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    Hobbies: I like cooking, baking, makeup, gardening, and CARTOONS!!!!!

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    I'm a computer science major and can't wait to graduate because I hate studying. Lol

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  1. Can't enjoy novels anymore

    No I havent. I watched some of the movie as a kid, but I got bored and didn't like it, so I thought it just wasn't my cup of tea. I was just a kid though and I did do the same thing with star wars, Jurassic park, and the dark knight, lol .
  2. Can't enjoy novels anymore

    Yeah, I used the wrong wording . I don't think it's something you should have to grow out of. I guess I meant that my taste hasn't changed over the years and more so since I decided to wait (and got more serious/ defensive about it). Like I said, I enjoy them for what they are and wanted to keep reading them, but I was conflicted about those relationship stereotypes.
  3. Can't enjoy novels anymore

    Thanks. I know I can't let this stop me from reading in general. I'm reading more classics and some philosophy, but I've been reading YA novels for a while and I haven't grown out of them. I don't mind cliches or lack of sophistication or anything like that. I like them for what they are. I just get uncomfortable with that particular aspect.
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    I also don't want to marry a non-waiter. I don't think there is anything wrong with it, but I have struggled (not with waiting itself, but dealing with haters) and I don't want to be with someone who gets to have their cake and eat it too, while went through various issues and chose to stick it out anyway. I probably will end up having to settle though. I'm not knocking anyone who decides to wait after having sex already. I commend them, and admire their decision. But I think that's different from those promiscous men who feel entitled to a virgin bride. So anyway, I don't like that the guy gets to have any girl he can get his hands on, and then gets the protagonist who's had to wait patiently for "the one" until he decides to show up. That's not romantic at all. But other people don't see it that way. I think it contradicts the whole idea of a fantasy romance novel. If these people are supposed to be "destined" to be together, why has one never had a boyfriend and the other has been around the block a few times. It seems off, and makes it obvious how we see the ideal relationship in real life. Unfortunatley, I actually like romance, lol. So I'm very conflicted.
  5. Can't enjoy novels anymore

    That's eactly what it is. I guess they're trying to appeal to us lonely, "good" girls who aren't getting any play, and burying ourselves in books like these, lol (I'm stereotyping of course). My issue is not that they're trying to bring fantasies to life, so to speak. My problem is, I can't relate to wanting the guy who's been with everyone. Another issue is them pushing the idea that this is what girls should want and that if a guy tells you "none of those other girls matter", that should be enough to win your heart. In real life, lines like these only lead to you being the next on his long list of women and eventually getting hurt and/ or being left in the dust (yes I'm generalizing, and no I don't care about anyone's personal love story.)
  6. Can't enjoy novels anymore

    Never mind, those topics are closed. Well, the first series is called Elemental Enmity by Christie rich (Didn't read the last one, so hopefully she didn't change her mind by then) The next one is called Angelic by L.P. Swalheim. She actually did continue the series, yay! Just a disclaimer, you have to be into this kind of genre, WTM or not. It is for young people and if you prefer the works of Shakespeare and John Dunn, or are more on the conservative side in general you might not see these as literary works of art, lol. Although, I think the writing is good.
  7. Can't enjoy novels anymore

    @redgrapes, I'll add it to the list, and thank you @Geraldine, I'll check them out.
  8. Can't enjoy novels anymore

    Thank you for the suggestions. I am actually beginning to read more classic novels, but more for knowledge that enjoyment. I've only finished The Mysteries of Udulpho by Ann Radcliffe, and I did enjoy it, but it could be slow or not as exciting at times. I think I'll continue to read them. Not sure if I should take my chances with current novels. I did read a series where the protagonist was waiting which was like for me. Then there was one where the guy told the girl he was waiting (he was an angel), but the series stopped at that one book. I guess I got so used to getting lucky or having a book where there's some marriage like bonding event that happens, and the male's sexual past is not mentioned. I got comfortable, and then when I continued to read other books I was shocked at how different it was. Do you think that these past (literally) couple of years has changed the way these YA novels will be written in terms of sex? Now, part of being a strong female character must include being sexually "free" (you know what I mean. In their eyes.) and experienced. Which adds another issue for me besides having the male be a reformed *** (lol).
  9. Can't enjoy novels anymore

