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  1. A few of my former male friends who were like this, tended to be insecure with their bodily image. So a smaller female made them feel more dominate, strong and overall masculine. Some guys are fine if the girl is taller but not fine with the awkward looks they will receive in public. Nobody will look twice if the girl is shorter. Myself and other guys could care less about height...taller or shorter...Makes no difference.
  2. Celebrity Crush?

    Yeah I’m the same way. I am attracted to cute women and almost never to stereotypically “hot” woman. The most beautiful ones I see, are in everyday life.
  3. Random Thoughts

    Agreed, a white leather interior is always super nice looking in a car.
  4. I was not tagged your message on Monday so I am assuming you’re responding to me. I can tell by what you said... Wanting to love her is not the same as BEING IN LOVE with her. You should not need help to love the women you want to marry. I’m not the deciding factor in anything you do. You are your own man and make your own decisions. I am giving my opinion based on the facts you presented. My opinion is that there are plenty of good men who will not make this about themselves, will be able to love, accept and cherish her just the way she is and definitely won’t need convincing to love her. You told her you thought she was pure in body yet you asked us how you can convince yourself that she is pure. If that’s not lying, then it’s misleading as hell and most people would consider that just as bad. Good job on this part. Yeah personally I find this part troubling. So you had to take more time to talk to your girlfriend who had been raped as a young, teenage girl to figure out that she is still pure….wow….. And process your emotions? Really? For pete’s sake, you’re not the victim, she is. She is the one who should have to go through a rebuilding and processing phase. Rage? Lol Seriously? If you’re that sensitive or interpret disagreement/differing viewpoints as rage, you're going to struggle having a healthy marriage. I have nothing to forgive you for because you did nothing wrong to me. Because you said you wanted a virgin and someone like you without any sexual experience. You also know that is extremely rare to find, especially in today’s day and age. So you tried to convince yourself that a rape victim can still be pure like a virgin…but ultimately, it does not seem like you were able to convince yourself of that because you asked us to help convince you and you made these two conflicting statements: You should not see her differently because you should said a rape victim is still a virgin…right? But wait, what do you mean BEFORE you wanted a virgin wife? So you don’t see her as a virgin now, since she was raped? Uhhh you didn’t……….. Your first message was about your thoughts, feelings and emotions and not your girlfriend who told you she had been raped. You also kept focusing on her virginity, rather than finding ways to be supportive/helpful to her needs. Good and I am not making you sound like did that all on your own. You’ll repeat again…..??? You did not mention it the first place. I was the one who had to mention it because your first post was mainly about yourself and seemed to fixate on her virginity. Judgement is exactly what you came her for. You just wanted to hear the judgments that gave you “assurance and help.” Judgement means you form an opinion, assessment and/or decision based upon information… you gave us the information in your first post and I gave you my opinion…i.e judgement. That is the entire reason why you made this posting. However, you probably did not like my judgment because it was not what you wanted to hear. Yeah, I judged you and so has everyone else...Think about what you wrote in your first post….your GF was raped and your questions where about yourself and you kept bringing up her virginity. Your post should have been about helping her if she needs it, how to be supportive of a rape victim, feedback from other members with SO's who are also victims, what kind of licensed mental health professional could she benefit from the most, how to locate such a professional, how to pay for it if she needs assistance, support groups….et cetera. Lol….I’m the superficial one? I was looking out for the well being of a great sounding, young women I have never met...Meanwhile you were the one who was focusing on her virginity and bodily purity, that is by definition superficial.
  5. Ohhh jeez here we go again with another rape post…at least this one is not as bad as some of the other ones. This makes me question if she has really healed from the attack/s. I feel bad that she thinks like this, especially considering she was a victim. You should be reassuring her and telling her there is nothing wrong with her. And how lucky you are to be with her and the reasons why. What do you mean you feel pain and this hurt you? You were not the one who got raped. She was. Can you please elaborate as to the source of your pain? I hope you mean you feel pain for her because she suffered and went through a horrific event? If so, that is called empathy and that is a good thing to feel. Why are you even bringing up virginity when she was raped as a child????? How would you feel if you got raped as a child and she was mentioning this stuff? The fact you are even bringing up her virginity when she tells you this, is really disturbing. Your only thoughts should be about supporting her, talking with her, listening to her, being strong for her, helping her to find qualified help and et cetera….the last thing on your mind should be about her virginity. WTF? She was violated but how is this your problem? And if you ever get married and your wife gets raped, she will have been violated. That’s why rape is bad, among many other things. Since you apparently can’t seem handle it, spare her the pain of having to deal with a partner like that and move on. Please allow the poor girl to find someone who can accept her without a shadow of a doubt….just the way she is. She sounds amazing and has been through enough grief in her life and she's still so young. When my ex girlfriend of 3.5 years told me she was repeatedly raped by her older brother when she was a young girl, I never once felt like she was violated…I just wanted to make sure that I was 100% supportive and there for her if she needed anything. Again…WTF? Why are you bringing up her virginity? She was raped as a child and that is what you seem to be focused on? Unless I am missing something, this is horrendously selfish and you definitely need to work on yourself way way way before you even think about getting married. It sounds like you totally lied to her.... She does not deserve to be lied to…especially, considering everything she has been through. If you have to force yourself to be convinced that a rape victim is still pure, then you should by no means even be thinking of marrying, dating or even being friends with the victim. That kind of attitude will only hurt them, not help them. If you can’t love someone because they were raped, NEVER marry them!!!! Why would you put them through that? They have already gone through enough…They definitely don’t deserve marrying someone who lied to them and struggles to love them for something that was no fault of their own. Again, if you got raped, you would not be happy if your wife or prospective wife had to be convinced to love you, question if you were still worthy of marriage or pure. Seriously…WTF? I just don’t get how anyone can feel this way? Your comments and questions seem to relate to yourself and not on how you can be the best you can be for her….the victim. I really think you need to work on yourself way before you think about getting married. This just sounds like you want to marry her only for selfish reasons. The best thing you can do is let her go and find a man that can love her without hesitation, cherish her and support her. Assurance is not what you should be looking for.
  6. Random Thoughts

