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About HeWhoWaits

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    Good friends, good food, basketball, football, tennis, hiking, music, playing chess, languages, movies, reading a good book, traveling, laughing so hard you can't breathe and a quiet, peaceful dose of alone time every now and then.

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  1. Tattoos

    I love the look of a woman's skin. I hate tattoos, ruins the beauty of her skin. Horribly unattractive to me personally. I wish this 20 year fad would pass already. I hate how permanent they are. They can never be taken off ever, hair you can change, it can grow out, clothes, you can alter your dress style and go through phases, jewelry you can put on and then take off but a tattoo can never go away, it is a manmade ink scar of pictures or words that will always be there. You never get to change your mind and take it off after five years. Get one at 18 you've still got it at 70. If I didn't think women's skin was so hot I guess I wouldn't cringe as strongly when they purposely screw it up with some permanent ink scar. Print it on paper and frame it I may think it is a pretty design. Auto detail it and stick it on your car, it might be cool, Forever scare it into your own flesh and I'll always hate it and think you've ruined you God given beauty.
  2. Didn't Tom Hanks already deal with this in Castaway? Cop out answer...I have no idea. I'd probably have to go and talk to my church and have some real heart to hearts with the pastor on what to do. Legally what is the case? Is my second marriage immediately moot once it becomes evident my first marriage was still in tact? Either way it would be an awful situation.
  3. I've always known since childhood. It wasn't until I got older I realized that sex within marriage wasn't the normal, routine thing to do.
  4. Long Engagements

    It depends on how long the couple dated before the engagement. If the dating period was short than a longer engagement may be appropriate. If the couple has been dating for two years and then has a really long engagement....it probably just means they are already having sex so things aren't as urgent.
  5. What are you reading?

    How did you enjoy the ending?
  6. What are you reading?

    I'm currently reading 3 books. The Dead Student (John Katzenbach), Wuthering Heights (Emily Brontë) and A Dog's Way Home (W.Bruce Cameron).
  7. The post was would you "date" someone with children. If the answer is no than you wouldn't be spending the time with each other to even fall in love, so this entire "love" angle seems a little moot. It seems this debate that is beginning about whether or not you'd fall in love with someone with kids or if you could "choose" not to seems moot. If you choose not to date them than that kind of nips things in the bud. It would take a set of very special circumstances to spend great amounts of time with someone you've chosen not to date and chosen NOT to spend that time of time with. Someone who would date them could spend enough time with that person to get to know them well enough to fall in love. This wouldn't really apply to those who would not date them at all.
  8. sovereignty of God vs human dominion

    I would say that much of life is all about our own actions, our own will and our own struggles. I would say God tends to keep the overall macro, big, big things moving in the direction he wants but I don't think God really micromanages each person's day to day lives. Much of life is what we make of it. We get to choose and I think that is how God wants it. In essence, we are being tested, tested to see if we'll choose to do what pleases God or choose not to (we have the scriptures as a guide to show us wisdom and how best to live life). Now a person who is very disciplined in prayer and seeks God daily will have much more access to God's involvement in their life but still much is up to us. Even when God "guides" a person, it is usually done by very subtle tweaks and in my experience he directs and guides those who do not have fear and take action and begin to "do", they make decisions, they take risks and "live" life. They may pray and ask for guidance and ask for God's will to be done but in my opinion, he directs those who set their boat afloat and get it moving down the river. They step out in faith, then God will offer those little course corrections from time to time. I don't believe God will do that much or offer a lot of guidance for those that just sit paralyzed, doing nothing, just "waiting" for a word from God before they do anything. Even the parable about the talents "For to the one who has, more will be given, and he will have an abundance, but from the one who has not, even what he has will be taken away." seems to display a sense of free will to exercise our talents and work and strive or the freedom to hide our talents in fear and not use them (use it or lose it, atrophy vs. exercise and growth). Someone mentioned "predestination" earlier. I've always known people that struggled with that concept. I've never had the slightest question about it. It makes perfect sense and I have no confusion over it. God knows everything, he knows everything that will ever happen, but just knowing it doesn't mean we still aren't choosing freely. We have free will, we choose freely, he just knows what we will do.
  9. I'm curious if your new avatar symbol has a particular meaning?

    1. 'tis the Bearded One

      'tis the Bearded One

      Is it a this is sparta stickman? haha


    2. HeWhoWaits


      It is the logo to the group Twenty One Pilots.

    3. 'tis the Bearded One
  10. How do you know if he/she is the one?

    Sometimes, you just know:
  11. Fiance vs Father

    Hard to judge. We don't have any way to know if the conversation was something that should just be between you and your father or if it is something that should be said to your fiancé. Also, I don't have any way to know how respectful and polite your fiancé was via his text or whether he was snarky and disrespectful. My default opinion, not knowing enough of the details to really go any further is to say that confidential conversations should stay confidential. Lastly, at this point he is just a guy you are dating (as I don't know how well the father knows him...you aren't married, you just intend to marry at this point). He ISN'T your father's "son" (in-law) so I'm not sure (not knowing details) how pushy and confrontational this is to have some guy get preachy about what he does and does not talk to his own daughter about. Without knowing all the relationships and how close everyone is with each other, all I can hypothesize about is that your father is close with YOU and has a deep relationship with YOU, hence I don't know how appropriate or out of bounds this was for some guy he may or may not be close to, to come confront him out of the blue about what he can and can't talk about with his own daughter. If they air isn't cleared and the situation diffused a long-long riff may have just formed between all three of you.
  12. I can't say that this situation or premise holds true at my church. First it is a large church and the college aged, early 20's singles class that I go to in the church is pretty big. What you speak of doesn't occur. Men and women all interact, are friends, hang out. The activities via this group are replete and there is always tons to do and a lot going on and the men and women are always interacting with each other. I've been dating a woman from this class and there was never any "isolation" to have to break through.
  13. Can't enjoy novels anymore

    Have you read the 7 Narnia books by C.S. Lewis. They are young adult novels but there is only adventure, not really any romance.
  14. Can't enjoy novels anymore

    I cannot relate in any way at all. I love to read and I read all the time. What you speak of, however, I have no experience with. These young "romance" novels. I've never read a one. I read lots of classics, and history and spy novels like Vince Flynn, Tom Clancy, fantasy/horror like Stephen King and Dean Koontz, criminal and suspense like John Katzenbach, Harlan Coben and Lee Child. Occasionally the characters have relations but they are all grown adult characters. Some of the classics dealt with Romance like Pride and Prejudice or Jane Eyre but that was in the Victorian age and the novels weren't "sexual", most involved were virgins or they didn't discuss histories. Mr. Rochester was an older man and had a history. I've not read too many YA novels. I've read the three Hunger Games novels and Paper Towns and The Age of Miracles but those didn't really have any sex in them. A character in Paper Towns had a past but was not that kind of novel. Miracles had none at all, I think the characters were like middle school age. I love to read, I'm not familiar with this YA novel trend that has ruined things for you. I hope you don't give it up. Try some different kinds of novels.
  15. How old are you?

    Awesome! The first to get it. You are correct.