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    Abstention from Obscenity (Phil 4:8, Psalm 101:3, Prov 4:23);

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  1. You reminded me of a section of the Sermon on the Mount, which happens to be one of my favorite parts of the Bible. "Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth: But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also. And if any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloak also. And whosoever shall compel thee to go a mile, go with him twain. Give to him that asketh thee, and from him that would borrow of thee turn not thou away. Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy. But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust. For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same? And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? do not even the publicans so? Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect." - Matthew 5:38-48 (KJV)
  2. How to deal with rape

    I completely agree with everything you said here. This has always been how I view those terms, as well as what I value and look for in a partner. It's very refreshing to see someone else find significance in one's mindset, which is often overlooked even by waiters in favor of the physical side. My interpretation of Christ's teachings and of the Bible in this regard are of the importance of the internal environment, the heart of an individual, rather than only external, law abiding legalism. I believe Jesus' teachings make this clear with comparisons such as hate to murder and looking upon a woman with lust as adultery. "Everyone who hates his brother is a murderer; and you know that no murderer has eternal life abiding in him." - 1 John 3:15 (NASB) “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery’; but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart." - Matthew 5:27-28 (NASB) About the thread as a whole, I'm not sure I have anything new to add which anyone hasn't already covered, but perhaps you could try focusing on your own shortcomings pertaining to sexuality, which she has to come to terms with. Realize she has to bear with your own sins. Have you discussed the "PMO" issue with her? Does anything from your past hurt her feelings or make her uncomfortable? None of this is to criticize you whatsoever, but just to see if you can possibly shift your perspective. I'm not even sure these verses are applicable here (in which case I am very sorry for imposing), and any "speck in her eye" will be nonexistent if she was raped, but I thought maybe they could still be helpful in examining yourself: "Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Brother, let me take out the speck that is in your eye,’ when you yourself do not see the log that is in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take out the speck that is in your brother’s eye. " - Luke 6:41-42 (NASB) "Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how [a]can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ and behold, the log is in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye." - Matthew 7:3-5 (NASB) I believe you are making a sincere effort on her behalf trying to resolve negative feelings about what happened. I think it was considerate of you to deal with them separate from her as well, and to seek outside help so your struggle would be less of a direct burden on her. Truly, I hope it goes well for both of you.
  3. Net Neutrality.

    @seabutterfly You're welcome! I think the biggest threat to the future of this site is potential neglect by the owner if what happened to the chat room is any indicator. My internet has been miserable recently though. It crashed and made posting this take over ten minutes.
  4. Net Neutrality.

    I am very happy you found the forum, seabutterfly! You are an integral part of it. Yes, unfortunately companies have proven corrupt in the past, at least with blocking competing products or services. Let's hope public awareness is a deterrent for repeating any of those misdeeds. I doubt it will affect any site like this which has little traffic to begin with in addition to almost no consumer or political influence.
  5. I don't think it's socially impossible for someone (or you ) to find a girlfriend. There are all kinds of women to match all kinds of men. Some of the happiest and most stable married couples I know are a bit "quirky" but somehow they found the right person for them. Don't give up, DHZ; she could be right around the corner!
  6. Random Thoughts

    @StarGate SG1 Thanks for the turtle update and food recommendation! Though I personally prefer a hard shell. I looked up the company and they have very amusing names for their products. Companies have come a long way in making them taste good! At least it seems to have become a lot more mainstream since the quality improved.
  7. Set Apart Girl Conference 2017 ! I was there ! :D

    Since certain members have recently expressed interest in Bible scripture support, I thought I would share this internet page on home schooling: "Is homeschooling biblical?" By Dr. Brian D. Ray https://carm.org/is-homeschooling-biblical
  8. @Invincible Thank you, Vince! But now we'll never know the connection between church attendance and feminism. Seriously though, I don't appreciate that he's leaving instead of responding politely, answering questions, and providing scripture to support his opinion. It just proves everything Vince just said about him is true.
  9. I'm back :)