    Sure those players can protest, just do it at an appropriate time. When giving a eulogy or wedding vows, is that an appropriate time to give constructive criticism about the other person? No. Those players making millions of $ every year, need to take a walk through a veteran’s grave yard and consider the sacrifices those people made. Those men/women severed, fought and died to help preserve the liberties that give those players the lavish life styles, privileges and freedoms they love…Including their right to protest…So the least they can do, is show some respect and protest at a time that is not dedicated to honoring the country and those service men/women. Collen Kaepernick wore clothing portraying cops as pigs…there is nothing respectful about that. He has also made statements that are complete nonsense…One of which “There are bodies in the street and people are getting paid to leave and getting away with murder.” He is fueling a false narrative that police officers are senselessly killing blacks because of racism. More than 7800+ black homicides occurred in the US during 2016. Over 90% were committed by other blacks. Police fatally shot 233 blacks which were reported to be armed and dangerous. 16 were unarmed but this means they committed assault or violent resistance against the officer/s. I.e. Michael Brown in 2014. If these players really cared, then they should be protesting the problem that is killing more 90% of blacks in this country. But instead they'd rather focus on the problem that contributes to less than 1% of black homicide?...that is not the problem that needs protesting. Yes, policing in this country can be improved upon and so can public awareness/responsibility. Personally, I think certain types of police officers should pass ONGOING jiu-jitsu, wrestling or some other form physical submission training. Due to the added risk of encountering blood born pathogens/bodily harm, cops should also get paid a hell of a lot more. People also need to teach their children to obey law enforcement. Do what they say and when they say it. Never put your hands on a cop during a confrontation. If you have a problem with the police, then you work to resolve the issue AFTER you’re done dealing with the police….NOT during the encounter. Instead, it seems like some people think they don't have to obey law enforcement when they feel the officers/s are wrong.
  7. Random Thoughts

    I can't wait till tomorrow! I hope the Falcon Heavy successfully launches and delivers Elon's Tesla Roadster to Mars's orbit!!!! He gives it a 50/50 chance of success so either way it will be exciting! lol
  8. Random Thoughts

