about it…our gender is the one that can prematurely ejaculate/orgasm lol ) So if a guy is into a women, generally speaking there is just one thing she needs to remember. She needs to have fun when sexually giving to him and/or when he is doing things to her. Don’t make him ask for the things he enjoys every time…give to him with a fun and caring attitude (You would probably want the same)… If you can do that, it’s not going to matter how many women he’s slept with, because you will be fully satisfying his sexual needs. So if he's 100% satisfied with you, you have no need for jealousy or insecurity. Under this situation, I don’t think jealousy is justified. However, if you find out later on in the relationship your partner is settling for you, then jealousy is totally understandable. To me settling means a person makes a sacrifice to be with their significant other (SO). There are two criteria present when this happens. A) It is outside of the SO’s abilities to fulfill/meet the sacrifice their partner made. B ) The person settling will always desire and miss the thing/s they gave up. A person will settle because they want something of slightly greater value i.e money, housing, companionship, a family, regular sex, etc. As a result, they will never be truly fulfilled/satisfied because that person will always wish their SO was better. Usually when someone settles sexually, it’s due to physical preferences. So if your bf only likes one type of woman and you’re not his type but he is willing to sacrifice his physical preferences because he wants (fill in the blank) _________ from you, then yeah that’s when it is totally understandable to be jealous, frustrated, pissed or insecure. Personally, If was dating the right girl, I’d marry her regardless of how many guys she has plowed, as long as she’s NOT settling for me. I’ll hope she was treated well by her partners and I'll focus on being the best I can be for her. Since she’s NOT settling, I know I’ll be able to satisfy her/make happy Now if I was dating a virgin and she was settling for me physically because she’d rather be married than alone for the rest of her life….I would most definitely not marry that girl. I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with someone wishing I could be better when there is nothing I can do about it…that is someone I won’t be able to truly satisfy/make happy. Dating will always be better with two people that know themselves well. ***BTW - I believe there is a massive difference between settling and compromising*** There are plenty of people who have a sexual past of varying degrees and don’t have any baggage. If that’s the case, make sure you’re not the one creating an issues. I would argue there is a big difference between comparing and noticing differences. Comparing would be if he was measuring a person’s worth, abilities, values, qualities etc. against yours and it would have a direct impact on him. If he’s a good guy, he will not be comparing…any more than you would compare him to other boyfriends. Noticing differences is totally fine because it does not impact him in anyway. “they” can’t take your virginity. You are choosing to give it to away. If you can’t give it away with a good attitude, I'd suggest you think twice about it. What would you say to non virgin, married couples who say sex in marriage is more special and better than non-married sex? What if he lost his virginity/had sex with women that he did not love...and he tells you he loves you more than any other women and it will be the most special experience for him? Also, as fare as sex being “good”, for many guys…when they love a woman, sex will feel much better…so if you’re concerned about how "good" you’ll be for him, I can promise you he will be happy. If his virginity means more to you than his love, commitment and desire to spend the rest of his life with you, I would encourage you to stick around WTM…there are some great virgin guys here you should consider. Several years ago I read a study conducted by the CDC that said 97% of U.S males 25+ have had sex and 98% of women 25+ have had sex….If true and the study was properly conducted, you might want to keep that in mind. I don’t mean this to sound condescending or disrespectful at all…In the real world, life is not 100% fair or equal and that includes relationships.( I have to remind myself of this) Relationships will be a give and take…I doubt you will ever have a perfectly = relationship. I would say it’s more him teaching you about his body…not what he has done with other women…Simply tell him you don’t want him to teach you anything. Tell him you want to explore his body, figure out what drives him wild and yeah he'll feel like he just won the lottery….lol yeah he’ll forget all about the other girls. trust me on this one. This makes sense and it’s a good thing to discuss before feelings develop…It’s not easy waiting. The better you know yourself, the easier it will be to find the right guy...and dating guys who also know themselves very well is just as important. There is no such thing as a perfect guy…if you think this, you will only be disappointed and that is too much pressure to put on a guy. I’m no Dr. Phil but if you feel disgusted with the guy you’re dating, yeah probably time to start shopping again.
  13. Do you believe in aliens/UFOS?

    @Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ That video was really funny A long time ago I saw an episode of Ancient Aliens and they investigated Tiwanaku. During the episode they asked stonemasons if they could replicate some of the work at the ancient site. They said it would be extremely difficult to do with modern technology and only the best stonemasons today would be able to replicate the work. Also, I have been to Egypt many times. I have explored inside and out Egypt's most elaborate and massive temples and the pyramids. It is mind blowing as you're exploring the sites to think this was done thousands of years ago. One can't help but wonder if they ever received any guidance from an outside source. Lastly, to the other commenters in this thread who mentioned the probability of life, I found this article to be quite interesting as it supports your ideas....It looks at the calculations and conditions for abiogenesis.
  14. Do you believe in aliens/UFOS?

    I believe there are two prominent explanations for UFO sightings. 1) I think most are misidentified aircraft under military or private contractor control i.e Northrop Grumman, British Aerospace Systems (BAE), Boeing, Lockheed Martin…. For example, when the F-117 and the B-21 were first being tested, many were reported as UFOs. The level of secrecy during their development was comparable or even stricter than the Manhattan Project. An extremely small number of people knew of the aircraft's existence. The eye witnesses had no knowledge of the aircraft and its’ technological capabilities, subsequently, they believed it must be extraterrestrial in nature. 2) I don’t believe a race of extraterrestrial beings that have mastered intergalactic space travel, quantum physics, and other sciences and mathematics far beyond anything humanity currently understands...are crashing their hyper advanced spaceships on our planet…like a bunch of joy riding, drunken teenagers….Uhhh no, I don’t buy that theory. However, I would believe a very small percentage of the reported “alien” crashes/UFO sightings are actually reverse engineered human vehicles from extraterrestrials.
  15. Honestly, I care more about happiness than the length of the marriage. I dont know if you have seen couples that have been married a long time but are miserable, resent each other, and would rather end their marriage but don't out of religious and/or cultural influences? When I do, it puts a lot of things into perspective for me. This is not surprising. I have my some thoughts as to why that is but was wondering if you know of the top of your head if the articles states the reason why?