    @Geraldine Welcome back! You have been missed! I know I'm probably repeating myself at this point but the forum doesn't seem right without you.
  10. I respect your opinion, but I don't agree with it or appreciate the manner in which you write. I also respect the other posters and have not noticed any begging, whining, or "feminism" related content. What does church attendance have to do with feminism? And when you say you're going to break it down for me and your generation, it sounds like you're elevating yourself to an undeserved level of authority. Once again, you're insulting other posters but have veiled it. You want respect for your opinion but it's evident you do not respect the opinions of others. I shall say no more on that. The reason my post gave a semblance of "nuh uh" is simply because I disagreed with you. It was a dissenting opinion. I don't think church absence is a red flag. I thought your post was quite irrelevant to the topic of this thread because many of the people I know who are most familiar with the Bible, who have the most Christ-centered conversations, and deeply live for and adhere to Christ are intriguingly not regular church attenders. Those are clearly not qualities that come from church attendance alone. The only plausible point I saw in your post was that not attending church is not seeking the presence of the Lord. Predictably, I partially disagree with this too. Unfortunately the nature of what you said, though perhaps unintended, does reflect on other posters because you didn't state it as a personal preference but more than that. About mentioning others, I thought I was merely stating the obvious in a relevant way to your post rather than "feigning a defense" or speaking others' thoughts/feelings. I am very sorry if I made anyone uncomfortable. I also don't mean to inadvertently drag anyone else into this. You keep repeating on the forum that you're from a "completely different faith." What precisely makes your faith different? I was merely referring to the length of time you have been a Christian and devoted to Bible study, not about family or experience. I'm aware of the scripture on this topic and it seems the key is meeting with fellow Christians to discuss God. If this is how you define "church" then perhaps we're in agreement. But I'm not looking for your spiritual or personal support, nor do I expect to receive it.
  11. Then why did you leave a trace instead of deleting or not posting anything to begin with? Not attending church does not mean you don't know the Bible, are dead in the faith, don't seek the Lord's presence or love the Lord, can't answer questions or explain doctrine, aren't cognizant of Christian or personal values, don't have Christ as your first priority or mention faith in conversation, nor does it signify a woman is not marriage material. The greatest evidence is already in this thread: three wonderful Christian women, whom any man would be lucky to marry, have already stated they don't currently attend church regularly for their own valid reasons. Not to mention most church attendees fail in the aforementioned ways anyway... Also, I'd have different expectations of knowledge for someone who is new to the Christian faith and had no prior guidance. Their lack of knowledge is not their fault. It does not mean Christ isn't most important to them or that they don't know what they value, only they've had less time to learn. Don't assume everyone had the advantages you had growing up. “Whenever you feel like criticizing any one...just remember that all the people in this world haven't had the advantages that you've had.”- F. Scott Fitzgerald
  12. Random Thoughts

    Thank you. I know! Though I've only seen two adult snapping turtles outside of captivity and one of them was enormous! It must have been my age. The mother of this clutch was small in comparison to that moving boulder. Turtles are surprisingly adept at hibernation for surviving the winter. I know some hatchlings go straight into hibernation immediately after hatching by burying themselves in the bottom of a shallow pond or marshy area. There is significantly less temperature fluctuation compared to the surface. For this reason, I'd be more worried about taking one from its habitat than leaving it in cool weather. It does seem a little late in the season for such a small turtle but then again snapping turtle eggs can survive winter and hatch the following year. That's too bad it was dry. It probably still would have found water because even the little ones are excellent travelers. One thing I've learned is to never underestimate turtles; they're quite hardy. I was surprised they even dug out of that deep hole in the ground, haha. Hehe. I know you would never do something like that! I honestly think it would be safe to release into its natural habitat even while it's a baby, but handing it over to the conservation experts will give it the best chance. I expect they would provide a good meal before releasing it in the most ideal location. It might be more likely to survive outside and would definitely have a higher quality of life in the wild. They make poor pets and mimicking their natural habitat and diverse diet is challenging. Hah! We're already overrun by turtles! We spotted a box turtle eating an apple this morning.
  13. Random Thoughts

    @StarGate SG1 Aww, what a cutie! Your little friend reminds me of the baby snapping turtles that hatched this past summer near my home. We even saw the eggs being laid in spring by mother snapasaurus. Here are some pictures of three of them, though they're covered in mud. This is where they hatched and dug out, then headed for a close pond. You can barely see an egg fragment at the bottom of the deep hole. Where did you find your turtle? What did you do with it?
  14. Hi :) I'm new here

    Hi Haydee. Welcome to the forum!
  15. Hi, recently joined

    Hi Donna. Welcome to the forum! I look forward to reading any posts you decide to make.