    @Dave1985 Yeah I just never liked the sport...I just always found it boring...As far as the players disrespecting their country...that is pathetic. My dad and his siblings immigrated to the US from North Africa. One reason was because the government was corrupt as hell and dictated everything they could do... their president was in office for nearly 30 years and managed a 99% approval rating lol...After high school, the government told them what jobs they could apply for, how much income they were allowed to make, where they could live, what they could publicly say or not say and et cetera. The other reason was due to religious persecution. They could not get jobs, attend college and were denied housing simply because of their Christian faith. My dad's brother, who was a captain in the US army, recently had a party...calling it his " Coming to America party" It was celebrating his love for the US and when he became a citizen over 50 years ago. I really don't think some of those players have a clue as to how lucky they are to live in this country. Sure you can be disappointed or not approve of things but you should still recognize the opportunities, freedoms and privileges you have living in the states...if you can't respect your country, then leave. Go live somewhere else where you can show the proper respect. I hear Nigeria, North Korea or Aleppo are great this time of year .
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    Am I the only person on here who does not give a shit about the Superbowl ?....But I do love watching Baseball and Hockey.
  10. 1 I was a waiter for 28 years for religious reasons, however, I no longer believe in those religious reasons. So I could go both ways on waiting. If I met a women I wanted to marry and she was a waiter, I would have no problem waiting again. No, not for me. In fact it is easier for me to wait now that I have had sex. I think waiting and being a virgin is a lot more difficult. I have had one serious relationship and I consider that a partner...I asked her out of curiosity one day when we were together if she could have waited...she said she could have possibly waited but only if we got married within 6 months lol. Ultimately, she did not think she could hold out for that long. While I don’t consider dating someone a partner…they are similar. When I was a virgin waiter and dating, all but 2 of the Christian women I met on Christian Mingle and OKC immediately cut off all communication when I told them I was a virgin and had been waiting for marriage. No matter how well the dates went, I’d never hear back from them. However, Catholic women for some reason were far more receptive and willing to sit down and discuss the topic and did not cut off all communication…still not sure why that is? I will probably start dating soon and like I mentioned before, I can now go both ways on waiting. However, if the women I am dating is a waiter and wants to ONLY kiss, there is no way in hell that will be happening. I have an abnormally high sex drive and that would be hell for me to just stop at kissing…That would be like taking a recovering alcoholic to a free wine tasting lol. so she will be getting handshakes and high fives at the end of the night. If I was dating, DEFINITELY NO! It will have the opposite effect and make the relationship way more difficult. Having an extremely high drive clouds my thinking and judgement…It’s like being under the influence of a drug or alcohol. Having sex allows me to think clearly and level headed. I will not have the enormous distraction of trying to suppress the innate, biological drive to have sex. Ohhh gosh this question is what terrifies me about waiting. I don’t want my sex drive to have any influence on the most important decision of my life. It’s like that saying…Never make a decision when you’re angry...That’s because you don’t want your emotions to cloud your judgement when making critical decisions that require logic. My problem is I can’t lessen my drive and there are times when I just wish I could turn it off. When I was younger, I saw a few of my friends rush into marriage because they really needed to have sex and ended up marrying the wrong person. They even did pre-marriage counseling but in the end, they still got divorced. No. While I am mostly guessing on this part…I think some of sexual compatibility can be determined by talking about your ideas, views and expectations. You just have to be totally honest about everything when having this discussion and leave nothing out. I think this will give you a good idea of compatibility but by no means is it a guarantee. Sexual satisfaction would be the issue I would be more concerned about…Not necessarily my satisfaction because I’m super easy to please…But rather my hypothetical wife’s satisfaction because women can be a lot more difficult to sexually satisfy. I used to have a lot of female friends and coworkers and to my surprise, an alarming number of them were open about frequently cheating on their male counterparts or were very sexually frustrated but did not cheat. They often complained about how their partner met their emotional needs but was unable to satisfy their sexual needs…No matter how much they loved the guy, it just wasn’t enough. If I was going to marry a non-virgin waiter, it is important I meet her criteria/preferences for sexual satisfaction….If I do, then awesome! I have nothing to worry about…If I do not fit her criteria for satisfaction, then I also have nothing to worry about. I would simply move on and continue to looking for someone else. For me one major benefit I like in a non-virgin is the fact she knows her body and mind in a sexual capacity. She will know exactly what she needs from a man to be sexually satisfied. I would hate marrying a virgin and then find out later on in our marriage that I am not what she needs to experience true sexual satisfaction...And for the people that say stuff like..."She won't know what she's missing....bla bla bla" You have to be selfish as F*&! to think that way. Anyway, fortunately most women in the age range I would date are not virgins…so that massive unknown would be unlikely for me.
  11. So.....

    @Jasmine23 Same here. I made mine just for this site but that's also because my yahoo account was not receiving the confirmation email.
  12. A woman's voice

    Ummm lol you should probably be cautious of guys that like prepubescent traits...they are probably
  13. So.....

    I'm not sure if this post will go through...Myself and many other members have been unable to send, receive or post content...Many of us are on the Discord Server @Skald created. Here are the links to the server and the original post:
  14. Net Neutrality.

    I agree. That is why I suggested someone start a new thread where we all list our email addresses in case the site crashes lol: Now as someone who watches network news almost everyday, I feel like I should know what everyone is talking about regarding "net neutrality and congress" but I have no clue on this one... What is going on?
  15. There are some awesome women on this site. Have you tried to pursue them?