    Lol, I like romance. I guess I can't complain. It comes with the territory, I suppose. Their idea of romance might not be the same as mine. I agree about feeling alienated. It can be lonely. Now, that I'm thinking about my future more, I'm not sure of how I'm going to find another waiter. Starting to worry.
  10. Can't enjoy novels anymore

    It's sad but I think the church is afraid of losing members. People are saying that the church is too judgmental and that's why they are leaving, but I'm not buying it. They just don't want to go. Now churches are relaxing their teaching to bring people back. Whether anyone agrees with Christian (or any religion's) teachings, the fact of the matter is a church is an organization, and every organization has rules. It's silly that they feel they need to relax them so much, in order to make people feel good about themselves. Anyway, that's my take on it.
  11. Hey guys, So I used to be a pretty avid reader. I always loved YA fantasy novels, and being engrossed in a good one just made me feel good. I could read a vampire or faerie story a million times and never get tired of it. That's actually why my name is Faeries. Anyway, I stopped reading a while ago, because these books are starting to bother me in the romance department. One thing that's common in these kinds of books is that there is usually some form of deep bonding (similar to marriage) before any sex happens, so I'm fine with that. It's usually meaningful and that's all that matters to me. Anything else and I just don't read it. However, I started noticing a theme that just makes my skin crawl. The girl will be a virgin, and the guy has been with tons of women. But now that he's met her, he wishes he'd never been with anyone else. I don't find this attractive in the least and when I read it, I just role my eyes in disgust. I don't want to put anyone down, who's relationship is actually like this, I mean no harm, I just don't like reading it all the time. I know the mainstream find a man with a lot of experience more manly/ attractive, but I don't like that it's being pushed in books geared towards younger people. I think it's better to just not mention it at all, if they don't want to take any "masculinity" away from the guy. It actually puts me in a crappy mood when I encounter certain "themes" and have to put the book down, which is why I stopped altogether. To be honest, this is part of a bigger problem, which is that I have a hard to accepting that I live in a non-WTM world. I never expected everyone to WTM, but I've dealt with a lot because there are so few of us. So I've become embittered towards anything that makes me feel like we're being put down. Other people can just say "that's not my cup of tea" and move on, but for me, in the same situation, I take it personally. Anyway, I'm writing this post because I really want to start reading again. I'm feeling the pull to start another book, but I don't want to be disappointed. Should I give some books a try and just learn how to not take it personally if it's not what I like? I don't want to be halfway through the book and have to stop reading it, and I know I can't continue, simply because my interest isn't sparked anymore.
  12. Hey, don't say that. That makes me sad to read. Reading these sort of comments from men can be a real downer, and I've been having the same worries as you about finding a waiter. I do not want to marry a non-waiter. I would always feel insecure and cheated almost. I know that sounds crazy but I don't think it's fair (for me). I feel like I deserve someone who actually understands me in that regard, and I could never imagine being with someone who I know has shared those same experiences with other women. I would probably be okay if he was not waiting originally, but still a virgin. But I do believe it is possible for a non-waiter to wait happily with you if 1.) he truly loves you, and 2.) he now believes that waiting is the right thing to do for whatever reason (besides loving you). Anyway, I couldn't imagine having sex with someone I'm upset with. I would feel disgusted. I don't understand why that is so hard to comprehend. I would never do it just to get what I want. And I would expect that if my husband was upset with me, he wouldn't want to have sex with me either. I guess I was wrong about that though. I suppose I have to get used to it, but there is something about this that gives me the creeps .
  13. I'm really worried

    You should probably look at the website of the place you're thinking of getting it done (or call), or just do a google search. Actually, the website you linked too says there is no downtime. Good Luck!
  14. No "wedding dress" for your wedding??!

    Your dress sounds like it will be beautiful. I like the idea of wearing my dress again at my 10th, 20th, and 30th anniversaries, as we may have a family party for these milestone anniversaries. I would have it altered each time to have a different shape/ style as I age.
  15. Happy New Year!!! 2017

    Happy New Year everyone!!! Any new years resolutions?