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  1. I think before you even begin to start looking for another girlfriend you need to sort yourself out. Just as the passage about the whole armor of God talks about the breastplate of righteousness, righteous living can help protect you from many maladies. I think you need to contemplate where the chain of events started that led you to committing fornication so that you can prevent that from happening again. I don't mean to sound harsh, but truly waiting and applying proper principles would have saved you all of these headaches. There is nothing wrong in desiring a virgin per se. However, since you are no longer one (and not the result of being married and then widowed either) you can't hold your own rule against someone else if you've broken it yourself. Now, I'm certainly not recommending that you seek out someone that is promiscuous or is still engaging in fornication. But you really can't look down on someone else who is in a similar position as yourself. If you have truly recommitted yourself and a prospective non-virgin girlfriend has as well then you really can't look down on them. I think you really need to come to terms with things and sort yourself out before trying to start a new relationship. I'll grant you that this ex-girlfriend sounds like a horribly wicked person. But ultimately you are the one responsible for losing your virginity to her. It doesn't matter if she was a virgin or not or if she lied about being one. You have to take responsibility for your actions. Maybe I'm interpreting your post incorrectly, but it seems like you are assigning her some blame for you losing your virginity because she lied about hers. Would it make it okay for you to lose your virginity to her if she really had been one? Of course not! Whether someone is or is not, you must still wait till marriage. If you had exercised the right principles, you may have even ended the relationship yourself, or at least she may have left you in frustration since you wouldn't have been 'putting out'. I don't mean to sound harsh, but I think you really need to examine this experience and really think about what mistakes you made that set you up for such a fall. You lost your virginity, but it still isn't too late to wait.
  2. How is this Site STILL standing?

    When was the last time anyone heard anything from Mike?
  3. I don't think robbyfine's sponsor will be pleased with their negative endorsement there . I didn't realize that we still have at least one bot operating on here.
  4. How is this Site STILL standing?

    Can new people not join the site anymore? It looks like the last people to sign up were back in April 2018.
  5. I would think that most wtm guys wouldn't be going to late night parties in the first place, especially not if it was an unwholesome sort of party. As it is said, nothing good happens after midnight/1am/2am/etc. I'm assuming the original question wasn't referring to a late night party that was for a more benign occasion.
  6. How is this Site STILL standing?

    It's good to see you Francois, but I think that is an awful idea. It may not be very active on here right now, but there will probably still be a few who join in the future (or who are already members) who get something meaningful or insightful from being able to exchange ideas or messages here. Even if the site is very quiet, I'm still glad to know it's still here.
  7. How is this Site STILL standing?

    I was hoping that Mike would turn over the website to you. You've always been on the ball with the admin duties.
  8. How is this Site STILL standing?

    I think those that are still active on the site have been using one of the discord accounts that was set up. I miss having the chat room on the website. Fortunately, the website is still working (minus a few things like the chat room). I think it was about a year or so ago when it started having all these glitches and it seemed that it was about to crash. Is there any chance that you could take over management here Vince?
  9. Hello everyone! I came upon an interesting idea a while ago when reading. The idea was that due to demands and expectations in the present world, the chance of people waiting till marriage has been greatly reduced. For instance, in the past, people would likely marry at a younger age like right after high school or such. They would be told that they have to wait till marriage, but they would be encouraged towards marriage and marriage was something well within sight even before their 20's. However today, at least for a number of people in families that teach WTM, they have extra demands placed upon them. They not only have to wait, but they have to wait to get married till they fulfill a series of criteria: finish school, get a high paying career, etc. It seems that some people then view waiting till marriage as being near impossible as the possibility of marriage itself seems like a long ways off. What are your thoughts?
  10. Hello, newbie here!

    welcome to the forum
  11. Just joined

    welcome to the forum
  12. I don't think we met before, but welcome back
  13. The website?

    Hmmm... It is working on my end. Maybe it was just a temporary situation? Although not everything on the page is accurate -there is still that "Group Chat" banner at the top right of the page. There hasn't been a scheduled group chat since before I joined the site. And sadly the official chat room has been down for nearly a year. At least there is the discord page though.
  14. Random Thoughts

    Happy Valentine's Day!
  15. Looking for a wife to be

    Welcome to the forum. You could find a wife here perhaps, but it isn't the sole purpose of the website
  16. personal introduction

    Welcome to the forum
  17. I am new here from Ghana

    Welcome to the forum
  18. 2MetresAbove is is here!

    Welcome to the forum. 27 ?- Don't despair, there is still plenty of time to find a wife!
  19. Total Lunar Eclipse

    For those of you on the West Coast don't miss this:
  20. Net Neutrality.

    Net neutrality wasn't enacted until February 2015. I don't think anyone noticed anything different from before then till now. This website existed before that as well. In other words, net neutrality was only official policy for less than 3 years. 2014 was not the dark ages, now will tomorrow be either.
  21. Esperando la fortuna real

    Welcome to the forum
  22. Hi Everyone

    Welcome to the forum
  23. Net Neutrality.

    " This site has given me so much, I came here because of one really bad night with depression. As soon as I found the forums I instantly felt elated. I felt like I could love myself again. So thank you to everyone I have interacted with, remember that you matter. Even if we never even talked thank you, because at one point I probably read a post or stalked your page because I was bored. Or maybe I didn't even do that, but your sheer existence enabled a community to stay alive and grow so that I could one day find it. I pray for you guys a lot, and that won't stop whether or not net neutrality is repealed or not. Love you all " -That's very sweet of you! But don't worry about the net neutrality issue. The 'worst' likely thing that might come out of its repeal is maybe having to pay a little bit more for a video streaming subscription if you have such.
  24. Don't be worried at all about not having had a boyfriend before. I'm sure that any guy who is interested in marriage would find that as very appealing. If a guy didn't like that, then I think they probably have impure motives. I'm not Catholic so I cannot vouch for the Catholic Match website. However, I know that on, there are questions that you can answer about waiting till marriage, etc. That way you can instantly 'eliminate' those who do not share your values. I think a website with questions like that is much better than other types. I have seen on a religious dating site where people would say how they love God and church so much, etc. However, I would see their profile on and see that they were not waiting till marriage at all. I don't think you should list not having had any boyfriends on a dating page profile though (you might get responses from a lot of guys who just think that you are desperate ), but certainly don't hesitate to talk about it if it came up in conversation.